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I Feel So Guilty After Sex, BUT I Just Can't Stop Needing It!

(Speaking of #Change) I need change too. I am a very matured adult. How do I change from always needing sex. I have fasted. prayed. belonged to different departments in church to keep my mind and soul busy and distracted from this sex of a thing. The more I try, the more my mind and emotions get trapped. What do I do? I honestly need this change. Each time I do it, I go into depression. For months. I will not come out of the guilt. I need change. What do I do? anonymous mood activated


The above was left as a comment earlier today and I thought to make it a post so that it can get the desired responses. 


  1. There isn't much said for an adequate response.

  2. I want to believe dat u're single(not married) as it's not indicated in ds post.

    Is it sex wt ur partner/bf or with just a random sombori each time?
    If wt bf, freeing urself of ur emotional entanglement cud be ur chance, eerr dats if stopping entirely is ur utmost priority ie ur need to stop supersedes ur love for him. #IHopeUUnderstand
    Den if it's wt random people, avoid d possible places u meet ds people, take ur mind off d thought weneva it comes, get busy.
    And in all Keep praying. U may also need some counseling sessions lest it follows u into marriage. I wud ve said it's OK to ve ds depression bc it shows ur conscience is still active, but d duration is d problem here.
    Goodluck! May God help you.

  3. Get married, brother Paul said something along those lines.

    Living consists of making choices, and sometimes those choices are going to be tough. This is another opportunity.

  4. Get busy with other productive activities, and help your mind "change" focus.

    Man shall not live by bread alone!

    1. Mind cannot be productive 24/7. The mind will wonder during rest period..that is where the sex devil will get to work.


    2. That rest period eh... Kai, temptation toh bad

  5. Dear poster i was like you before, infact i would go to the bathroom and cry after the show. Then one day i had a conversation with God and I challenged him that can't he help me when i am weak, cos i sincerely wanna stop it but i just find myself going back. I prayed and cried to God till he saved me. Poster it's not about church or the number of dept you belong to but a personal relationship with him.
    Trust him to help you.

  6. This is an addiction. Treat it like one. Seek professional help. It is well with you.

  7. Go for it.
    It had better be worth it though.

    El oh el

  8. "...I go into depression. For months..."

    During those months of depression, do you have sex?
    If you don't, then I don't see what you are beating yourself over. Sex once in a couple of months isn't death sentence, so relax.
    If you do, then I don't know how you get depressed and have sex still, two ends of the spectrum.
    Sex reduces depression, as a matter of fact, it is therapeutic.

    Abeg don't work yourself over such, there are much important stuff in life to ponder about, like this recession and how money is running away from somebody like we are enemies. Lack of money should be causing depression, not sex please. I need money ohhhh.

    1. I'm a filmmaker, Documentary filmmaker, writer, director, Cinematographer, etc.

      If you know somebody that knows somebody that knows someone who needs any of these. I dey here.

      Economy will not kee me before I born my children.

    2. Hahahahaa! Money is running away from somebody...


  9. Hello...Note that you are not alone. But I gotta ask:
    1) What kind of guilt do you feel? Is it a religious kinda guilt like you have sinned and disappointed God? Or is it just a personal thing? Or the depression comes from no where.
    2) Are you a nympho? As it that you are super addicted to sex or you just fall every now and then?
    3) Have you ever been molested sexually?

    The truth is...only you can help you. One day you will wake up and this strong desire will be no more, but until gotta manage it. Ill say you should start with not beating yourself up whenever you have sex. Do it and enjoy it proudly. You have a healthy sex desire, nothing to be ashamed of. Ill also say you should find one partner and stick to him. Please do not jump around and always always use a condom.

    Can I have your phone number? looool


    1. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ @ can I have your phone number? Your wife will just kill you.

      Your last four sentences are of immense value.
      Dear poster please follow suit. No one is a virgin here, after all.
      Who doesn't like/need sex BTW?

    2. Uyi,there are virgins amongst us...ka ka 😜😜😜TNHW

    3. I'm a virgin, Uyi. For real.

    4. Virgins? Hmm? πŸ˜•πŸ˜•πŸ˜•

      You're missing oh... Reproduction is part of living, better start planning for it.

  10. The only way to have guilt free sex is to get married, but I'm not asking you to marry solely because of sex

  11. Dear kon, this is for you..

  12. I'm loving this thread!!!!πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„

  13. toh ... since you've gone spiritual and nothing, there is a drug πŸ’Š for you sister. should I go on?

  14. Thanks every one for your comments. I really appreciate your kind advice. Surprise to see Thelma decided to make this a post. I have been off social media for a while. Economy is not smiling on anyone.

    Thank you. Thank you. Get married ehhh. I no go marry myself nah?. God its time to pick my call.

    Thank you Thelma


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