I just watched a clip of Empress Njamah saying that its not always a man's fault when there's domestic violence in a relationship. According to her sometimes women are headstrong and torture and torment their men mentally to the point where they push the man to hit them. So... women should help the men control their anger.
If this is true then I have a few questions for Empress and all other ignorant proponents of this line of thought, especially the men.
-If your wife is a body builder like this woman above, will you dare raise your hands on her?
-When you cause your wife emotional torture, turmoil and neglect, does she slap and punch you? No, instead most Nigerian wives enter War Room mode and become prayer warriors. So why use your fist?
-If her mouth is too sharp, don't you too have a mouth?
-If your mother or sister had "sharp mouth" (since sharp mouth is you people's justification), would you thrash them the way you do your wife?
-Many of you have little girlfriends outside that openly disrespect you and sometimes talk to you like they're talking to their maids. Why don't you beat them? Why do you instead cower and beg them and shower them with gifts all in a bid to pacify them, but when it comes to your wife who you made vows to, "she must be taught a lesson"?
- Yes, let's agree that some women are provocative. Are men so weak as to be unable to control their impulses? If yes, then why have we heard several stories of female bosses who emasculate, insult and undermine their male subordinates ever so often, but we never hear of a male staff who once raised his hand on his female boss?
-If there was an immediate consequence for domestic violence every and any time it occurs, would you still abuse your wife/girlfriend physically?
I simply cannot believe that while many people are dealing with the harsh realities of domestic violence, majority by no fault of their own, while we're trying to draw more attention to this cause and get the government to take it more seriously so that it can be curbed, while in the span of two weeks, we have received news of women being killed, as in KILLED, by abusive partners... one human would come and say "help men control their anger". I am fucking enraged and disappointed!
There is no excuse or justification for domestic violence, either for men or women. Just like cheating, most violent partners are violent simply because they can be. Believe me if there were consequences these men (and women) would know to put their hands in their pockets and walk away. There are other ways to deal with an erring partner.
That said, in most cases of domestic violence, the men are dealing with a serious case of narcissism, control issues, an extreme desire to oppress and subdue their women caused by insecurity issues and other mental health problems. Empress Njamah and others please educate yourselves. In cases such as these, no amount of submission, docility, subservience, humility, respect and meekness as a wife can save you from domestic violence. So kindly GTFOH with "women need to control their tongue", as if some men don't have sharp tongues too. 😏