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Monday, 17 April 2017

3 Types of Blog Readers & 1 Thing I Hate About Being a Blogger.





And if you read that title and turned up your nose in a yinmu position saying "this one too thinks she's a blogger" I wouldn't blame you o jare. Me sef, I used the word loosely. 

In any case I'm still posting on this blog so I'll call myself that. 

Yesterday, our darling blog reader, Tiwa celebrated her son's birthday. Hello, Leon just turned 1πŸŽ‚.  Time flies mehnnnn. I still remember that night she gave birth to him when she sent me a video from the labour room. One insanely cute video that made my womb squeal!

So we went to turn up with Leon yesterday and two of my favs from the blog showed up too, Kon and Sunshine. 

This post was inspired by Kon. 

So you see, I've been thinking about it since yesterday. Why was Kon so quiet? I know he's a bit shyer than you'd expect but I notice that after the ice has broken, he would really calm down and open up. At least that's what I noticed when he came for my nephew's 1st birthday in January. He was that way with everyone. Except me. 

He seems quite tense around me and I almost have to pry his mouth open with a plier to get two words out. 

It hit me this morning; Thelma he doesn't want you to use him and do story on your blog.

Aha! *light bulb moment

I've noticed this when I ask some people somewhat personal questions. They clam up and suddenly have nervous ticks. They fall into three categories. 

The first one; they look me straight in the face and say "abeg o! Before next thing now, I will come and see my gist on your blog" after which they will immediately change the conversation. 😭

The second category, they'd start talking, pause, look me in the eyes with fear and uncertainty and solemnly say "Thelma, please I'm telling you this in confidence, please, please, please, it is not for you to go and post on the blog" and then I will hold that gaze and nod my head with equal solemnity and then they download the gist! πŸ˜ƒ

And then the third, like Kon perhaps, would just not even talk at all. They'd keep the gist very neutral, very surface, very safe! These ones don't want Wahala at all, it's like if they see me coming one way they'd walk the other way. Nawa o! If I didn't know better I'd think my name is SDK. 


LOL. 


In the cases of 1 and 2 above I always feel very hurt because most times I'm not even thinking about the blog, I just want to know more about a person and their situation and it's always for harmless reasons. 

So Kon and everyone else who's ever shied away from talking to me, y'all really hurt my feelings πŸ’”πŸ˜­

I mean, I have some of my blog readers' dirtiest secrets and you've never read any here or anywhere else so....

Ok. That's that. 

Sunshine said if I'm not blogging anymore I should just shut down the blog so that people can stop opening it and checking. I feel you sis! I feel you. 

But let's be taking it one day at a time, shall we?


How are y'all doing?




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19 comments:

  1. Thelma!!! 😁😘😘 please don't shut it down jare. I can always read old posts and reminisce on the good times and you'll definitely miss blogging 😁 Or maybe us(special people like yours truly πŸ˜‚)
    Hope you're alright! I can understand the pressure and stress you're probably going through right now... to add blogging to it would be !!!! I understand so just like we said... let's take it one day at a time... Iv missed you though. Your blog is the only page Iv opened since Iv been back to civilization 😁 That's says a lot!😁😁😁
    It pained me gaaan ooo! That I missed Leon's birthday.but it's all good! I'm happy you guys had fun! *hugs*

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    1. Well if things go well we might be having another blog baby's birthday next month. You must be at that one, or else... 😀😀😀

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    2. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ yes ma'am!!!!!

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  2. Ha....shut down ke. Please o. don't try it.

    Well done Thelma , I saw your post on Instagram and I'm sure you'd get a spot.
    Your desire to succeed is the key . You will go global.

    I used to think of had all things figured out.....them I got married...then came the kids.....I just feel like I carry the world on my shoulders sometimes.

    Its over whelming , we can only take life onew step at a time.

    Congrats Tiwa. Your son will grow in good health and love.

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  3. Ha....shut down ke. Please o. don't try it.

    Well done Thelma , I saw your post on Instagram and I'm sure you'd get a spot.
    Your desire to succeed is the key . You will go global.

    I used to think I had all things figured out.....then I got married...then came the kids.....I just feel like I carry the world on my shoulders sometimes.

    Its over whelming , we can only take life one step at a time.

    Congrats Tiwa. Your son will grow in good health and love.

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  4. Pls don't shut down the blog T
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    erhm, while I wait for kon to respond to this.

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  5. see me laughing trying to reconcile the seemingly 'outspoken' Kon to the 'shy' Kon.....hehehe.

    I am doing well....my days are looking very optimistic.

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  6. Lol... Kon is like that with everyone, he only ever opens up when it's politics or some general gist like that. See as he clamped up when you asked that question yesterday πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ the gist just shutdown from thereπŸ˜‚.

    You didn't talk about BVs like me tho, we don't hesitate at all, we just start downloading the gist straight! I have never thought twice about telling you stuff tho, I just sort of know that you won't post my story or gist without permission. Its just never occurred to me.

    Yesterday was fun tho and that my correct prediction is still sweeting meπŸ˜„

    Quick question: so out of the 1 million and one selfies we took, only two made the cut?πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    1. Wats ur prediction? Thelma's engaged? Pregnant?

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    2. Sunshine it's not that only two made the cut, but all of them were basically the same πŸ˜’. Like, if you've see one you've seen them all. LOL.

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  7. Dear BVs, biko T would never use ur conversation as blog fodder unless you tell her to. So please feel free to open up if you feel like. I know for a fact she's a great listener too

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    1. Ziggyyyyyy! Thanks for the hote of confidence mama! 😘

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  8. Dont even think of shutting it down .. I have been Mia...so sorry..my hands have been too full! But I'm back now.

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  9. Hahahaha. This is funny. Naa...Its not like that. Im just generally a quiet person.

    I do more of asking questions *Wink. People that ask questions know how to avoid questions.

    Peace.

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  10. Kon ati multiple personality traits. lol

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  11. Hmmn, in short, this post is about why Kon didn’t download gist to you...lol
    I don’t think it was about his hesitance to download (abi is it upload sef?) gist, I think it’s his personality type. If I remember correctly, some BV’s made comments on his “apparent”* reservation at the last TTB group hangout which you were not present at. So hope that makes you feel better 

    * apparent in quote because his personality may appear reserved, but just needs the right environment, topic and people to pique his interest.

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  12. Interesting that Thelma blogs but couldn't get words out of Kon, whatever happened to tequila!

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