I recently started dating Ayo (not real name). It's still very fresh, less than one month. We're in that honeymoon phase, we like each other a whole lot, I've been very excited because he is the most handsome man I know and now he's even my boyfriend. He's a nice and very hardworking man. But when we were talking last night he said something I found very weird. I was visiting my parents for the weekend and I told him that I was in my mum's room and I would sleep there for the night. He asked why I wanted to and I said nothing, that I just like it. He then said he too he likes sleeping with his mum when he goes to visit her, that in fact when he travels to visit her it's in her room that he always sleeps. I found it strange that a 34 year old man would still sleep in the same bed with his mother but that wasn't even the strange part. He said that he likes sleeping with his mum because he likes playing with that black thing. That he plays with it until he sleeps off. I asked him what black thing and he said her nipple nau. I was shocked and disgusted. He noticed and said why am I surprised, that he even sucks it sometimes when he's bored or having difficulty sleeping. I nearly vomited and I told him that that isn't normal behaviour. He couldn't understand why there's anything wrong with his playing with his mother's nipple after all it's the same breast that suckled him as a child so what was different now just because he is an adult? Honestly I didn't know how to respond to this. I'm 29 and believe in dating with a purpose, and I was hoping that one day we would get married, he too has said he would like to be married soon. But after that conversation I just feel so weird about the whole thing. I was already starting to fall in love with him but I can still break up with him and move on easily because the relationship hasn't gone far. But I want to hear from BVs what they think. Is this one a deal breaker or it is not a big deal? Another thing is that won't this kind of mother that is too attached to her son be problematic to any woman in his life? I don't know, I'm just asking. Please advise me.
Update; he was not joking. I've called him this morning to ask again and he got angry. He is now saying he'll be careful with what he tells me in the future because I'm showing that he cannot be open with me.