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Thursday, 24 November 2016

Dear Ladies, Why Do You Do This?

This is a non-rhetorical question I've been meaning to ask, I've stopped myself short for a number of reasons but after seeing this picture I couldn't hold it in anymore. 

I've often wondered at pictures and videos of women screaming, hyperventilating, wailing and even rolling on the ground just after getting proposed to. 

I wonder because the guy who just proposed isnt a stranger. No, he's someone you've known for most likely a long time, someone you've dated for quite some time. In most cases you guys must have already discussed marriage. You guys have been in an exclusive relationship and at that point have met each other's family members and friends. So why then is it so shocking when he asks you to marry him?

I understand it's a joyful moment. But shocking? Why?

Now back to the picture above, someone asked please is it a proposal or a deliverance?

LOL it looks more like a deliverance to me o! πŸ˜‚

Anyways let's take a poll. Why do women break down in tears and/or get all dramatic when they're proposed to?

a) They're overjoyed
b) They're faking it
c) They're overwhelmed with relief (of leaving the Single Women's Club)
d) They think that's how they're supposed to react
e) They're genuinely surprised 
f) Others. (Please specify). 



  1. A person's reaction to an event is a function of the person's past experiences.
    Hm! Thelma....we dont know how it is doing that babe oo. She might have had gone through alot in the hands of men. Probably men from her past have promised her love and abandoned her several times. Probably she has done abortion for many men. Probably the pressure to marry is so heavy on her that this relief is too good she just had to faint. Different reasons.

    But anyways, there are some girls that fake it for the cameras. When there are watching eyes, flash lights and cameras - people act dumb. Thats my conclusion.


  2. You analyse too much... wait till its ur turn, then we'll know

    1. Lol you won't know, my proposal will be very private, like in bed 😊😊😊. No pictures taken. Just him, me and the ring. So if I faint, or cry or start screaming like a banshee... you will not know. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜

    2. We will knowooooooo, bcos u will tell us... lol

    3. Lmao! So apt a replyπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    5. Others (for the camera). They want to have 'cute ' pictures .
      A Girl.

  3. B and c. If i'm the guy that proposed to that girl I will have to rethink the marriage.

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  4. Lol@deliverance. I think in most cases, it's C.

  5. hahahahah I don't understand...but we don't know her story sha so it's hard to say if it's outright fake or over dramatic excitement. You can't try this stunt in some offices o,the eczema you go carry from the floor eh. J

  6. From what I heard about her case she didn't see it coming, the guy was her customer and they are good friends then the guy comes in one day to propose. Anyways I also don't get why girls even cry, like its a proposal its a good thing, I can remember when le boo proposed I was like ok so when is the wedding, like we all see this coming why the drama, still baffles me though.

    Sha these days that everyone is on social media its mostly for the media.

  7. I really don't like public proposals, if its like in a restaurant, just the two of you then other people happen to be around i can even get it but all these cinema,church,stadium, nysc camp (rme,the most unromantic),polling station and the likes, i don't get the aim... who knows why the girls are hyperventilating upendan maybe they just like drama. My answer is e biko, they are just being dramatic, drama queens

  8. I'm thinking E. Cos none of the other options truly warrants such reaction. I'm sorry

  9. Add desperation to the list T. It's the number one reason why a woman will act this way when proposed to. Coz it's the man that is suppose to be overjoyed that she accepted his proposal. If the woman is the one acting this way like he's doing her a favour, then there is a problem

    1. Lol... I want to agree with you but hey... I still don't know the full details.

  10. B & D.
    I too don't see the reason behind all the abnormal reactions.

  11. What is all this now. Even if she was shocked.

    Most women see being married as an achievement when in actual fact it may be Far different from their expectations.

    My proposal was straightforward. I told the bobo i wanna pick my ring. I dont want a surprise ring i wont wear.

    We went out, got it and he slipped it on my finger n sealed it with a peck.

    The kind of surprise i need is not this one o. I need the one Like paying 10 million naira or dollars or pounds into my account or an unexpected trip abroad or a killer ride.

    Who ring don epp. Lol. If it isnt the real deal that can be traded for valuables.

    I dont even wear d ring they got for me o. Its only when i remember or i am having a correct presentation somewhere.

    Women and drama.

  12. D πŸ€”

    I can understand a few tears for the very emotional and for those that have been through a lot. Collapsing is just taking it to the next level. All in all I really don't care.

  13. The fucking answer is D....just cos that's how others do that's y they must do even worse, annoys me so much,as if she didn't know before hand

  14. F.
    1. The guy is a delivrance minister, the ring carries a special anointing and she got slain under it.

    2. Her body could not handle the overwhelming joy and it had to shut down immediately.

  15. I don't know why they do that. I had no luxury of experiencing it because when mine took place, marriage was the last thing on my mind. I just went with the flow.

    That said, I would be extremely disappointed if any of my daughters react this way to a guy's proposal. Who the guy is would not matter.

    I am trying to raise them not to see marriage as a great achievement or a do-or-die thingy; not too see a guy as a trophy. Why then would they scream or cry or faint? Of course I would expect them to react to a surprise but not over-do it like their lives depend on a marriage.


  16. I think there are many reasons why women would act in such a manner.

    More importantly, the proposal signifies that one moment when the woman knows its for real, hence why she might act in an uncoordinated manner....they might have made marriage plans and had some talks bordering on family but as we know, talk is cheap.

  17. The ones that act in such ways are the ones that don't expect it will ever happen


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