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Is Your Man In The Closet?

Taje ended this article by asking; Ladies could you marry a bisexual man? And when I saw that it felt like dejavu. Barely hours ago I had this conversation with my girlfriends at a birthday party. This same question was asked, following the whole married gay man hullabaloo that occurred during the week. It may to surprise you to know that the answers were split. You'd think a woman would immediately scream NOOOOO, but that wasn't the case. Some said yes, some said no, some said I don't know. 

Oh well let's read Taje Prest's article below as seen on Bella Naija. 

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So lately I’ve been hearing a whole lot of crazy stories that are honestly quite terrifying. For some of the stories I was shown proof! Insane! They all go along the lines of this babe’s husband is sleeping with this other babe’s husband. Yes, husband.

Initially I wasn’t going to write about this topic because I felt like people just aren’t ready to hear such things in Nigeria; but with the amount of things I’ve heard in the past two months; some I definitely do not believe and some are way too deep to comprehend; I have to say something.

I have three questions for my ‘down low brothas’ why are you down low? Is it because you are ashamed of your desires or because society won’t accept you?

Why are you getting married to women who are blind to the fact? Is it to save face?

Are you bisexual or simply gay pretending to be straight and dreaming of men when you sleep with your women?

In all honesty I understand that our Nigerian society isn’t very open minded let alone accepting of ‘gay’ people or men that even choose to act & dress differently and I know it must be difficult to live in such a judgmental society but don’t you feel sorry for the woman you are deceiving? Or do you love her enough to sleep with her but not enough to forget the male attraction? I have so many questions.

An everyday Nigerian will go into the fact that it’s forbidden in the Bible but let’s leave religion out of it for now cause there are even men that are married; number one elder in church and will sleep with their daughter’s boyfriend if they got the chance. BRUV!

Here’s my thing – if you’re bisexual or simply gay and due to Nigerian or should I say African society you can’t be your true self and want to marry to save family name; your face etc. Please tell the woman you have chosen, the ones that can stay and accept you for it will stay; but don’t go in with the lady completely blindsided only to be surprised one day, that can kill a person. If she’s in the know, nothing can surprise her. Shoutout to the women that can accept it though.

A friend of mine was telling me about her friend that just found out her husband has been having sex with his “cousin” a guy her husband claimed was his cousin; that’s been staying in their house for almost a year, They have two kids! Crazy or nah? Apparently (I say apparently because there’s no hard facts or surveys carried out in nigeria) 35% of married Nigerian men are sleeping with other men and they’re married to women and have kids! Is there a way around it? Is being down low the only option because of fear?

I also heard some married women found out way late into the marriage and accepted it and have never mentioned to their husbands that they know; one woman told me “TajΓ© he’s been sleeping with the same man for years but my kids are happy; I’m happy I’m well taken care of, we barely fight, initially I couldn’t sleep with him but after a while I got used to it, better the guy than some evil troublesome woman that’ll try to destroy my home” you should have seen the look on my face, she laughed and said “You’d be surprised to know how many Nigerian women are living exactly like I am. Some both parties are fully aware and just don’t talk about it” BRUUUUUUH! What?

My down low brothas; help my fellow woman and just keep it 100; tell your woman don’t let her hear outside. My girls and I were talking & at the moment every guy that steps to us you gotta check everything about him, background story, girls he’s been with, his mannerisms etc if one can even tell from all that. Honesty is the best policy really.

And my ladies could you marry a bisexual man?



  1. no no does one even tell if the brother keeps it a secret.

    World is turning upside down.

  2. The world is evolving... We evolve with it or join our ancestors as the earth forgets our existence

  3. The world is truly upside down, yet the Americans refused to classified homosexuality as a psychiatric problem!

    God help us.

    1. Loool πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚. It is not normal simple and short. That's why it's difficult to accept and our first human instinct is to recoil from it.
      A Girl

  4. I honestly will stop reading posts like this. It's really sad to read these things! And pple are actually living with this as their reality. Wow...

  5. I can't and don't want to imagine it. So after sleeping with a fellow man he will do me too? Hian (in my naija accent)

    1. Loooool. As opposed to 'hian' in your British accent?

    2. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ @punintended

  6. No, I wouldn't marry a bisexual man nor would I accept it as my lot if I found out my husband were bisexual.

  7. the highest statistics of HIV is in gay community. cos protection are rarely used. so to be married to bisexual and turn an eyelid to that is risky. Women saying yes, need to watch Motive and take a clue fro. it. cheers Eby


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