Thelma Thinks...

I dunno people... It seems the vagina is losing its appeal. Father, do something! 😣

The day I feared would come is finally upon us. The day men would openly write Agony Aunt letters and love songs about other men. Well I think Frank Ocean already covered the love song bit...
In any case, screw your 14yr jail sentence, homosexuality is slowly normalizing in our society. 
Y'know I try to keep an open mind sometimes but that picture above, it looks all kinds of wrong to me. I try to picture two men cuddling, kissing and eating breakfast in bed and I just can't. 
In any case people, we have at least one love struck gay man coming our way in December. Yippee!!
LOL. 
#okbye.

I went for a walk this morning, I walked for about an hour and when I got closer home I saw an old man with several teeth missing smiling widely at me. "You travelled" he said. It wasn't a question. I took out the earpiece from my ear to make sure I heard him properly. I'd never seen him before. "You travelled" he repeated. I smiled hesitantly, I didn't know who he was and I didn't want to be rude. "Yes" I said and he last confidently. "I know you travelled. We have not been seeing you. We see you every morning, sports woman" he said and we both laughed. "Now that you are back I hope we will continue seeing you in the morning" he said and I assured him that he would. 
LOL @ sports woman. 
A pair of trainers and Nike tracks doesn't a "sports woman" make. 
I wish... 😂
All I do is walk for an hour and listen to audio books. Ok I jog occasionally but my doctor asked me not to for now...
It's interesting how we…

"The author of this book has gone through some really tough times. But, everyone directly or indirectly involved was stripped bare, making the book feel like a viscous comment section of a gossip blog -(Spare no details, Spare no one)

According to the prologue, "this book is not a tell all but a must tell". I disagree. It is a TELL ALL. If it was a must tell, then she would only give absolutely RELEVANT information. But I suffered through a lot of irrelevant references that could only be in the book for one reason: To "report" Maje and his other women to the world

Hence, only ONE chapter (which was the last chapter) was dedicated to Toke's lessons learnt, her responsibilities from the failed relationship and her advice to women on what to do if they found themselves in her situation. To be honest, I had assumed these would be the foundation of the book, coupled with her strategy in becoming a household name. I assumed wrong

Maje's name came up 378 times i…

I am getting married tomorrow...but that is not what this article is about because in as much as marriage is a good thing, and I am looking forward to what that phase holds in store for me, I am not under the illusion that my life would suddenly transform from that of dystopia to a life of utopia.
You see, almost all my friends are married, and I have asked most of them few months or years after marriage, that “Which is better, being single or being married?”
It is interesting to note that not a single one of them has been able to tell me conclusively that being married is better than being single. They all respond with the familiar lines of “It’s different. Marriage is good but it comes with its responsibilities. They all have their pros and cons.”
I’ve been single for all my life. Yes, it might not be a lengthy period of time in some people’s eyes, but it is far longer time than I intended to be single, especially considering the fact that I graduated at the age of 21, and have been fi…

Reading this made me feel all warm inside. 
She also added: It took 5, 10 & 11 months to get first, second and third comments respectively on my first post. Sometimes it starts slow but when God is by your side, there's no stopping you!
I'm sure you've learnt something from this post. Oya, comment below what you learnt, I can't always be the only one writing. 
(LOL, yeah I'm being lazy. Started writing a multi-paragraphed epistle but half way through I started to stop 🙈. I hereby pass the mantle on to you 😊☺️😉). 


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So my parents just moved house. 
I'm so thrilled for them 'cause it's the kind of home they've always dreamt of living in. Although it's coming rather later than they'd have preferred, it eventually happened and for that I'm grateful. It's much bigger than where they were and to see them arrange their new rooms is akin to watching 3yr old boys let loose in a toy shop. 
Notice I said rooms? 
For as long as I can remember my parents have always stayed in separate bedrooms. I don't think this impacted  negatively on their marriage as they're obviously still cool, and also the fact that they sha snuck/sneak into the other's room at night to sleep together most nights probably helps. 
A while back, just before they moved in finally, I went over to see what was going on. My mum was there with one of her BFFs, they've been besties since their early 20s. She's a Grandmum like my mum. 
My mum was taking her round to see the house. When she entered…

So.... What does a side chick offer that a main chick can't? Is there really anything or is it all just a myth?
Are they just two women who simply happened to have come into his life at different points in time, one before the other?
Or are these two women with distinct roles and personalities, serving much different delicacies?
Thoughts?

...can I just add that I'm beginning to roll my eyes at this side chick-main chick thingy, making these males feel more important than they are. Shioor, ladies y'all need to start speaking up more about your main boo and your side dish too ooo! 😡😡😡. #okbye. LOL. 

Greatest Nigerian Youths! Shey una go still answer, ‘Great!’ When it is clear that most of you guys are silly, foolish, ignorant, confused, useless and downright lazy. Shame wan kill me here on una behalf. You guys are a Big disappointment to this generation, and a disgrace to the greatest Nigerian youths of the 50s, 60s and early 70s. Dem swear for Una?Most of you guys have become a docile entity that is driven by the insatiable desire to reap where una no sow, expecting miracles when you have not worked and seeking help in all the wrong places (illuminati, native doctors and night vigils). The frustration in our humanity is exemplified in the confused non-ideological and non-intellectual capacity of today’s youths. The anger of your hunger is not hitting the minds of our youths and the vexation that has trailed governance nationally is almost unheard of among our youths even though the new Nigerian reality is most felt by these same youths. Kai!!! Una Mumu never Do?For the past four …

It was a beautiful Saturday morning, I could tell that the moment his ringing phone abruptly woke me up from Friday nights sleep. "Her again" he sighed. 
"Her who?"
"Nnenna, she's been calling since last night. She's in town, says she wants to hook up"
Nnenna, his ex. 
"She called yesterday, said she wants to come over. I told her I'd ask you..."
His sentence faded into silence, waiting for my response. I did nothing to help the silence. 
"So is it ok?" He asked, finally. 
I shrugged. "Why does she want to come?" I asked him
"I don't know o! Me sef I wonder. She just says since we're both in Lagos and her hotel is not too far from here we should see. She wants to meet you". I could tell he added that last part to soften me up. 
"No can do, I don't want to meet her". 
"Ok then" he said with no further argument. 
However she kept calling and i could tell he didn't mind seeing her. …

Toke's debut book which she says “is not a tell-all but a must tell”, speaks of many things. She spoke of her childhood days, and the sad loss of her parents as a result of a fire incident in their home when she was 8 years old and its impact on her life. Here are some excerpts (culled from Bella Naija .) The Discovery I got on my knees in front of him, my voice calm as I can make it. “Maje, you can’t keep lying. What is going on? He walks away, leaving me there with my heart in my hands. I see him pacing, like he is having a private conversation. Then all of a sudden, he walks back to the living room, looks straight into my eyes and says, ‘She’s pregnant’. I fall to the ground. My head…. ‘What’s she having?’ ‘A boy,’ he says. ‘How long have you known?’ ‘I’ve always known…. It was what I thought I wanted,’ he says. The Wedding “Finally, I thought. He chose me! He has stepped up and he’s finally ready to make us a priority. It was my wedding day. I was happy, yet I was waiting for something to …