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MUST READ: My Daughter with Cerebral Palsy Was Battered by the Therapist I Trusted

Cerebral Palsy is a parent’s worst nightmare. I had my period of living in denial; wishing the problem would go away, like it was all a dream, but the reality stared me in the face.My husband and I decided to face the challenge before us squarely.We engaged different specialist; Neurologist, Paediatrician, Physiotherapist, Speech therapist, Occupational therapist, Special Needs Care Givers. At one point we were scouting for a very good physiotherapist.A parent of a special needs child recommended a young lady to me. I mentioned her name to one of my daughter’s therapist who confirmed that the lady was very good at her job. However, she also confirmed that the lady could be arrogant. I spoke with another therapist on the field who also confirmed that the recommended Physiotherapist was good at what she does but she could be rude.Well, at that point of my life, I didn’t mind if she was going to be rude to me or arrogant as far as she was as good as everyone had said, I was fine with tha…

Get Me An Adulter Adult!

That's what I need; an adulter adult, because I'm not sure about this grown up lifestyle, it's WORK!
I knew I had to pull my head up from under the sand when suddenly today I started getting calls and mails from the blog, as if y'all held a meeting last night. Up until now I hadn't heard from anyone and I was like, it's just as well, after all they aren't finding me. LOL. 
Yes, I've been fine, thank God. But things can get crazy, especially when you're trying to make it on your own as a single woman with dreams as big as Texas!
Big dreams don't come cheap, as I'm coming to realize. 
Last week and most of the weekend I was at this class at The Oriental Hotel and my tutor/mentor is insane! Most days we're there from 9am till 10pm, with just two hours break in between. During the break my class bff would have to go for school runs in Ikoyi and drop her kids back home at Banana Island. By the time we get back to VI there's barely enough time…


Daisy, before the ailment. (You may notice she was a lot slimmer before she took ill, that's because of the drugs being administered to her)

Yesterday I received a call from a family member of the patient. She was in tears and sounded very distressed. She appealed to me to share this on my blog in the hope that your hearts will be touched to assist with whatever you can. 

It is with a broken heart that I'm writing to make this passionate appeal to you all to come to the aid of my family. We need your assistance, no matter how small it may be. 

My daughter, Ms TOUNYE DAISY OKUDU (14 years old) has been down with ill health since January, 2017. She had a brain tumour (medulloblastoma) and has since undergone 2 major surgery in Nigeria before proceeding to India for more surgery she is still undergoing intensive treatment to help get her back to her normal self. 

We are in dire need of your assistance -(30,000 thousand dollars) to continue with her intensive treatment which may soon …

I'd Rather Have a Wedding...

Hey guys! This morning when the rain started my first instinct was panic. Yeah, if you're in south-western Nigeria the rains would always be welcome because our weather most times feels like punishment for a grievous offense and PHCN tends to act like a scorned lover. 
So once the clouds start to turn gray there's always this air of joy and relief... Well unless it's a week day morning and you take public transport to work...
This morning however I started to panic, like, Yekpa people are getting married today!. Never mind that I'm not one of "people" nor do I have any wedding ceremony to attend.
I just think it's one of those things I'm most afraid of; heavy rain on my wedding day. 
Trust Nigerians, we'd console ourselves by saying it's "showers of blessings" but errrr, nope!
Speaking of weddings, I'm sure you've seen the tweet above by now. 
I've thought long and hard about it, would I like this or would I resent this? I…

True or False?

Heyyyyyyy. What position are you in your family? 
I'm the last born in mine but this doesn't apply to me so much, save for being uncomplicated. 
Ok, I like attention from those I'm close to, especially when I'm in a relationship, but I wouldn't exactly describe myself as an attention seeker. LOL. 


5 Lies You Have Been Told About Entrepreneurship In Nigeria.

...Because we're at a point in life where entrepreneurship is becoming a trend and many of us find ourselves in it, either out of passion or pressure, or are contemplating venturing into it... 

Nigeria, like any other country on the planet is unique in its own ways and as an entrepreneur, it’s almost forgivable to assume that picking up a book on entrepreneurship or taking an MBA can prepare you for this uniqueness; but as many over the years have come to learn, principles might be universal but experiences are local. Nothing in that MBA will prepare you for the area-boys that will demand to be paid before your goods can pass a certain route or fraudulent generator repair guys, that deliberately sabotage your generator, so you can call them again (All factors you did not consider in your cost of production). While there is so much we can discuss on, as it concerns entrepreneurship in Nigeria, I will just stick to these 5 lies you’ve been told. You can be flexible with your time Speaki…

Giveaway! Size 39 Shoes...

Heyyyy! So we have a giveaway courtesy of Sunshine. 
: It's a size 39 suede shoe (pictures above) but only someone with slim feet would enjoy it.

The winner should be able to pick it up in VI during the week or yaba/akoka on a weekend.

If you're interested and are able to pick it up from either VI or Yaba/Akoka, please comment below with your email address and the lucky lady would be reached. 

May God bless the hands that give. 


Dear Empress Njamah, Don't Be That Female That Sets Women Back By 50 Years.

I just watched a clip of Empress Njamah saying that its not always a man's fault when there's domestic violence in a relationship. According to her sometimes women are headstrong and torture and torment their men mentally to the point where they push the man to hit them. So... women should help the men control their anger. 

If this is true then I have a few questions for Empress and all other ignorant proponents of this line of thought, especially the men. 
-If your wife is a body builder like this woman above, will you dare raise your hands on her? 
-When you cause your wife emotional torture, turmoil and neglect, does she slap and punch you? No, instead most Nigerian wives enter War Room mode and become prayer warriors. So why use your fist?
-If her mouth is too sharp, don't you too have a mouth? 
-If your mother or sister had "sharp mouth" (since sharp mouth is you people's justification), would you thrash them the way you do your wife? 
-Many of you have little…

One Liners.

Heyyyyyy. I'm in that mood this morning so yes, let's do this! 
It says drop a line from your favourite worship song. 

"And I'll praise you in this storm, and I will lift my hands. For You are who You are, no matter where I am" - Praise You In The Storm; Casting Crown

So your turn, and in any language too!

True OR False? Discuss.

To know if an Hausa man is rich, look at his kids. An Igbo man, look at his wife. A Yoruba man, look at HIM? 
What do you think?

Mothers. We All Have Them!

Apologies for the delay in posting comments and posts. My faithful ipad finally gave up after 5 years of loyal service and almost four years of service to the blog. It did most things for me so I never bothered with a laptop. Well, all weekend I waited for a jinnee to hand me a laptop, iPad or whatever and as its yet to happen, I'll post from my phone for now. It's the most inconvenient thing ever but...
So yesterday was Mother's Day and everyone couldn't stop talking about their mums in the most colourful ways. Have you noticed how everyone's mother is the strongest, kindest, bravest mother in the whole world? LOL. 
I certainly think my mum is all that but even at my age I can hardly think about my mum and not remember the first ass whooping she gave me. My mum strongly believed in using the rod! 
It was one night, I must have been no more than 7 or 8 and my immediate older brother maybe 11. He was in the living room, I was in my daddy's room and each room in the…

Better Husband!

I think this is really beautiful, a reminder that despite all the ugliness we see in marriages on social media, all the evils that many Nigerian husbands have become to their wives and all the increase in domestic violence, there are still good marriages and loving husbands. 
May God bless Kalu Igwe, I hope more men do this, actually express this type of love to their wives. Let those weak men who think it's emasculating to show their wives love especially publicly, and those men who makes their wives regret ever getting married and those men who barely tolerate their wives... Let them know that there are men just like them out there who still value the women they married. 
I don't know why but this post really touches my heart. 
Also, big shout out to all the men now speaking out against domestic violence. Normally men would either keep mute or place blame on the women for making their husbands beat them, now however I'm noticing that more men are speaking out against it. Pl…

Happy Birthday Iyanu! with love from Ibukun.

My naughty sweetheart. I did not find an ugly picture so I could use it. Where would I even find that anyway? Cos you are beautiful in and out. You are Intelligent, smart and witty. One who strives to know more and get better. Your dedication to the things of the word amazes me. Your dedication to grow is stunning. You came out of the cocoon you were and showed the world that you are capable to do anything you want to do. You excel amongst them all and you shine. I pray that you increase on all sides. You make more impact and you shine. I love you very much. Kisses to my best friend. 😘😘😘😘😘. My doctor sister. I know you would enjoy your day.

Awwww, we wish you a very happy birthday Iyanuoluwa Balogun. Hugs & Kisses. 

Ladies, Can We Talk?

A while back a friend of mine called and among the things she said was that she slept with someone I was dating at the time. She apologized but I found that I wasn't mad at her, I was mad at the person who betrayed my trust. I mean, she betrayed my trust too, but I wasn't dating her...
But I wouldn't lie and say that there've not been times that I wanted to call a girl out for encroaching on what I considered my territory. I never have though...
Many of us females think it's very okay to do that. What do you think? I mean, in this case above its absolutely senseless. Your husband (Charles Okpocha aka amo shine aka haterz show me love or getoff) posted a lady's picture on his own instagram and says he's crushing on her, and you attack her? πŸ˜•
Anyways... Are there times it okay to call the other chic out? Have you ever confronted a lady that your man was "talking to"? Have you ever been confronted by someone's man? (confess πŸ˜‚πŸ˜š). 


To Love Is Not To Die. Rest In Peace Karabo.

This is so heartbreaking. I opened instagram this morning and was flooded with images of the young, beautiful South African lady who endured physical and emotional abuse from her boyfriend while they were together. She eventually left him but he still murdered her, he burnt her beyond recognition, to death. 
She was kidnapped, murdered and and set ablaze by her (ex) boyfriend. This boyfriend in question even joined her family in the search for when after she went missing. What a demon!
Please ladies, I beg of you. We all see the signs, it's always there. You're too beautiful and too special to be treated this way. 
A few days ago, in my heart I nearly wished severe domestic violence on some women. I wanted to pray that they marry men who will ravage them and eventually kill them! Mercy Aigbe's husband was remanded in prison for all that battery and assault which included a fractured skull, and you'd think that this is something to celebrate as its a step forward. But no, …

@NaijaSingleGirl Goes To Zanzibar And Its The Best Thing Ever!

Ok, just in case you didn't know, Naija Single Girl is a Nigerian blogger who blogs at (@naijasinglegirl) and she's one of my favourites. She's anonymous and I don't know who she is although we chat occasionally. She's one of those people I've never met but I just like naturally, and root for. Especially because I think she's a very talented lady, has been blogging for some years and I felt it's about time great things started to happen for her. So you can imagine how I went into a frenzy when I saw the post below on Sunday πŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒ Read:

NSG IS RUNNING MAD  "So I received an email from ‘a silent reader’ saying he’ll like to sponsor my first vacation outside the country now that I have a passport. I was in shock, but I never believed because people often mail to promise one or two things then go incommunicado. He asked that I pick a date & we agreed on a destination.Two, three mails later, I sent my passport details & next …

#FranklySpeaking. Dear Conspiracy Theorists...

Dear Conspiracy Theorists,

A President has NO power to declare anyone Acting President neither does he have powers  to decree such position into existence. No sir . 

It is the constitution that has such powers as enshrined in section 145.

The section clearly states that whenever the President writes to the NASS assembly that he is unable to carry out his functions at the moment , the Vice President automatically discharges those functions as Acting President. 

So whether you add this title in a letter or you decide to call him Managing President, Supervising President or Coordinating President, the constitution says he is empowered to discharge the functions of the President as an Acting President. 

If we agree that the President needs to refer to him as Acting President before he becomes one means then that the President can as well decree Maman Daura or Aisha Buhari into existence as Acting President if he decides. 

Ok, let's go back to when we first had an Acting President in 2010. D…

Thelma Asks...

Very straightforward question; good food or good sex?

My answer; good sex.
Ok bye...

Wait, answer me first. 😝


That 1st Birthday Charade...

On Sunday Kon and his family threw a birthday party for his two boys who just turned 1 and 4 and happen to be birthday mates. Cool, right? 
Sunshine, Sasha bonΓ© and I were there to partayyyyy. 
Sunshine was so eager to see Kon's wife and we spent a lot of time trying to scope her out. LOL. Mrs Kon is so young and sweet and cute btw. And Kon, forget all this noise and badt guy levels he forms on the blog, Kon really seems to be the kind of husband with whom you'd have peace and joy. They both look so young and playful, with what seems to be a very fun, easy going relationship. Guys, they're so cute together! 
We had a really good time. I talked to Sunshine a lot and it's going to be the last time. I don't like all these people that will just be nodding and nodding and you'd be talking and talking, you won't even know when you tell them all your secrets 😳. Sunshine, I'm unfriending you
I also got to meet the lovely MFA of Lifetitude's blog, where I …

A Very Happy Birthday To Memphis & CCCC

You both are special, you're the first persons I'm wishing happy birthday this late in the day, you must be special πŸ˜‚
I know it's ALMOST late but it's still your day and I can't let this day end without wishing two very verrrrrrry special people a happy birthday. 
I love my blog readers, but some of you make this blog extra special, cccc & Memphis, y'all both in your own individual ways make me grateful I have a blog. 
You guys have shown me so much love and I simply cannot thank you enough. 
I wish you joy and unfathomable blessings. May you live long, fulfilled and happy lives. Amen. 

Uche Pedro, Joke Silva, Toju Foyeh, Pastor Siju Iluyomade & More. Attend The “Women in Leadership Series 2017”

I promised that if there's any event I'd be attending, or any I think you might benefit from, I'll inform you on the blog. I'm sharing this because I think these women are great and greatly inspiring, and this is an opportunity I think ladies should take advantage of, if you can attend. 

Are you a woman? Are you an entrepreneur trying to make it through these challenging times?If Yes, to all of the above then this Conference is where you need to be!The Handmaidens cordially invites you to its annual Women in Leadership Series 2017, with this year’s theme being; Leading Women in Challenging Times.Join these seasoned professional women as they discuss the role of Christian women in the marketplace amidst other topics on Wednesday, May 10, 2017, at the Eko Hotel and Suites, Victoria Island, Lagos, 10 am prompt.Meet the panelists

Conference author 
Keynote speaker 

Looking forward to this!