Bisola was in a long distance relationship that seemed to be on its last legs. She loved Dozie but they hadn't seen each other in five months, she'd been planning to go visit him in Atlanta just before the cost of tickets skyrocketed and he didn't bother to pitch in either, so... They talked once or twice a week, a far cry from their hour long daily calls of the yesteryears. Biola knew they still loved each other but their relationship wasn't what it used to be, and obviously neither of them cared enough to do anything about it.
Jaden has always believed that honesty is the best policy, and so he's honest, even when it's inconvenient. It was this honesty that played out when he noticed that Biola was digging him. "Babes I'll keep it 100 with you. I like you, I think you're hot! And yes, I'm attracted to you. But truth is, I'm not just in the headspace for a relationship right now... Like... I really don't think I can commit.."
"And who's asking for your commitment?" Biola asked cutting in. "Look, I'm in a serious relationship Jaden so keep your commitment to yourself jor. Gerrarhere mennnn shiii!" She said and they burst out laughing.
And although Jaden knew that Biola was using humour to conceal her disappointment, and talking from a place of hurt pride and not out of loyalty to her long distance boo, one thing was established and that was that there were to be no strings attached. And so they became friends with some pretty exciting benefits.
The two became even closer and this very sexy uncomplicated arrangement worked for them both. Once or twice a week they'd Netflix'n'chill and rock each other's beds or worlds or car seats or kitchen counters or what/wherever.
Suddenly one day Biola calls Jaden and says "We need to talk". Jaden's heart fell; I knew it was too good to be true, I knew a woman couldn't just have great sex without going to catch feelings, he cursed under his breath.
He had already prepared a speech to let her down easy. Biola was a great gal but he just wasn't into her like that. Yet a few hours later Jaden sat his SUV with a lump in his throat and rage in his chest. His eyes got moist as he replayed their conversation in his head.
"I'm sorry to bring you out on a weekday, but I needed to talk to you"
Jaden had nodded for her to proceed, ready to voice out his rehearsed speech.
"Look, J, we're going to need to be more careful"
"Huh?" This wasn't the talk he had expected.
"When we started this whole thing, we were very careful about protection, you always wore condoms and the times we slipped, I took my pills... But we got careless. If we're going to keep seeing each other then we need to be careful".
"Okay.... But couldn't you have told me this over the phone? Besides what's this urgency for being careful all of a sudden?"
"Well, I got pregnant so..."
"You WHAT? For me???"
"Yeah, for you of course. But calm down jor! I've taken care of it, you have nothing to worry about".
And at this point Jaden felt like someone had thrown a bucket of ice over his head.
"Taken care of it, as in abortion!!!?" He cried out.
This marked the end of their situationship.
Biola has been shocked by Jaden's reaction. She felt the chronic bachelor would be relieved that she had gotten rid of the baby without any drama. Besides, she couldn't understand why he was so mad, why he was acting like she'd taken something from him. The baby was hers, and therefore hers to get rid of. Jaden's anger was way out of place!
Jaden drove home that night with a strong resentment for Biola that he's yet to rid himself of. That child was as much of his as it was hers. Biola had no right to get a d&c, at least not without first discussing it with him! He had a right to know and he had every right to be a part of the decision to either keep or remove the baby. And most importantly, he would have wanted that child and would have taken responsibility. Biola had deprived him of something that was partly his and he just didn't see how they could go back to the way things were.
People, this is fiction but it might as well be fact, most of us know someone who has been in these shoes before. So what do you think? When both parties (of course outside marriage) have made no plans to get pregnant, does the guy have any right or any say over what happens an unborn baby?