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A male friend of mine who's eager to settle down (no, not only women are "desperate" to marry) is a bit confused. So he's praying to wed by December of this year and is actively pursuing this goal. He has cut his search down to two young ladies. There were other ladies in the running, some whom he even liked,probably loved more than this two, but they didn't meet the wifey criteria... Like this one he was in love with who claimed that as a feminist, when she's a wife she would continue to go for late night drinks and meetings with clients and prospective clients because if a husband can, so can a wife... This argument arose after she left home at 11pm one night because that was the only time a client was available to meet. She came back after 1am and insisted that it was a part of her job and she had done nothing wrong. Well after that *Sam began to have his doubts.
Back to the matter. Sam is seeing two young ladies and he swears he loves them both equally (is that really possible?) and would be happy to marry one of them. The problem is that these two ladies are distinctly different.
*Aramide pushes him to do better. Most men say they want a woman who pushes them to be better and do better. Sam earns about 200k a month and lives in a comfortable one bedroom apartment. About two weeks ago Aramide said to him "But you know you need to get a better job, like, before we go further... I will send you leads on vacancies and also see who I can talk to. You also need to start sending out your CV, you need a better paying job or else..."
*Tolani on the other hand said these words to him one night just a week before that "I know that where you are now is the least you will ever be in your life. But I want you to know that even if it is not, I will always be there by your side".
Now the question, people, is who among these 2 do you think would make a better wife?
The ride or die one who would stay with him whether in Mushin or Manhattan, whether in a luxury Benz or in a BRT bus, or the goal-getter chic who has high standards and high expectations and pushes and also helps him to go higher?
In his shoes, who among these 2 would you favour as a wife?
Aramide or Tolani?
Ladies and gentlemen, Sam needs your help. Thanks.