Someone once said, who you will be in ten(10) years is a function of the books you read and the people you know. I'll like to see that to mean, your growth in life partly depends on the knowledge you apply (which can be gleaned from books) and the relationship you built/are building.
I look at relationships as three(3) dimensional, mentors/superior, colleagial/friendship, mentees/protegees. Basically you have those you look up to, your colleagues/friends who you are on same level due to age, career growth e.t.c and then those who look up to you. So if indeed all round growth could be traceble to relationships one has, shouldn't the choosing and building of such relationships be intentional rather than left to chance?
It does seem of necessity to intentionally choose/groom your relationships based on your current & future goals. Objectively ask yourself, do I have situational or intentional relationships in my life? Can my situational relationships be made intentional? In what ways will I start building intentional relationships?
This is not to say situational relationships are entirely a no-do, but i'll like to think we can achieve more if we go all out to build the relationships we want rather than leave it to chance. I mean, that you attended same university or work in same office or was on the same flight with someone doesn't mean you have to build a relationship with them in any of the three dimensions aforementioned.
Finally you might want to build a relationship with certain people and they might not be interested, you have to be okay with that. Certain relationships are also for a season while some lasts for a lifetime, you should be able to appropriately differentiate and align yourself.
Thanks so much for this piece Favourite.
I totally agree that one should be strategic in building relationships, but I quite think this ought to be reserved for specific relationships. Situational relationships are completely inevitable, unless you live alone, under a rock, on an island. It's left for us to make the most out of it.