This is so heartbreaking. I opened instagram this morning and was flooded with images of the young, beautiful South African lady who endured physical and emotional abuse from her boyfriend while they were together. She eventually left him but he still murdered her, he burnt her beyond recognition, to death.
She was kidnapped, murdered and and set ablaze by her (ex) boyfriend. This boyfriend in question even joined her family in the search for when after she went missing. What a demon!
Please ladies, I beg of you. We all see the signs, it's always there. You're too beautiful and too special to be treated this way.
A few days ago, in my heart I nearly wished severe domestic violence on some women. I wanted to pray that they marry men who will ravage them and eventually kill them! Mercy Aigbe's husband was remanded in prison for all that battery and assault which included a fractured skull, and you'd think that this is something to celebrate as its a step forward. But no, many females were raining down curses on Mercy. Female, as in, her fellow women.
How can you let them arrest the father of your child?
Are you the first woman that her husband will beat?
You are a runs girl, always hopping from one bed to another. You pushed him to be beating you and now they have arrested him, wicked woman.
When you're always travelling up and down why won't they beat you?
God will punish you for letting them arrest your own husband.
You're always forming pepper dem gang, slay queen. I'm sure you're always raising shoulders for him, you must have bruised his ego and pushed him to beat you.
Your child would never forgive you for doing this to their father.
And I was reading this with my mouth wide open. What kind of people are these? Did they see those pictures at all? I don't care what Mercy did (if at all she did anything, because I know for a fact that most abusers do not need a trigger, they simply desire to suppress, oppress and subdue), he could have simply sent her packing or moved out.
What if Mercy had died?
Many innocent women have lost their lives to domestic violence. Please ladies, to love is not to die, it is not to suffer, it is not to live in agony for God's sake! Believe me I know it's not easy to get up and go. I'd once dated someone that started little by little until one day he dealt me one blinding slap that threw me to the ground, for no reason at all (okay, he said I was arguing with him... 😒), and me that used to say if a man should touch me I will leave him ASAP, the next morning after a few apologies, I was back in his arms loving up to him.
So I'm not judging anyone, I know it's not easy to leave someone you love, especially when they apologize to you with all the remorse in their bones. However, when I saw that that slap was just the beginning, I had to carry my slippers on my head and run. It wasn't easy, it isn't easy leaving someone you love. But sometimes love gba kwa oku! To hell with love.
It's even more difficult when this person starts by abusing you psychologically and toys with your mind so much so that you begin to believe that you're worthless and no other person can tolerate you, much less love you. That's why, especially in the dating stage, when they show you the signs, believe them and go. Somebody else will come!
Sleep easy darling Karabo. You had friends in Nigeria who speak highly of you and what an inspiring young woman you were. I hope at least that some ladies can learn from this and save themselves. I pray that your killer is met with Justice. I pray your soul finds peace.