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Tuesday, 14 March 2017

Getting Older!





Is it okay to admit that I think about it, getting older, and I nearly freak out?

Is it okay to admit that I don't feel that age at all?
Seriously guys, I still do. So you can imagine how weird it all feels... Somewhere at the back of my mind I can't believe I'm actually going to be..... shhhhhhh, I can't even say it yet. 

I remember late 2015 when a blog reader called me and complained about her boyfriend complaining about the way she dressed. She'd said he wanted her to dress more conservatively. She didn't like that. She said and I quote "I don't see what's wrong with how I dress. I cannot be dressing like an old woman, I cannot be dressing as if I'm 30 or 40, I'm still young biko". 

I was 30 at the time and I'd just caught a glimpse of what 30 looked like to a 23 year old. 

It wasn't very pretty. 

However, In my current reality, I seem to be having the best time of my life everrrrrrr, since I turned 30, so no it's not bad at all. 

I'm in a very good place, I haven't got much to complain about at the moment (besides maybe, my blog not being where it should be because of me not doing the things I should do, but that's story for another day), I've not felt this happy and optimistic ever before, so why does my heart skip a beat when I realize I'm turning 32 in 2 days?

What is is about getting older that makes us freak out, or become reflective, or even make some of us lie about our age? 

Really, what is it? 

So anyways, hello, my name is Thelma, and I'm 32. How old are you?

(I'm serious, I want everyone who read this to tell me their age, you're free to go anonymous if you like. I suddenly just want to know how old (or young) everyone else is...)




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62 comments:

  1. I'm 29 presently. I see 30 coming and I frankly, I get anxiety attacks. This has more to do with not being where I pictured I was going to be a decade go, and less with the feeling of being old. If I was as upwardly mobile as I had envisioned, I definitely would rock my age with no apology. So yes, I guess I'm sonewhat like Gerald up there!

    B.

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    1. B I can totally relate. When 30 is looming and those things we had imagined would have happened before then haven't happened, we begin to panic or get depressed. I think it all boils down to the unnecessary heavy weight we attach to 30. On the bright side sha, so much can happen in less than a year. Some of the things you'd hoped for may happen before 30. Some may not, but guess what, something even better might happen afterwards. Just keep being grateful for how far you've come.

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  2. I'll be 21 by March 18th. And here I am, feeling old

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    1. LOL. You can't be serious @ feeling old. No my love, you're anything but old trust me. You're just entering the most carefree, fun, exciting, adventurous, enlightening years of your life and you want to spend these moments feeling old? Don't worry, you'll have a lot of time to feel old later. For now, Morayo please enjoy your very very very fresh youth. Lol.

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  3. would be 32 in May. There are times I add an extra year or 2 to my age cos I always feel like a smally in the midst of the other Ladies I see. Happy birthday in advance

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    1. You add??? It's funny because these same ladies would be wishing they're 2 years younger and there you are claiming to be 2 years older 😊

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  4. Hi....my name is Ola and i am 23

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  5. Turned 30 last month. Was actually excited and announced my age everywhere. Growing older is nothing to be ashamed of.
    I love the woman I've grown into and I see my 30s as a time to leave my comfort zone and grow my career ( which sort of stalled in the past 4 years due to marriage and having 2 babies.)

    Gift

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    1. Hello Gift! You sound like you're ready to grab life by the balls. I'm rooting for you πŸ˜‰πŸ‘

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  6. I'm sooo glad to see a new post today. Chai!!!

    25. (About to enter)

    Ruby Diamond.

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    1. I'm touched that even when I don't post for days, you still come and check if I've posted. Chaiii. Thank you oooo.

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  7. Hi all, my name is Chris and I'm 27.

    I guess for many, we tend to often use age as the metric to define success in life or to quantify one's achievements over a period of time. Doing so usually exposes many to some (shocking) reality that 'success' with respect to one's age isn't as rapid as we often desire it to be.

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    1. I think I still marvel at your age. Before your TTB hot seat post I'd always thought you're in your mid-40s. You're wise beyond your years, but i know that's not news to you.

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    2. I always thought chrisyinks was older too!

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    3. @ Thelma,

      I get that often. Surprisingly enough, in person, I'm the very opposite of seriousness and wisdom blog readers seem to easily ascribe to my comments. Thanks for the compliment....and I don't think I'd get tired of hearing such words once more.....especially when it is coming from you Thelma.

      Thanks Nubian. Chrisyinks

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  8. Hello, my name is *Sunshine, and I'm 26 years old.

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    1. Why did I have this very vivid dream a few days ago of your asking me for some red dress you wanted to wear for a dinner date. I kept telling you it would be too big for you but you said it you didn't mind, you'd wear it like that. When they brought the dress and you put it on, it was your perfect size. Hmmmm.
      Does it mean sunshine is about to be an orobo like thelma, or that thelma is about to lose some serious weight? I hope for my sake it's the latter. LOL.

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    2. Hahaha! It means Sunshine is already on the path to being an orobo...lol

      I'm working in it tho, Lepa (or a very cute version of it) for life!

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    3. Lol,Thelma your dream got me.. thank God u finally posted,I called u thrice yesterday to find out if you are fine.only for me to actually notice the sound I heard thinking it was ringing was actually the sound a line makes when the call engages and ohh no glo didn't give me the chance to send u the msgs via whatsapp. am glad you posted. maybel

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    4. Definitely the former πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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  9. Name : kenechuckwu
    Gender : male
    Age : 23

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    1. isn't it just so nice you graduated at 23/23.
      from a 5/6 year course. well done and all the best.

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  10. My name is Mayowa and I'm 27

    I feel I should have achieved more at this age, I know we are not all running the same race so I try not to base my achievements on age.

    When the man that built a bungalow is doing house warming, the man that's building a skyscraper will still be doing foundation. To the world he's slow, but the ends justifies the means

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  11. Hi everyone,my name is Maybel and am 25( will be in November)..suddenly there is this excitement I feel as I get older eachday funny but li like the feeling biko and Thelma why do I have a feeling that I am the one you referring to in your post cos I remember laying the same complain about my then Bf about this same issue. LOL,don't mind me,I just like amebo biko.but funny how I also started to dress more conservatively immediately I turned 24 last year,does maturity come with age really? Plus I use to lie about my age one time because when I tell people back then my age,they always say its a lie with all these body fat,how can u be born in 1992, so I started claiming 27. LOL but hey,I have given up on doing that a long time ago biko,its either u believe my real age or go and sitdon. LOL. Maybel

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    1. What is wowing u biko?. LOL. maybel

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  12. My name is Ibukunoluwa and I would be 22 by July. I look at that age and cringe because I'm not where I envisioned I'll be. I am looking forward to the year though, I'm trying to put in place things for the year sha. By God's grace it's a fruitful year.

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  13. Now I feel ancient. I am 41 but still feel like the teenager I once was.

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  14. Hi

    my name is favourite and am 30,clocked 30 last year.....ermmm, never had anxiety attacks about age and i really dont feel 30, and most people dont believe it when i tell them, like NO, its a lie, you must be 25/27.

    well, for those dreading the 30s i think its all about your perspective...for me 30 rocks

    FavouriteShades

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    1. Wow! I could have sworn we were age mates.. You don't look 30 at all

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    2. Don't mind her,she doesn't wanna grow old.. am jealous joor. LOL. maybel

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    3. lols sunshine, we are agemates jor

      seriously tho, age is just but a number

      FavouriteShades

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  15. Im kon! Im 25. Ill be 25 forever.

    Peace.

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    1. Hehehehheehehehehe,okay now.. kon kon. maybel

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    2. Your boxers just caught fire!

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    3. We know you are still young boy..Biko coman spill your age jor..πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ™„πŸ™„TNHW

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  16. Hi, my name is Ib n I turned 24 in February. I feel so old especially cos most of my friends are younger n they always tease me saying I should go n get married.

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  17. I'm Ola. I'll be 22 in August. I remember how bad I wanted to be 18 when I was 16. I now dread getting older probably because I feel I'm nowhere near what I want to be (I didn't phrase that rightly though). I'll be through with NYSC soon and I'm still hoping for some sort of miracle. I believe it will be a great year Tee.

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  18. My name is Kabuoy

    And I'm 2* years old. Born in 199* 😊

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    1. You were born in 1997. We know.

      Peace.

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    2. Comman babe just say it, we are are matesπŸ˜†

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    3. Biaaa,what's the meaning of this one now madam? Oya start spilling before I flog u now. maybel

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  19. My name is Cindy Brown,
    I turned 27 last month, honestly I feel closer to 30 and I'm horrified about it.
    *sigh*

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    1. Horrified kee? Don't think you should be hun,as for me,can't wait to be 30biko.....maybel

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    2. awww @cindybrown, theres nothing to be horrified about especially as you cannot slow down the oncoming 30.

      perhaps you could identify what brings the horrifying feelings and see what you can do about it.

      Dear Maybel,

      dont be in a rush,are you a russian?

      FavouriteShades

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    3. Lol,am from russia. Maybel

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  20. Hi, I'm I and I'll be 20 in May. I guess I'm the youngest person to comment so far.

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  21. Bia, all you young young people in this place, my name is now Aunty Sunshine o... And Kabuoy, what is the meaning of that asterisk?

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    1. Shey aunty is small,maybe we should all call u big mummy.LOL. Yinmu. maybel

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    2. AuntieSunshine,awayu?

      FavouriteShades

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  22. All this people here make me feel like an aunt. Choi. My name is Clare and I am 35.
    I now dread getting to 40. I am yet to achieve a number of goals I set out for my self. I feel like I'm not pushing my self enough , even though a few people around me think I am. Honestly there are days I want to be 25 again to do some things I ougot to have done .
    But I thank God for life and the fact that I can still dream.
    I know in due time I'd get there.

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    1. Trust me, the auntClare is well earned, it isnt so much about the age but about your approach and well informed/formed opinions which is quite obvious in your comments.

      Like see wisdom on display

      FavouriteShades

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    2. We'd love to hear some of the things you wished you accomplished... 😊

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  23. Hi, my name is Hope and I'm 23. Btw, Thelma, I love your blog and you somehow made me start mine.

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  24. Hi...My name is Yetunde..(All this hi's be making this place look like like an AA classπŸ™„πŸ™„)I am 29..TNHW

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  25. Hi my name is C, am 33 and have tried to forget my age cos am not where I thought I would be.

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