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#WriteRight. Chimezie Nwodo: Soulmates. Yay or Nay?

I do not believe in the idea of soulmates- that ridiculous belief that there is a special someone made and assigned for/to everybody. If that is the case, then those made for the persons who decided to become reverend priests and sisters, those who died in wars or from other misfortunes before they could take a spouse or those who for one reason or the other decide not to be married, would largely remain unmarried.

Therefore, if you propose a relationship, courtship or marriage to a woman - after gleaning attributes you find appealing in such a woman- and the person says, "No", please, move over to the next available person with such attributes or even more. The reason is simple: If the two of you have known each other for some time and the person still cannot see reasons to be with you or needs time to think of these reasons, truth is she may find it difficult to see a reason even if she's given all the time in the world. Again, someone who truly loves and wants you would not put you through some undignifying tests just for you to emerge 'worthy'. It is either she wants you or no.

And if she is ever heard, after some time, to say you did not try hard, please, politely (yes, always be polite) remind her that she is not a university degree that you will have to write countless examinations and a thesis to obtain.

I say this to myself too. Everyday.

-Chimezie Ogenna Nwodo
Barrister and Solicitor of the Supreme Court of Nigeria.


Okayyy, so this started out being about Soulmates and how they don't exist, to Rejection and how best to handle it. In fact I think this post is more about rejection that soulmates. So the question, Chimezie, is What, or rather, WHO prompted you to write this? Who is that ignorant, myopic wench who doesn't know a good thing even when its staring her in the face? Send me her number and let me give her a piece of my mind!


Okay people, let's talk about it, Soulmates, yay or nay? Do you think they exist? Have you found yours? Do you think there's a possibility that soulmates are real but a person can have more than one? 


  1. Lol @Thelma. This is purely about Soul Mates.

    "...And if she is ever heard, after some time, to say you did not try hard, please, politely remind her that she is not a university degree that you will have to write countless examinations and a thesis to obtain...".

    Yes ooo. Because nothing like "we're meant to be" (soul mate). Hahaha. Chimezie your brain is gracious.

  2. If soul-mates exist, it means I will never find mine and mine will never find me.


    1. Your husband isnt your soulmate? **Assuming soulmate crap exists


  3. Thelma is vexing oh...If the stated attributes ain't enough,I wonder what you would say if you call her..As for me,I don't believe in soul mates,because if there is anything like that relationships won't crash the way they do and love won't be one sided...TNHW

  4. I don't believe in the concept of soulmates too

  5. I'm not sure about sure about the soul mate thing, *digresses* I kinda of believe that you never love any other person more than first time you ever loved but what do I know?

    1. So do I. Kene I want to hear your love story.πŸ˜›

  6. Soul mate: a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner...
    well, going by that definition, I can say I've found mine!!

  7. He raised a valid point as regards the soul mate thing. 'soulmate'ing is more of a choice than 'predestined', I also believe.

    "Someone who truly loves and wants you would not put you through some undignifying tests just for you to emerge 'worthy'. It is either she wants you or no."
    As for this, especially when they give that flimsy excuse after of not trying harder 😬😠😑😬, really baffles me.😣😣😀😀😀

    My dear, ahead ahead oh. No time!


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