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It's Not About You. If Your Words Are Not Going To Comfort the Grieving Person Then Just Shut up!

So I want to talk about sympathy by Nigerians from the standpoint of a Nigerian.

Most Nigerians SWEAR that they're the most sympathetic of all the creatures God made but some people are just downright insensitive.


  1. Oh okay KIM KARDASHIAN.

    It is often true

    .... no wonder the Ibo's will always said that " eburu ozu onye ozo o di ka Γ¨ bu nkΕ―".

    P.s Please pardon o I don't know how to translate it to English to relay the meaning well

    1. let me help.

      the corspe of a stranger seems like a log of wood.

      so nne, how does this adage apply here? πŸ€”πŸ€”πŸ€”πŸ€”πŸ€”. Ok bye!

    2. You can't know exactly how someone feels because you aren't the one in pain. We read about road accidents, see death in the news and on blogs but we do our little tsk tsk and shrugg it off because it's not close to home. That is how it applies.
      A Girl

  2. Thelma can you try to state the writer of an article before the article. It's really annoying reading some of your posts and putting your face to it only to get to the bottom and it's some1 else. You might not understand but it irks me.

    1. I thought I was the only one! PLEASE STATE THE WRITER AT THE START OF YOUR POSTS!
      Like I panicked when i read the amputation.

    2. Ok I WILL START TO DO SO oooooo. Lol, my bad.

    3. Hehehehe WEN I saw d amputation part, I was like, OMG Thelma? Was relieved at d end. I think dey ve a point.

  3. I remembered when i lost my grandma, she was so dear to me and she just died. I was distraught and a girl had the guts to say, 'sorry o; but grandmother kwa! Ha! The woman don old naa. I wanted to punch her face! GENEVIEVE E.

  4. I remembered when i lost my grandma, she was so dear to me and she just died. I was distraught and a girl had the guts to say, 'sorry o; but grandmother kwa! Ha! The woman don old naa. I wanted to punch her face! GENEVIEVE E.

  5. my case has not gotten to death or tragedy matter yet.

    however i know that i tend to use myself as an example to my friends going through matters of the heart problems. i unknowingly use my relationship as a case study. E.g my gf comes crying about her man not giving attention or calling her regularly. Me: chic just calm down, maybe that is his lifestyle, when i met my heartbeat, i did most of the calling, but now i rarely call. infact he doesnt go off the phone without the ILU word. so just calm down.

    Am i guilty?

    got to sleep mbok! the joy rush gat to give way for nature. i am excited because i was gifted 200k yesterday with trunk filled household items. dont blame me, buhari times be making 200k seems like 2Mil in my eyes. Isokay.

    1. emmm... continue the gifting naw. Should I send my account number?

      I think people tend to comfort/grieve with people who are or have recently experienced unfortunate happenings based on their experiences (personal or vicarious) with a similar happening.

      Personally, like you, I try to keep my words brief. If I am present physically, I just help out with activities that need to be carried out - cleaning of the premises, cooking, etc. During the time spent together, something worthwhile discussing often comes up and I try to pick out the positive and relate it back to how the unfortunate happening can eventually work out for a greater good.

    2. Hay God! Blink are we not best friends again?!!!

      Don't you dare ask me if we were ever best friends! πŸ˜‚

      So how are we spending our gift πŸ˜‰

  6. My aunt died in her early 30s just after 2 years of marriage. Her husband was totally distraught and practically dead in shock. And what did a so - called sympathiser say? "Hmmm...... So XYZ, you're now a bachelor again". I could have smacked his ugly face from Lagos all the way to Uzbekistan! How can some people be so careless with the way they talk?

  7. The most stupid to me are those who claim to come stmpathize with you but will ask for food and eat large meal like it's a birthday party they've come to celeberate.


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    2. It is a 'call to glory', LMAO

      this is just funny.

  8. After the loss of my child, I was like God allowed it otherwise it won't have happened and a stooped person was like, God doesn't allow bad things to happen- Im like whaaaaaa

    people lack decorum walahi


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