I read my title above and wondered if there's such a thing as a "good breakup".I seriously doubt it, not when there were emotions and love and memories and feelings and dreams and all that. Days ago my friend sent me a picture and the minute I opened it I knew I had to call her, and I knew that when she answered she would be crying. And just as expected, she was. It was not simple tears or mild sobs, but crying that comes from the depth of one's soul, she cried from the pit of her belly and everytime she tried to talk her voice would shake.
My heart broke a little. I could imagine the pain of watching the love of your life wed someone else. The love of your life whom you're deeply in love with and who's probably still in love with you. Five years or more together and suddenly they have to walk away because their family is against having you in it. So when I saw the picture of the love of her life and his bride whom he met barely months ago, I knew my friend would be in intense pain. Unfortunately, when you've been with someone for that long you both inevitably have several mutual friends. There was therefore no escaping the onslaught of his wedding pictures from bbm/whatsapp DPs and social media walls. She had to watch picture by picture as the man she loves gave himself to another.
Ever since that day her profile pictures have been one sad quote or the other, earlier today it was something about how the best thing you can do for someone in pain is to hold them tight and give them a big hug. The picture above is the second profile picture she's putting up today. I'm not a fan of putting up such pieces on one's public display pictures, but I can't even talk because if it's going to help her in any way, then by all means she should put up a thousand of these.
I keep calling to check on her but my calls certainly make no difference. What do you say to someone suffering a terrible heartbreak to make them feel better? And so many people right now are dealing with this. If I got a N1000 everytime someone called me crying because of heartbreak or a breakup, I'd be well on my way to wealth by now!
And so I'm wondering about it guys, have you ever suffered a heartbreak? How long did it take you to move on? And for those who haven't yet moved on, why is it so difficult for you?
I've had my fair share of heartbreaks and what usually helps me is talking about it with people who care. Talking about my issues generally makes me feel better, so it's only natural, I guess. But what really helps me heal is prayers. That's still talking, but this time around its talking to God. I find that when I pray about it, the pain doesn't leave instantly but slowly I begin to feel hopeful and maybe even happy. To quicken the misery, I delete their numbers, pictures and everything that could remind me of them. I avoid places we visited together and mutual friends we have/had, and I watch a lot of comedy. I spend hours watching reruns of Big Bang Theory and 2 Broke Girls or just about anything that makes me laugh, and avoid every romance movie or romcoms like the plague! LOL.
So what works for you? Have you ever dealt with heartbreak? What was yours life and what helped/helps you recovers?
Ps, for those wondering about my own "romantic situation" the boo came around and all's swell and dandy. Yay! Oh, I must thank all of you o! LOL. I think the Post helped but I think what did the magic was realizing that his feelings still run deep and that's there's good in me.
I'm working on myself and I'm determined to be better, not solely because of this relationship but because I've still got very many years to live and I don't want to spend them apologizing for my failings or hurting others...