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They Said "Give Him a Chance"

January isn't a month in which I'd like to rant but he made me. 

*Kola has been asking me out for a while now. My former boss and some others said Kola is a big boy o! Don't use him to play o! The chics were even more enthralled, Kola is single (divorced) and what's more; an "island big boy". 

Supposed island big boy. 

Hmm, besides the fact that my heart is elsewhere, me sha I didn't really like Kola o! But they say "you're single until there's a ring on your finger, never turn any guy down. You don't know for sure who is God's plan for you". 

Anyways, long story short, last night Mr Island Boy Boy called to ask if I have Uber. I said yes. He asked if I can request a cab for him in the morning, he said he usually parks his car at the airport when travelling but the last time he parked his Range, when he came back it had been slightly defaced. 

So I asked what time his flight was and told him it wasn't a problem. His flight was for 9am, he said he wanted to leave home at 7am, I said that's fine. 

So I was surprised when he called my phone at 6am this morning and asked me to request the Uber now now. I told him that if I requested it then, a cab would be there in 2 minutes, so was he sure he was ready? He said yes. 

I requested the cab and gave him the address. I was shocked when over an hour later, I looked at my app and saw that they werent even halfway to the airport!

An hour later, a very irate Uber driver called me, and from his tone I knew something had gone wrong. 

"Madam, when I got there in the morning, he kept me waiting for ten minutes, when he finally came down, he said he is purging that he wants to go and poopoo. He now went for almost 15 minutes. When he finally came down again he said he first wants to go and and pay for something in the gym, that I should take him. Then by the time we came out to start going, traffic had started. The man now started to curse me. He said that it is my fault that there is traffic, that if he miss his flight he will have me arrested. Madam this man abused me from lekki till we reach the airport. Nobody has ever abused me in my life like that, he was just shouting and complaining till we reached the airport. Ok madam, we now reached, his money was N5,800. This man said he will pay me 2000. I thought he was joking but he came out of the car and said I should open the boot. He removed his box and threw 2000 Naira on me, that if I don't want to take the money I should leave it on the floor. So, madam I have reported to Uber. I just called to tell you that you are owing Uber 3,800 Naira". 


I don't even know what part of this story is pissing me off. I've always said people should be wary of a divorced man who blames the divorce ENTIRELY on his ex wife and never once suggests that he may have had a single role to play in it. If this happened, only God knows what former Mrs Kola must have had to put up with. 

But that's all beside the point. Why a man approaching 40 would behave this way baffles me. If the taxi was not an Uber then I would have thought the driver wasn't being entirely honest with me. But Uber drivers often are very polite, even when provoked. 

I have been calling Kola since morning for my 3,800 but he's yet to answer my call. 

On the bright side, Kola has given me valid reason to disfriend him, as I've wanted to from Day 1. I don't think that's God plan for my future. Thank you. 

How are things going at your end? 



  1. lol . The 3800 is the price of finding out the kind of A**hole he is upfront so don't feel bad.

  2. So how does this mean that Kola is not a good husband/boy friend. Dont be mixing up small issues.
    How does this mean anything?
    #GiveKolaAChance #GiveKolaAChance #GiveKolaAChance #GiveKolaAChance #GiveKolaAChance #GiveKolaAChance #GiveKolaAChance #GiveKolaAChance #GiveKolaAChance #GiveKolaAChance #GiveKolaAChance #GiveKolaAChance


    1. Kon this is not a "small" issue. 3800 may be "small" money but someone who does that has big issues. How does your uber fare, which isnt fixed by the cab driver btw, come to almost 6k then you pay the driver 2k and tell him to do his worst, leaving me who was doing a good deed to pay 3,800? Kola is not a decent human being imho, much less husband.

    2. Naa naaa. I dont think we can conclude on 1 bad behavior. He did wrong but it doesnt mean he isnt a good guy.


    3. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ @Kon

  3. Replies
    1. That's evil testing oh! Terrible behavior I would say, may God heal him.

    2. Test him back by not giving him a chance.

    3. Testing kwa... Me I no get dat kind patience ooo.

    4. Mstchewww! Test fire! This is a failed scenario.

    5. Well I don't support any kind of emotional distraction when one is in a (serious) relationship but I suspect all this is just some elaborate prank:

      1) "He kept me waiting for 10 minutes"
      2) "He now went to poopoo for almost 15 minutes"
      3) "He said he wants to go and and pay for something in the gym" (This is someone who's got a flight for 9am and is still in Lekki, already spending close to 45 minutes doing unnecessary things...and the "purging". lol)

      4) "We came out, traffic had started, he started cursing me saying it's my fault that there is traffic". (This doesn't make sense and by now it's obviously some minutes past 7am, and TRAFFIC).

      5) The Uber driver was irate when he called, yet Uber drivers "often are very polite, even when provoked".

      6) He's avoiding your call. (for what? Because of *chicken change* N3,800?).

      This may be real, but it's not adding up adequately. Are you sure he didn't give this driver some extra quid to play along? I may be wrong though and if I am, then good riddance. Whatever the case, prank or no, it sure is a perfect excuse to delete Kola from the friendzone.

    6. Memphis i'm legit owing uber 3,800 now so i dont see the "play" in that. I cannot take an uber cab until i pay that money. And of course he would sound irate to me, i'm not the passenger he carried. Irate does not mean rude btw, in this context; agitated. Whatever jare, its not that serious. Goodnight.

    7. Funny memphis πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

      ...amyway, looking forward

    8. Lol. Memphis, you probably should dial back on the Sherlock Holmes or Monk tv shows you been watching

  4. Kola must be high on some native kolanut!!!!

    1. As in, the kind of native kolanuts that is found in thick forests.

    2. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ I agree

  5. I can imagine the things Mrs Kola had to put up with,BTW,please don't give Kola a chance.

  6. Hehehe. Uncle Kola de vie. Showing his true colors since 2015. You weren't hesperring it...lool

  7. If ur heart is elsewhere, stay there then... why are u still looking for island big things?

    1. She tried to explain why but I don't think that's enough

  8. A typical example of when your good deed backfires.

    No need to talk too much,this kind of people I avoid doing something for except it won't cost me anything or I am just doing it for doing sake.


  9. hol up' hol up' hol up'! I am surprised no one here is saying that there are two sides to every story. Something in the story doesnt add up o! I agree with Memphis on the story not adding up bit.

    And did you just say Uber drivers are often very polite? Noooooooo no. 'poopoo' though? o_o

  10. This one is an uncle agbaya. The spirit of his exwife (even though she is still alive) is chasing this idiot. Never fall for all the big boy hype....

  11. If you dated him and later regretted it, people would ask you "didn't you see a sign that he was no husband material?"


  12. Maybe he was having a bad day....I mean everyone here might of rubbed someone the wrong way one day....doesn't mean we are all bad. I would do what Mr Kola did, that's disrespectful but everyone has been an a*hole to someone. Possible mr Kola will come and apologise and give you the money back...he needs to apologise to the uber driver too


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