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Throwback Thursday. My First Love...

Last night, on the 15th, I wanted to take down the red and white balloons and ribbons I'd put up in the spirit of Valentine and just as the scissors made the first snip, a bunch of people raged uproariously. I was shocked by their collective protest.

"Don't take it down!" One tall, burly handsome guy said. I was surprised. Mr Macho has been coming around for years and we'd always exchange glances but never speak. He's one of the really masculine manly alpha male types, so I was taken aback when he lunged forward from his chair because I cut off a ribbon. 

"It's still Valentine, can't you see I'm still wearing my red", another cried, truly he wore a bold red shirt. Last I checked Valentine's Day is on the 14th, but okay...

I closed up at about 11.45pm and because it was quite late, I offered to give the DJ a ride to the bus stop. A young lady walked closely behind him, I soon learnt that she's his girlfriend who'd been watching her man play all night. 

"Awww, you guys are still doing Valentine" I teased. I'd expected the DJ to be a bit embarassed as most men would but he wasn't at all. "Yes nau. Valentine is until weekend!" He said owning it. 


So in the spirit of love & Valentine, I'm dedicating today's Throwback Thursday to our first loves. 

Do you remember your first love? I do. 

His name is Leo*. I was 17 when we started dating and shortly turned 18. He was 23. It was the most beautiful feeling; young love. I'd thought I was grown but when we really started dating, I began to feel more like a woman, more worldly, more knowing. He was also my first Valentine. I still remember the gifts he gave me, and I remember the Paco Rabanne aftershave I bought him, the most expensive thing I'd ever purchased in my life at the time. 
However, I got into the university and I saw that Jambito Rush was in the air, I simply couldn't let that exhilarating experience pass me by... It wasn't just the Jambito Rush to be honest. It was also the intoxicating feeling of freedom. For the first time in my life I was truly free... Or I could have been, but for a boyfriend. 
So... the boyfriend had to be eliminated, I chose freedom over love. Broke a man's heart and the tears he cried would come to haunt me years later. Yes, years later when (blog reader) J's husband's prophesy (I don't think he and J had met or become friends at the time) that I wouldn't find any guy that'd love me the way Leo did in a very long time, seemed to be coming true. 

Well, that's that. Leo and I are (facebook) friends now, he's a father and a husband and our past is history, just a page in the books of each other's lives. 

Now over to you. Who was your first love? How old were you? What was the relationship like? How did it end (if it did)? Are you friends now? Let's talk all about first loves... 😍😍😍


  1. My first love was around 1992. Most people in Nigeria had never seen anything like her before, she was first of her kind. I didnt even know how precious what I had was until some months later. I would get to School and tell people about her but they couldnt relate. I would rush home just to sit with her and we would play all day and night. She lived nearby. It wasnt sexual. It was pure excitement and fun. Her name was SNES.

    Oh! You 90s babies dont know SNES? Super Nintendo. After some years I broke her heart for Playstation. But I will never forget the love foundation she gave me.


    1. And I wasn't even born then....kai kon u don old o

    2. Lmao tho

      My first love dat neva eva cheated on me was my Sega mega drive console 1 and 2 😊😊😊😊

      Nothing has ever loved me more evn wen i cheated on it it stood by me

    3. LOL... kon baba.

  2. Wow, just wow. Thelma this makes me nostalgic.

    My first love? I met him when I was 15, he was 17. We got into Uni two years later and were campus hotties. He had he flaws, lots of them, but he was a great lover. I too was a drama queen with a huge ego. I left him for his contender over the years, when I left for NYSC. Reason being that I grew up faster than he did... I had always thought and acted much more mature than my age, but he was still doing daddy yo (lol). He was broken, his family called me, I was feeling cool with myself, I wasn't looking back, I had the world at my feet (or so I thought). We dated for 7 years, 2 of which were We later talked about it and promised to be there for each other as friends...YIMU!!!

    Several years later a lot of water has gone under that bridge, we aren't even cordial!!! At our besties' wedding a few months back, I was the CBM and he was the BM, very awkward I must say. I took the toast for my bestie, he took the toast for his bestie and tried to shade me while at it... Petty much!!!

  3. you are so not serious....lols

    no be only SNES


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    1. U feel me broda

      No love lost no love found

      Hope to find love soon

    2. Small boi like u ehn! Shidren of nowadays πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‰

  5. My first love wasn't an actual relationship but we were at it for 3 years. I didn't even know I was in love so I couldn't bask in it, it wasn't like I had a boyfriend or I was 19 and he was 5 or so years older.

    It ended so abruptly, I was in shock for weeks. Three weeks later, he was in a relationship (I guess I was a side boo), he married the relationship last year. We're sorta cordial now, we talk on a need to basis.

    I need to love like that again, it was so easy... sigh..

    1. i hope you love BETTER, not like that.

    2. Hmmmmmmm Oro nla..

  6. Hmmmmmmmmm
    ..I just met my first love

  7. My first love was..... no story to tell 😞

  8. I think I'm with my first love. I love the feeling....bimut it's a shame it's long distance. Brings a lot of misunderstandings (he has a preconceived idea that I'm jealous when I really couldn't care less) , he thinks I'm selfish too, when I can give the shirt off my back for someone else. But it's cool, hope it gets clarified soon. My own is if you see so much flaws in me why do you still want to spend your life with me

  9. I was 14+ and he was in 300 level. That has to be my worst relationship so far. I was too young. I'm glad I broke up with him to be a worker in my fellowship cos those worker days were defining of my relationship with God.


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After listening to a song "IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY TELL THEM THAT YOU
LOVE THEM and watching the season film of The Secret Life of
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