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Random Musings; Sleeping With a "Cuddler" When You're Not.

Its one aspect of romantic relationships I find very complicated. What happens when you're not a cuddler ie you do not like to cuddle; you like your own space on the bed, you freak out at the thought of someone's breath on your skin and you're uncomfortable breathing on someone else's. You get sweaty just thinking about your movements being restricted and when you're both in bed you can't stop overthinking things; is he really ok with my head on his arm or is he just acting in order to be polite? How long until his arm begins to ache? What if he wants to turn but can't because my head is on his chest? What if i want to turn over but i can't because he's holding me tight? And yes when you eventually need to turn, you wait until he's deep in sleep and then you try to gently move away from him or remove his loving arm from your now stiff torso. And then he stirs and holds you tighter, and closer. Sigh!

Sometimes I just pretend to be deep asleep and unaware of my actions and i carelessly toss his arm away and immediately roll far away. But sometimes i'm more tender, more emotional. And i resign myself to the fate of the night and his loving arms. 


Was just thinking about it. Who else absolutely hates to cuddle, just like me? And where are all you cuddle bunnies? Pls enlighhten me, what exactly do you like about cuddling? Eeew! LOL


  1. Me i'm a cuddler o, i guess what i like about it is the feeling of oneness i get from cuddling

  2. really ? I think I am in between ie I love to cuddle but not all the time.
    but I love cuddling sha

  3. Cuddling is boring for me. Maybe I just haven't felt that deeper side of love that much

    1. For me the issue isn't love, it is comfort.
      In as much as I like to 'Gum body and touch body' like a cat, it doesn't follow through on a bed for me, especially at sleep's okay when we are just gisting. I think I am improving these days.

    2. For me the issue isn't love, it is comfort.
      In as much as I like to 'Gum body and touch body' like a cat, it doesn't follow through on a bed for me, especially at sleep's okay when we are just gisting. I think I am improving these days.

    3. Improving? Lol... On the discomfort or what?
      There's nothing to improve on my dear.
      Cuddling isnt for us, I guess.

    4. Really?? "Maybe I just haven't felt that deeper side of love that much"...pele.

    5. I'm improving in that I don't get uncomfortable with a cuddle at sleep time. ;)
      See the way you, United, wrote cuddling isn't for us, like the cuddle is for both of us together. Lol.

    6. Heheheheheeee!!! Cccc and Uyi... What am I missing here???
      Uyi are you trying to tell us something πŸ˜‰πŸ˜‰πŸ˜‰

  4. For me, I'm so used to cuddling that I can hardly sleep if boo is not there! That's not too good tho! Cuddling is when I get to gist well with my man and when I get to ask for favours, so guys that works for me...

  5. I love to cuddle and boo gives the best cuddles, OMG. His arms are big and long and he envelopes me like a cocoon, lol. We both kuku like gumbody, here.

    1. 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

  6. Depends on the individual. There is a feeling someone will elicit in you that you can't help but become a Gummy Bear. I cuddle.
    A Girl

  7. I would really love to cuddle... You people are just making somebody feel mushy on a Monday morning 😩

    1. better start cuddling! weekend is coming! who innocence epp? #dontdull

    2. Yes ma/sir
      Abeg shey you will provide cuddler for me. As I don't have one at the moment

  8. Bae is like a big teddy bear.when he draws me into his arms..Lord!😍😍😍 I'm actually a semi-insomniac but wn m wt bae, I slp wella

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