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Saturday, 13 August 2016

Ruby Diamond: Today, Tomorrow... (Summer).




Holla!!!

 

It's Ruby again (In D'Banjs voice) and I want to share my thoughts. If you're about to ask why I can't use my voice, it's because it's hoarse from correcting, screaming along, playing, crying and doing all possible with the most important people in my life currently. 

 

So I believed I had too much time on my hands and I decided to volunteer at a two weeks summer school. I can't explain my love for babies and I was put in charge of 1 to 2yrs old. I have seven of them in my care and... Whew!

I'm writing because my experience in the last 5days got me thinking if our personalities are formed as children, influenced by our environment and nationality.

 

Let's meet my children. 

 

I have:

• K. who may grow to be a narcisstic, Notice-me Princess who also has a mind of her own with a violent nature.
• T. an extremely jealous wife who loves attention, with a mind of her own. She doesn't understand diplomacy. She's also used to getting whatever she wants.
• C. who may grow to be a loner and later be depressed. She's easily bullied and it makes me worried too. Amazingly, she's a defender of the universe. She can fight for people but she can't for herself. C. and T. are either sisters or cousins. They live together.
• L. who may also grow to be a loner because she enjoys her own company too much. She listens much and puts into action what she has heard if she feels like it. She also has a mind of her own and comes off as uptight. She will grow to be a good singer. That I'm sure of.
*Her parents are popular singers in town too.
• P. He's just a daddy boy. I have nothing more to say about him. Annoyingly, his dad is always at summer school with him.
• N. She may just be a charismatic leader as everyone decide to start suckling on their fingers the very minute she joined. The fact that she's also a clingy person leaves me surprised. 
• A. I call him "my gee" he's going to be the ladies man who I feel will be faithful to whoever he's "stuck" with. He's also a happy child and may continue being happy. His parents are extreme fans of PDA and he's picked that up. He shows love by constant calling of object of affection name, pecking e.t.c. He'll also stay with you if he likes you no matter how long he has to suffer.
 
How dare I forget S.? She's older.. say 5years and she's not in my care. During meet up on Monday, there was an argument and she said "I'll cut your neck". S. is from a troubled Arabian country.
 
I'm not putting anyone in a box but I think I'm convinced and coming to the conclusion that who we are today is who we were yesterday. No changes!!!
Okporoko no dey bend. E go break.
Agreed???


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LOL, I totally agree. People's personalities are formed before we even begin to walk. But isn't this where the Nature vs Nurture debate comes in? Are we really all today, who we were yesterday (Nature)? Does Nurture (environment, education, upbringing etc) play no role? What do you think?
Tell me guys, when you think about yourself as you are today, which do you think (predominantly) shaped you; nature or nurture? 
Funny enough I lean towards Ruby Diamond's position; I'm 95% nature. 
You? 

16 comments:

  1. Hey, I think i quite agree with you on the Nature vs Nurture philosophy because who we are today is a product of who we are yesterday because like the old saying goes, people never change.

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  2. I don't entirely agree with you. I think nature has a part to play but you cannot totally exclude the importance of nurture. don't entirely agree with you. I think nature has a part to play but you cannot totally exclude the importance of nurture.

    I used to be a little like L and C, the quiet loner who didn't speak up for herself and didn't know what it meant to be sociable. I haven't changed entirely, my "loner" side is still very much alive as I'd rather be alone at home with a good movie/book than with other pple but I also learnt to speak up for myself and worked up an intolerance for bullies.

    I used to be really really shy but now, I can walk up to almost anyone and start up a conversation. I'd be the first to break the ice in an uncomfortable silence with something funny/silly. How did these parts of me change? Nurture. I read, I worked and stayed in environments that taught me better, made me see things better and didn't pamper my weaknesses.

    So yes, as much as nature forms some parts of us, we cannot completely rule out the large influence the environment, school, caliber/quality of friends and the society at large has in shaping our lives and behavior.

    I hope with these few points of mine....

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    1. I have convinced and not confused you that nurture trumps nature as the greater influencing factor in determining the outcome of one's life. Couldn't have said it any better. I also lean towards nurture. Chrisyinks

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    2. I couldn't have said more with what you wrote. Spot on.

      Nature yes...but nuture helps sharpen a person.

      BTW Ruby i enjoyed reading what you wrote. Hugs

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    3. Hey sunshine...Am with you on this one..TNHW

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  3. I go with nature. I'm entirely who i find myself growing up to be and who i truly want to be irrespective of the norms and societal whatnot. I'm not easily influenced except the object of influence is in line with my nature and what i want.
    However, i've found out very recently that the increasing knowledge of God and His word has begun to shapen me in such a way that nothing else can. Now i do not know if that counts as 'nuture. Oh well....

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    1. Definitely! Dat is where nurture comes in

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  4. I totally agree with u @Sunshine...

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  5. I don't quite agree with this nature and nurture theory.Nuture can totally change one's nature

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  6. I don't quite agree with the nature and nurture theory. Nurture can change totally one's nature .

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  7. As much as nature plays a role in defining who we are, nurture gives d final verdict on who/what we turn out to be. I Remember d saying, we're what we live and grow up with. Dats y a child who has a very generous mother and who was also trained to toe dar path ll grow up to be a giver, also y children from abusive homes ll most likely become bullies and abusive demselves. Nurture, I think has d upper hand.

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  8. https://www.bellanaija.com/2016/08/behind-the-heart-with-chiadi-ndu-nurture-wore-the-crown/

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  9. I agree with Sunshine's post up there,Although nature plays a role in who we become later in life. Nurture I believe plays a major and more important role.

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  10. I think I am more of a nuture than nature...

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