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Thursday, 15 September 2016

What I Wanted To Be...





Last week I made a new friend. Well I happen to be 'seeing' her brother so we knew of each other but we'd never met or spoken. She was coming into town for an interview and her brother asked me to sort out her logistics and possibly keep her company. I paid her a visit at her hotel room, just so I could tell him yes when he asked if I went to see his sister, like I knew he would. I did that to fulfil all righteousness but I ended up falling in friendship!

Have you ever met someone and instantly hit it off? Oh wow! We met for the first time and what I'd planned to be a ten-minute visit lasted until the next day, yeah I spent the night LOL. Same thing the next day, after her interview we went out on a girly date, did some shopping and the back to the hotel room for some gossip, girl chat and a slumber party. 

During this time she asked "Why aren't you in Nollywood?".

Very weird question, right? But I started laughing because you see, I'd wanted to be an actress!

Like, I didn't just "want to", I actually made moves towards being one. I chased scripts but met roadblocks in form of men first wanting to me warm their beds, something I was averse to. And then I applied for Amstel Malta Box Office, went for auditions, got to the final stage and then didn't get called back. But two of the judges on my panel kept in touch and made promises to help me get ahead in the industry even without AMBO, something about it didn't sound savory at the time so I didn't pursue that lead, besides law was getting tougher and I had to focus on passing my papers. 

Yes, Law. The course my father filled in my JAMB form giving me no say whatsoever in the matter that's my own life. 

So in the last few days I've been thinking about it, the things I really wanted to be, the things I'm naturally great at. Acting would have been my first choice. I also love performing too, I still remember my days of miming Keith Sweat's Twisted on stage in FGGC Ipetumodu before QC, and days of stage plays, both there and in OQ. I'm naturally shy but Lord do I love an audience. I could never suffer stage fright, be it an audience of 10 or 10,000. Another thing I really wanted to do, even though that wouldn't have come naturally was to produce music. 


Do I have regrets? Not really. I mean on some days I wonder what life would be like if I'd actually towed that path, where would I be now? What would I have? WHO would I be? 

On other days I smile, life is okay anyways. 

So let's talk about it people, what did you want to be when you were younger, is that what you're doing now? Do you feel like you'd be better off in another career? Why aren't you doing what you wanted to do; your parents or other factors? 

What did you want to be when you grow up? Is that what you are now?

Tell us. 

34 comments:

  1. I wanted to be a soldier when I was quite Lil, then I grew up realizing that they can die in battleπŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯

    Then parents pushed me into Science, you can take the horse to the river but you can't force the horse to drink. 😑😑😑

    Now I trying to live my dreams and aspirations as a very talented filmmaker but Nigerian economy want to frustrate me, I will succeed in Jesus name.
    Can I get an amen please.

    NB:a filmmaking profession is a broad spectrum where every aspect of film and television production fall into. So basically, an actor is a filmmaker as well, just as the costume designer or the makeup artist is also a filmmaker.
    (For those who may be confused a little bit about it.)
    Me, I just want to Produce, Write and direct media contents(and get paid of course). I didn't ask for much Na.
    Baba God pick up this specific call Abeg.

    Filmmaking is a very lucrative venture, investors are needed. The surest way to make money back is right here in entertainment.

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    1. Amen my brother!
      God will make a way for you where there seems to be no way! Recession would just be a word and you will be saying there's a lifting up 😊

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    2. "...then I grew up realizing that they can die in battle...". Lmao.

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    3. Amen! Just said a prayer for you!

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  2. I have always wanted to be a business woman,having different chains of business because I am not cut out for the 9-5..I nursed the ambition of becoming an actress but my dad would not hear of it,I get jealous now when I see some of my friends in movies...So now I run my fashion designing business and am fulfilled..TNHW

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    1. Mama the mamaπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™Œ
      See iv been in IB since subday O!!! πŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆ
      But I live off airport road and it's just too far from everywhere(interesting places)
      I'd really love to meet up 😊

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    2. You this geh!!!Alakia is a lil bit far from my place,I stay very close to the government house.,,If you still wanna hook up send me a mail...ayetunde80@gmail.com

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  3. Wanted to be a computer engineer. I remember I used to go crazy for all things computer then but ended up reading a course way off. But in all I give thanks.

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    1. Not too late quirkymoi, you can still take a few courses(online)... It's still very achievable. 😊

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  4. Ever since I was little I wanted to be a Rev. Father. I even applied in a seminary. But the son of man started noticing too many ikebe around him so he had to give himself some serious self education. Regrets? Well..just a little, but I'm nonetheless satisfied with my decision.

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    1. πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ OK!

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    2. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
      *sprinkles holy water* thou shall not be carnally minded! Kilode?! Who ikebe hep?! πŸ˜‚ I still don't get what's with men and ikebe. It is poopoo container o! Don't let it take that away from you😊

      But you as a reverend father tho... Ha! They(the ladies) might not let you be great o! πŸ˜‚ I still owe Tiwa flying tackle on top your matter πŸ˜‰

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    3. buh eez nor a crime to notice naw πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    4. Rev Father. Not surprised at all...

      Peace.

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    5. Lol @Kabuoy. Poopoo container ke? Haha. The ikebe of a woman is a WORK OF ART. You can imagine my annoyance when someone will come out and say that such masterpiece was not in the "original plan". Hehe..

      @Kene, noticing isn't a crime but you sef know every. Lol.

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    6. lol @ WORK OF ART. Kabuoy, if there is a next life, you should probably come as a guy then you'd probably understand our fascination with such work of art!

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    7. Hip hop artistes get inspiration from Ikebe so I can understand the fixation.
      Oga Memphis, why don't you write a poem on it?

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    8. Lol. I'm not a hip hop artiste.

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  5. They say sex isn't food.but why so delicious? From the appetizer(foreplay),the main dish(love making)to the Dessert(cuddling after sex)chai.........
    HUSBAND WHERE ART THOU?

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    1. Sex is food. It quenches hunger. Hunger for...

      Peace

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    2. After watching pretty woman as a kid I wanted to be a********. Thought it was a real job.Smh
      A girl

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  6. I have always loved to talk.

    As a child, I'll take my dad's newspaper and read it out loud(even till now cuz I still did it today) Iv always liked the sound of my voiceπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆ
    I also used to stand in front of the mirror and act out any character that comes to mind. Even try to force myself to cry sometimes.πŸ˜‚
    The day I told my dad I wanted to study theatre arts, you would have thought I Blasphemed/commited an abomination.
    He went on and on and on. πŸ˜©πŸ™„

    I have also always nursed the idea/dream of being/becoming a Pilot. Weird right? Two extremes.


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    1. "...Even try to force myself to cry sometimes...". Hahaha.

      Our parents and their influence on our choice career path though. My mum made me believe I was cutout to become a medical doctor. All through the years I was quite indifferent about it because a Rev told me that even as a catholic priest, you could still have almost any professional job. One day my dad called me aside and told me the hazards of being a doc (he never said this openly because he could never win a debate with his dear wife. Lol). That was the beginning of doubt. Then when I wanted to take SAT exams I read somewhere that medical students were required to memorize about 13000 scientific words! What?!? I immediately lost it. My mum wouldn't hear of my decision to quit the "dream career". But after a few months of beef and some help from dad, she calmed down. Lol. SMH.

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  8. I find it therapeutic when people effusively thank me for restoring their health. Pharmacy can give me that, only it deprived me of mathematics that I loved so much.

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  9. Always wanted to be a banker. Because I used to watch my father come home all SWAGGED out in his suit and brief case. That man was GQ. I would look and say "Damn! I wanna be a swagged out banker like him"

    Thats how I enter banking industry thinking Ill become a manager in no time. Many many years passed and no promotion. Frustration set in. Now Im like "Fuck the banks!"

    All I wanna do now is make money!

    In my next life I want to be a lawyer in the Americaaa! Nija lawyers are suffering abeg abeg I nor want. I gat argument, logic and case presentment skills.

    Peace

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  10. I had always wanted to become a pilot...watching a plane fly above my house always held a deep fascination for me...then life set in. Parents weren't so welcoming of such career path or choice. We compromised at studying Mechanical Engineering which would be culminated with a Masters in Aeronautical Engineering. Undergrad killed my interest in Engineering as engineering turned out to be more static than dynamic. A couple of years down the line, some life experiences and I finally decided that a path towards management is what I am cut out for. Possibly, much later, I could get a private pilot license and fly a plane later.

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  11. I always wanted to be a lawyer but for some reason I kept having D7 in literature(GCE+SSCE) plus mumC kept saying lawyers are liars citing my father as a practical example,such discouragement.....

    Oh well, the dream is still alive.i don't know when specifically but I will still get my law degree. Got to know of a grandfather who got his law degree recently,all things been equal,mine won't be that long

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  12. I wanted to be a teacher. A high school teacher. I loooove teaching. I always will. Wanted to read English (edu.). Ended up reading Law. I love my career path sha o, but mehn.....

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  13. Wanted to be a paediatrician.but grew up and discovered I hate school books.I'm very intelligent and read every and anything that is not school work.journals, novels, blog posts and whatnot.still possible to read medicine.but I nr like to read sch book abeg n medicine requires sm serious reading.wondering how I'll do masters and Phd when I hate book like this😒😒😒 currently waiting for final professional exam in medical laboratory science. I'm very good at organising though.I cn organise anything.ur clothes, ur books, ur house, ur events, ur life.planning on going into event planning and hospitality. 😊😊 MiDh

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    1. This is nice. But why don't you just quit the quest for Masters and PHD and go straight into your main desire, seeing as you have "book scare"? You know it's all about what makes you happy afterall.

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  14. What is it with Nigerian parents and the dislike for theater as a profession. My daddy would say it was for riffraff. But do I blame him. White collar job mentality.

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