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"Are You Deaf?", "Do Your Worst!" & "Marry Me And My Life Will Be Complete" (3 Things They Said To Me).

So I told y'all that I had to take time off everything else and dedicate the next months of my life to running, managing and transforming this great place called Chidoz ๐Ÿ˜.

Basically for now it's mine; assets and liabilities. 

I can't go into all the details now but suffice it to say that it's really not an easy business to run, moreso when the majority your customers are not the cool kids that you're used to dealing with. 

I had to let go of some staff and until I hire the kind of staff I need, I remain short-staffed and this means that I have to not only interface but also tend to customers, on very busy nights. 

You see, I don't mind busy nights. Busy nights are good, busy nights mean mo'money. 

And I have never ever wanted to serve customers before, but when a business is in your hands, you will smile and do what needs to be done. 

This sometimes means joining the waiters to cater to customers on busy nights. 


It's actually fine. 

Until I come across some rather special customers. 

Tonight business is a bit gentle, guess most people demolished their wallets yesterday (yesterday was crazzzzayyyy!) so for now I get to sit back and play boss and reflect on the last week. 

Which reminds me of things that were said to me by some of our guests. 

1. Are you deaf? Here's what happened. He asked for a big bottle of Eva water at room temperature. I actually didn't hear that part and thought I was doing him a favour by grabbing the coldest bottle in the chiller and serving it to him, because Lagos heat. 
      Well.... he held the bottle and all but threw it at me. "Onwe ihe n'eme gi n'isi? (Igbo for 'is there something worrying you in the head?'). Are you deaf? I said warm water, what is this!". I was rooted to the spot trying to figure out the worst that would happen if I emptied the bottle of chilled water on his round head. Well, until a waiter appeared, grabbed the errant bottle and ran to get another while I held my head high and walked away with grace and elegance; the hardest thing I've had to do all month... 

2. Do your worst. So this guy bought one large cat fish to eat, all alone. Half way through he realized that he could not finish the meal by himself and asked for a takeaway plastic bowl. The bowl he asked for costs about N350. When he saw that on the bill he said he wouldn't be paying for it. Helpless, the waiters came to call me as madam concerned. When the man saw me approaching he blew a fuse. "Why did they call you? Will you call police for me? Do your worst, am not paying for plastic!". Apparently uncle felt that we should not charge him for the plastic bowl, because... (I have no idea). I don't know how but I suddenly started laughing and teasing him, stroked his ego a bit and next thing I knew, he started blushing, paid in full and even left the change. 

3. Just marry me and my life will be complete! As you can imagine, there's no night someone isn't trying to get my number, woo me or want to get to know me better. But on this one night, this one guy took it up a notch and went to meet my parents who were both there, to tell them that he has found his wife. I went to meet my mum to get some keys, not knowing I was the reason for the gathering. When I joined them this drama king fell to his knees and clasped his hands together as though in prayer. "Nne, just marry me. Marry me and my life will be complete!" This was followed by several incoherent promises which I could cash in on, after the marriage. 
      My parents and I were watching this film show, the guy was very serious, yet animated and it was hard not to laugh. Slowly, I slunk backwards towards where I'd come from, leaving my parents to deal with their son-in-law in a non-existent universe. 


It's not by any standards an easy business to run, but for the first time in a long time, I'm loving the challenge. There's so much, like sooooo much work to be done. But I'm excited to see God in action. 

It's a bit more challenging because I'm also currently co-planning a conference holding in April (I will invite y'all when time comes) and a wedding around the same period. These were jobs I took on before I knew life had certain other plans for me. Surely, I'm still loving and exploring events management, but Chidoz (I think I'll have to change the name at some point ๐Ÿ’ญ๐Ÿ’ญ) is my primary purpose right now. 

Sometime soon we'd have a TTB hangout here and you'll eat some real good catfish, the best peppered goat meat this side of town, and drink some chilled brew for the soul. 

Who's here for that? ๐Ÿ˜‰


  1. We have to put up with a lot of things when faced with such scenario that you described, it also shows a sense of maturity sometimes when you keep cool and avoid reacting or speaking rudely. Well done Thelma
    Looking forward to eating the catfish.

  2. The peppered goat meat got me! Choi!

    That business does make good money despite the drama, Jevinik and co started like that and even on a lower scale.

    Best of luck Thelma.

  3. I am here for that biko.. catfish,ohh catfish,my favourite.. T I can relate with your experience,had worse when I helped my aunt out at her restaurant and when I worked with sweet sensation,it just made me realize the.kind of humans existing. God bless your hustle nne. maybel

  4. Proud of you Tee

  5. Running a business - restaurant and bar is not really easy add that to the mannerisms of some customers.

    Ji sie ike bebe. Best wishes! Being hands on with it is good.

  6. People dey o @are you deaf.

    We will drop in anytime we are around that area.J

  7. Better keep Chidoz and stop trying to overposh the place. At least the name is not mama chidoz. If I get the opportunity to start a buka style business right now, I will so jump on it. The way those businesses if managed well are cash cows is ridiculous. Best enjoy it and make the absolute best of it.

    1. I know a banker that quit her job , we'll paying job to open a buka . she says it's a crash cow. I totally feel you jor.

      all these white collar jobs ain't smiling .

    2. cash cow biko
      this yeye phone editor abi it's text editor or warreva

  8. Sincerely, I'm not sure how I would've reacted to the first situation. I'm a reticent person but very unpredictable when I feel insulted or intimidated. I know I still have some growing up to do.

  9. Lol @are you deaf.. The man no look your face?

    Well done. Restaurant and bar businesses are not easy to run at all.. All the very best.

    As for me, I'm down for the catfish and peppered goat meat, any day anytime. Just send me the address.

  10. Proud of you T! Where's it located?

  11. Abeg drop the address so I can patronize. I hope the beer is pump price.


  12. Nice one Thelma. It takes extra grace to run a restaurant. BTW I think you should leave the name.

  13. YAY the foodie in me cant wait. Congrats Thelma

  14. where's it located? let me come eat correct soup

  15. Yaay!! Catfish peppersoup and goat meat is bae. Well done Thelma.

  16. Srzly d first situation i dont jst knw wat i wud hv done we all xperience ds in our places of work most especially wen u are serving pple

    So kudos to u thelma for handling it in d most mature way ever ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

    Luking 4ward to d catfish and d goatmeat

    Were is it located at thelma

  17. Congrats Thelma. And I'm down for food anyway๐Ÿ˜Š

  18. Goodluck wt d business Tee and pls try & be ignoring em irate customers, u don't know Wat dey're dealing with but moreso bc moni has to be made.


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