The below are excerpts of the interview with Lawyer, activist and ex-Chairman of the National Human Rights Commission, Chidi Odinkalu, where he shares his fatherhood story with Gbenga Adeniji and its a very interesting read. You can't be Nigerian and not feel some type of way while reading it. Good some type of way or bad some type of way. Let's read.
How do you discipline your children?: I had a dad who wasn’t averse to sometimes enthusiastic laying of hands for disciplinary purposes. So I grew up with an instinctive aversion for that. I believe children are very perceptive. I am very much against beating or spanking. My children get when I am unhappy or need something addressed with urgency. I don’t need to scream or shout about it. It’s in a bond and skill of communication. Sometimes it is unspoken indeed; at other times it’s humour. Sometimes their privileges are tampered with; at other times the tone of communication does it. Discipline also can happen in knowing when not to say anything.
What hardest punishment have you meted out to any of them?: Believe it or not, it’s keeping quiet; ignoring them. They will usually trigger a discussion. Parenting in my view is about enabling children to trust themselves, their values and their judgement. It means encouraging them to have and find voice. They can’t do that if I beat or scream it out of them.
Guys, I think he's going to raise some very solid stand-up individuals but I couldn't help but wonder how many grown folk are ready to have an 8 year old call them by name and ask them to take the dishes to the kitchen themselves and do the dishes. But... His house his rules.