So I'm in bed trying to catch up on what's been going on. I scrolled down Bella Naija opening the posts that appealed to me, or had over 10 comments *covers face*, I'd gone pass about twenty posts and the most comments I'd seen so far was a post with about 12. You can then imagine my excitement when I saw a post with EIGHTY THREE, yeah 83 comments! I thought this had to be good!
Let me state categorically, for those who don't read Bella Naija, that BN comments are gold. It's not LIB where you see 200 comments and 195 of them are "Linda Observe" or its variance, it's a place where when you see 23 comments then you know the post is good, the comments even better, and you're likely to learn something.
So I opened this post with 83 comments and I was not in the least bit surprised to find that it was man-matter. I mean, majority of its readers a females and what's more likely to get women buzzing than men?!! The realization that this supports Chimamanda Adichie's "80-20" allegation amused me. In a recent interview, the ace writer compared men and women. She said men sit together socially and they talk, and they're talking about their own things; work, money, politics, business, sports, travel etc, and then maybe women. But women sit together socially and they talk and it's only a matter of minutes before the talk turns to men, men, men, marriage, men, marriage, cheaters, sidechics, men. She advised that women should stop doing this should spend only 20% of our time talking about men, and the rest about our own stuff.
When I read that article I was curious to see people's reactions and I was not surprised. Many females were mad at Chimamanda, some agreed with her. Of course (for once in this lifetime) most men agreed with her, a few were honest enough to admit that men also spend a great deal of their time talking about women too.
So true, please insert Donald Trump's "locker room" talk.
But even more true is what Chimamanda said. Put us ladies together and we're quick to talk about our boyfriends or husbands or chaikers. And if we're not talking about them we're talking about something they did, or didn't do, or said. Then random/general gossip/gist often follows and then maybe children (if they're married), and then business or work talk etc.
There are exceptions but unfortunately, rare.
But I got to thinking about it and decided to ask you all. When you're with your friends (of the same sex), what's three things that you guys discuss the most. The first being the most often and the last being the least often.
Tell me people, so that we can know if Chimamanda was right or wrong...