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Monday, 7 November 2016

Procrastinators Unite! (6 Ways I Learnt To Stop Procrastinating).




And so it happened that I should have sent in my resumé sooner but I kept on telling myself I had time, there was no hurry, and I honestly thought I did. I eventually got round to sending it and she said "Oops, if only this had come in yesterday you might have had a chance..."  


Is this relatable to you? May be it is, maybe not, but procrastination is something that a lot of us are guilty of. Most of us procrastinate, especially when we think we have time. What this means is that we end up waiting until the deadline to meet goals thereby doing a below par job sometimes. Sometimes it means we don't even meet our goals. When this happens we begin to feel bad about ourselves and beat ourselves up, we feel as though we've let ourselves down, and worse yet sometimes we disappoint others. This can be avoided, simply don't procrastinate!

I've been there so many times and just like other bad habits like smoking or overeating, procrastination  was one I deeply needed to break. Here's how I do/did it. 


1. Do It Now! I'm reading a book called Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude and one of the principles of Success therein is DO IT NOW. Whatever comes up, do it immediately. So the way I
apply this is to do whatever needs to be done as soon as it arises. There's this satisfaction that comes from doing it now, the minute you're done there's a sigh of relief knowing that that's over and done with, and you can move on to something else with ease and lightness. The minute you begin to be honest with yourself and learn that there's no time like NOW, you're halfway there! 

2. Do the least pleasant task first: When there's a list of things to do, we're likely to do the easy or more enjoyable ones first and put off the more challenging ones. We wait and wait until we're done with the easy jobs and procrastinate on the others. When you start with the tough job(s), you're able to put all your energy into it, coming at it all fresh and energetic.  You find that once the tough one is done, the others are a breeze which you do almost immediately after. No rush, no fuss, no pressure!

3. Don't wait to be in the mood. This is the one thing you'd find that most successful people don't do; waiting to be in the mood. When you keep waiting to be in the mood to do something you'd probably never get it done. It's not very likely that you're often going to be in the mood to exercise, if you keep waiting to be in the mood to exercise then you'd probably never get any exercise. Waiting to be in the one of something before getting it done is one certain way to set yourself up for failure or underachievement. 

4. Set deadlines. It's great to have goals, but a goal without a deadline is akin to having no goal at all. In order to get things done you must have a goal and a deadline. Your deadline guides you, helps you prioritize and ultimately avoid procrastinating.  

5. Reward yourself. This could be as little as giving yourself a pat on the back or as big and buying yourself something nice, depending. Once you have goals and you're able to meet them, acknowledge to yourself that you've done good. Praise is a great motivator, even when it's by you to you for you. 

6. Take the 1st step. I recently read about a 65yr old grandmother who walked from New York to Washington. When asked how she did it, especially considering her age, she said she's always just wanted to do something like that, and that hard as it may seem, it was actually easy. She said all the had to do was take the first step! She found that once she took one step, she took another and then another. And that's how she walked thousands of miles from New York to her destination.  No I'm not suggesting you walk a thousand miles, this applies to even the smallest things like doing the dishes, start with one plate. Been meaning to start that business, register the company or business name (if you're in Nigeria call me for that 😉). Want to get fit, start by walking, just put your trainers on and step outside the door. Just take that first step!




Guys I'm still a work in progress and sometimes I fail. However I'm learning to stand right back up and push myself. I'm holding myself accountable. This week lets try something new, let's try to adopt a DO IT NOW! mindset. Have a great week people! 

So tell me those habits you'd like to break. Let's talk about it. 

6 comments:

  1. Nice read Thema, thank you for this. One habit I would like I break is laziness, I don't know if laziness is a habit but I know that I can do better. Sometimes instead of doing the things I'm supposed to do I would just rather sleep or watch movies. I know it's really affecting me especially when I see my mates have moved far ahead of me in their career but sometimes the thought of just doing something for my life is so overwhelming that I end up doing nothing.

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    1. What helps me when I know I have to do something and this kind of laziness you mentioned wants to creep in is, I set my mind and envision the happiness and how grateful I'd be to myself when I eventually pull through. I usually don't think too much of the process, except to make a plan.

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  2. Thanks for these tips.

    -F

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  3. When it comes to doing laundry I procrastinate so much and this laundry service people will charge someone same price for work shirt and chiffon top! Rme. Bu when I get to doing the laundry, so much joy! I'd then wonder why I'm so happy.

    For serious stuff, when I have/need to get something done, I make plans and time for them and usually follow through, except when in situations where I don't know or not sure of what to do,then I push things aside for a while.

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  4. When it comes to doing laundry I procrastinate so much and this laundry service people will charge someone same price for work shirt and chiffon top! Rme. Bu when I get to doing the laundry, so much joy! I'd then wonder why I'm so happy.

    For serious stuff, when I have/need to get something done, I make plans and time for them and usually follow through, except when in situations where I don't know or not sure of what to do,then I push things aside for a while.

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  5. So guilty here #coversface. I'm working on it though, and thanks for the tips T

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