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Rant; Why So Many Judginas?

I want to rant on an earlier post on the confession of a lady who always remove her wedding ring to feel funky. The reponse from so many people got me thinking. Evening when Thelma asked them to confess those little secret of theirs. Wow!. Maybe that lady, the other that confessed of 30 body count and l are the only sinners on this blog. Hmmmmm. Side eye to you!!. Yes you!!!! Why is it that people are very quick to judge others while honestly they do worse things behind. The innocent lady was just confessing to free her mind. Look what she got. Angels that left heaven to stay on Thelma blog. Is all good. I accept. No need to go anonymous. Pls if you see Baba God. Tell him one of his daughters Dinma have sinned against him in soooo many ways. Ranging from watching porn. Got lost while relaxing her head on the full breast of one well endowed lady inside a tight taxi last month. Oh please don't forget to tell Baba God she has given in to sex after much pressure.

Ok so the blog reader left this as a comment but I thought to post it. Really some comments on that post irked me sha. Someone was confessing something naughty, she clearly didn't ask for any advice, she made it clear that she was just putting it out there so that others could also share their naughty confessions ( because NEWSFLASH: we all have some) and instead we started to advice her, some "judged" her and judged even those that chose to share. 

And speaking about those that chose to share; the 30 body count... 

You see, some people are virgins, come are celibate and some are sexually active, to each his/her own. 

For those who are sexually active and dating, not everyone is so lucky. Some are lucky to have one or two long term relationships in their twenties, thus they have what you might consider the right body count. Some others have several failed relationships and this naturally leads to a higher number of sex partners than the former have. 

On the other hand, some people just don't attach so much to sex and view it as recreational activity and therefore view "body count" as just a number. 

I really don't think it's anybody's place to judge or question and I honestly don't think there's any such things as the "right" body count for anyone. Thus when Kon asked me this question "@Thelma: What do you think is an okay body count for a 30year old babe?" I had two answers "As many as they please" or "One. Their spouse". 

Many blog readers here are celibate, a number of you are virgins, many aren't. We cannot impose our views and principles on others. This is not a religious blog and one group is no better than the other. Whatever you do with your temple is between and your creator. I also do not even remotely believe that someone who abstains from sex is a better or more moral person than someone who doesn't. Since many of us like to be religious and christian, it might interest us to know that the major principle in Christianity is LOVE, not sexual purity, love. LOL I mean, even David was a badt guy, the baddest of badt guys, to straff someone's wife and even get the person killed on top of that sef. Yet he was still called a man after God's own heart, is one of the most popular characters in the Bible, wrote probably the most read book in the Bible, The Psalms. Go figure...

So anyways, that's a blog readers rant. Feel free to either rant about whatever's getting your goat today, or share your thoughts on this post, or both, or neither...



  1. Oya
    Hammer it
    I now need a boo /bae
    Please which is body count

  2. Oya
    Hammer it
    I now need a boo /bae
    Please which one is body count

  3. Well I don't understand what people call "judgement" these days. It's had to get the right explanation for that word. All I saw was one or two people showing genuine concerns for the naughty attitude, which isn't out of place. As for the body count comments, we all know that society crowns men as kings and women as hos for the same body count issues so the follow up comments weren't surprising. I loved that post, and the only reason I didn't comment was because I didn't want anyone to faint. lol.

    But aside that, I want to correct an impression of Thelma here. Yes, this isn't a religious blog and people are VERY free with their opinions. But the principles of Christianity is actually LOVE and PURITY, not just LOVE. CHRIST taught us Love, HE also taught us PURITY. HE detests sin in all and every way that's why HE made HIS major priority saving sinners. The bible tells us time and time again that PURITY is the way to salvation, so while we understand that LOVE is a principle, you cannot LOVE and excuse impurity. It has never been that way.

    "Speak to the entire assembly of Israel and say to them: 'Be holy because I, the LORD your GOD, am holy." - Leviticus 19:2

    "But now you must be holy in everything you do, just as GOD who chose you is holy." - 1 Peter 1:15

    "But you are to be perfect, even as your FATHER in heaven is perfect." - Matthew 5:48

    And when David committed those grievous sins, GOD punished him severely. His child died, house was desolate and riddled with scandals and confusion, his son slept with his wives, overthrew him, and wanted him dead, and all Israel turned against him. All these happened even when he was still a man after GOD's heart. All these happened because GOD's principle is also the avoidance of sin, not excusing it and focusing on LOVE.

    "If you love me, obey my commandments" - John 14:15

    "For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another." - Galatians 5:13

    Don't excuse sin, don't excuse immorality...and don't judge. lol.

    Stay blessed always.

    1. True. To those showing concern: πŸ‘. To Those condeming:πŸ‘Ž. But everybody knows the right thing and the truth is the truth, regardless of perception.
      A Girl

    2. Excellently said Memphis! Always good to have you around.

    3. Many likes Memphis.

    4. I learnt something new abt David... i actually dint know he was punished! we always use him as an example to justify our sin especially cheating
      men.. lol.
      Tnks Memphis...

    5. Thanks Memphis, you always sum it up perfectly and stay blessed too

    6. Oh aw I love you Memphis for ds, was already mentally typing my response. But here u dd excellent & more as usual. πŸ’ͺπŸ‘

  4. TBH, I really didn't see much judgemental comments on there though. And I thought it was an interesting read from post to comment...

    Sex or no sex, love or no love... Life plays the kind of card it wishes for you and how u handle it defines you. And it's no one's business, ever.

    1. We are totally on the same page on this one.
      I didn't even see any judgemental comment.
      Just curious and concerned people.

      I still don't get what people define as judging.
      Toor... nah to dey look and not express our opinion abi? Issokay.
      Let's all pretend we love and accept fornication, adultery, homosexuality, drugs and all what not. And yes remind us to applaud and cheer them on too. Just so some people won't feel "judged". I think we can all do that. πŸ˜’

      And the "Christianity is love and not sexual purity" wow... plus the analogy. In this context. Just waaawu! That's all I can say.

    2. I'm not understanding the rant at all... as for Dinma... I will personally let God know n I'll also make sure he pats u on the back...

    3. I didn't feel people judged, just aired their opinions... maybe we should stick our opinions to ourselves then, this thou shall not judge attitude is the problem with the western world!!!

  5. Hmmmmm... I tell you if not that God allowed a woman to get pregnant after sleeping with a man. So many women will still claim being a virgin after being married. Living in the same roof with their husband for years. Oh Baba God pls let us have a new invention.... Anyone that commits funication or adultary should have it written on his or her forehead for months so that others will see.

    1. Lols

      See prayer


    2. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
      How would that make you feel? Ehn?! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ if only God responds to/grants our every whim!πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

  6. Can't find anything judgemental on the post . The body count girl of 30 with 30 actually shocked me if she wasn't a prostitute. If he is, then it's a job, but you can't tell me Christianity is all about love and you sleep with 30 guys under 12 years and say God loves David.That's crap abeg. And when Thelma said she'd go anon, then comes out to defend this post, I don't want t believe she is the one secretly boating about laying over 30 men in just a few years . My dear, Memphis killed it, no one is innocent, but we can't be applauding wanton immorality just because this is not a christian blog. I presume it's not a porn blog too .

  7. Hmmmmmm. let me read comments.

  8. Here's my rant, I want a relationship πŸ™. I'm not desperate but it's been a year since I was a girlfriend. I feel I should get into one now that I'm not under any pressure so I don't make a mistake.

  9. Judges and judginas, may God help us. Would you feel better if you knew the 30 before 30 girl is now a true born again christian and has been celibate for some time?

  10. My opinion of sasha Bone just went higher! That lady took the "judgments" on MMM with lots of humor. God bless her..

    Merry Christmas everybody!

    1. Amen and amen! 😊😊😊

    2. Merci beaucoup Monsieur Wale. Tu es très gentil..

  11. Omo,im still having those crazy fantasies of my church crush. It is well...

    1. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
      Just make sure you come back to tell us how it goes
      #RomanceStoryLoading #Anticipate #Sasha2017😍😍😍

  12. Lemme go back and re-read the post again.


  13. My own is that judgement is 100 percent allowed! Yes and please if you can stand the heat, better leave the kitchen, hian!
    Call it anything you like but they're generally 'opinions, and actually no "judgement/advice" on that post came from a bad place.

  14. It's funny when people excuse bad behaviour with the "thou shall not judge" statement.I read the comments over,no one sounded judgmental. Maybe it's the conscience of the poster that is disturbing her sha.

  15. Quick question: (assuming it's a woman) what if she's been approached by over 100 men, turned down 70 but consented to 30? Wld you still judge by the number she said No to or by the number she said Yes to?

    Not everyone should be placed on the standard you place urself. That you can't have 30 body count doesn't mean ur neighbor can't. And that ur neighbor has 30 body counts and above doesn't mean s(he) expects you to go out and do the same.

    David remains an amazing bible xter. Despite his badt guy moves and the atrocities meted upon his household,it was still the same woman upon which God blessed them with King Solomon.

    In the chronology of Christ, the prostitute (with many body counts I believe) shares a lineage with Jesus.

    All im trying to say is,in the end,when we are all old and wrinkle,wld you really care what body count ur fellow old neighbor has?


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