...and spoil the child. This was my father's mantra, it goes to explain why proverbs 13:24 was among the first bible verses I committed to memory. He'd read it out on every morning devotion as though he was seeking some sort of divine backing needed to discipline me with 'the rod'. So when I say he is an ardent christian dad, you should know how religiously he practicalised that bible verse.
Now, I wasn't particularly a bad kid (or maybe the rod gave me no chance to find out) neither was my little sister, but we were perpetual customers of the rod, and for the slightest of reasons (at least from my judgement). I was flogged for momentarily dozing off during morning devotions, arriving late to church for sundayschool, and on one occasion for taking 3rd position in my primary school(Yes you read that) and I hardly mixed with my peers. Sometimes I'm driven into introspection and I wonder how my life has been affected by the strict upbringing ... the suppressed social life, boringness and reclusion ... and although my years in the university has brought me out of my shell, the rod shaped my adaptive years.
When I recount my mistakes and decisions in life so far I can comfortably settle for a son like me and I feel inclined to rely on what worked on me to work for me, handle my kids the exact way my dad did, or more? I mean it's tested and trusted. I know people who grew up with no knowledge of the rod, very disciplined and worthy of emulation and I ask, does it mean that there is a way around proverbs 13:24? The whites come to mind. Can I spare the rod and not spoil my child? I wouldn't want to be a hostile dad but I'm sure that there are no infallible kids so how do some parents do it, spare the rod and and still save the child?
Oh wow, to think I had this debate with someone on Facebook a few days ago... Mr K I'm going to repeat what I said on FB. I believe in using the rod, but I believe in doing so with love. I think the kind of discipline you experienced was a bit excessive but hey, you turned out great! LOL. On behalf of your future children I'm BEGGING, please do not do it that way. There are actually other methods of discipline and some are more effective than the rod. I'd posit that the rod should more often be resorted to when other methods have failed... I'd stop here, I'm curious to hear what blog readers think.
Guys, we're you raised with or without the rod? Did you think that helped in shaping who you are today? Do you (intend to) spare or use the rod with your children, and why? Let's talk about it.
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