Happy new year thelma thinks family, please advise seriously needed. I am engaged to the man I consider the love of my life, and I used the think it was mutual. We dated for a year before he proposed on the 1st of December. I know he really wants to settle down and have a family of his own soon. I also know that he loves me, he pampers me a lot and respects me. I know he used to have a girlfriend who he loved in the past but I thought that was over. Last week I snooped and I read their chat and I have been so much confused since then. Their chats have spanned several months and I see that he is always the one who contacts her first, mostly she is cold but polite. He still tells her that he loves her and is in love with her etc, she only responds with lol. He only told her about me this December yet we've been dating since 2015, she asked him if he is seeing anybody and he said yes and he admitted that it is a serious relationship but he didn't even tell her that we are engaged. After that they started to chat more frequently. I don't understand why girls prefer men that are already taken, before he told her about me she was always cold to him, now they chat more often and when he contacts her she is warmer. Later on he admitted to her that he proposed to me and the lady was indifferent.
The part that is making me afraid now is that last week when he messaged her he told her that he still loves her, and that if she agrees to marry him he will immediately cancel our engagement. He said his parents still ask after her and his father still believes that she is the one who is meant to be his wife. Apparently when they were dating he wanted to marry her but she wasn't interested.
When he told her that, she said she too is already in a relationship, and besides that he has proposed to me so he should go ahead and marry me. His reply was "the only reason I proposed to her is because you don't want to marry me. Give me a yes and I swear by March we will be married".
She replied with lol and has not come back to the chat or responded to his messages since then.
I don't think she will come back to him so it's safe to say that he and I are still very engaged, but I no longer know how I feel. Everybody is telling me that it doesn't mean anything, that most people always have somebody else they will rather marry, but still have a good marriage with the person they marry. Is this true? I feel uncomfortable going ahead with the wedding plans knowing now that I am just a plan b.
Please advise me.