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Thursday, 8 June 2017

It's My Best Friend's Wedding After All...




"My husband’s best friend proposed to his girlfriend during our wedding ceremony: My husband and I started dating, got pregnant, had a child, moved in together, bought a house, and got a dog in that order. Our friends and family have asked us for years why we weren’t married yet. We always pushed it off to build better lives.

We’ve done really well for ourselves and finally reached a point where we could afford a huge blowout wedding to celebrate our lives with everyone we know and love. My husband’s best friend, “John,” was the best man/officiant. The setting was beautiful, everyone seemed happy, our families were overjoyed. My mom may have used the phrase hallelujah a few dozen times. The entire atmosphere felt moving.

So moving in fact that John stopped mid-ceremony to propose to his longtime girlfriend, “Jane,” and reveal her pregnancy. I couldn’t even hear the vows my husband wrote or the rest of the ceremony over the noise of Jane’s happy sobs, her very surprised family who were also guests, and people seated nearby congratulating her.

Even the videographer cut to her frequently during the ceremony, and you can’t hear anything over the chatter. When John gave his toast, he apologized for being caught up in the moment, and then proceeded to talk about he and Jane’s future with nary a mention of us. During the reception John and Jane became the primary focus of our guests.

John even went out of his way to ask the band for a special dance for just him and Jane on the dance floor. I’ve never been an attention hog, and I wouldn’t even have minded if he’d proposed after the ceremony, but weeks later I am still seething. I am so shocked and angry that I keep asking myself if this is real life.

My husband hasn’t spoken to John since the wedding, and our mutual friends think what he did was rude but that my husband should just get over it. My husband has joked that he’ll resume his friendship when John and Jane give him a $40,000 check for “their half of the wedding.” Do you think John’s behavior warrants the end of a long-term friendship, or we are angry over nothing."


People, what do you think about this scenario? I've heard a number of people say they'd be totally fine with this as they'd like to share the happiness of their wedding with their close friends. Others how ever think it's bollocks and do not what to share the attention on their day with anyone else... I have no idea what I'd do in their shoes, honestly. You?



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13 comments:

  1. ermmm, NO

    You are my friend and i love you but please propose on your own time.hian

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    1. Especially when it took them this while to actually just do a wedding ceremony and then it now felt appropriate enough for 'best friend' to propose.
      That was very petty and I will continue the petty with him since that's the new Black

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  2. I read this two days ago and I was so angry on behalf of the writer and her boo. What manner of friend is that.
    Very mean somebody.

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  3. I really don't mind, I think most guys won't. But for the sake of bride who deserves all the attention on her big day I may not countenance such from my bestfriend.

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  4. Is the John mad?

    Shiii...At my wedding I was mad upset when one aunty from Abuja took over the band and got them to be hailing her and her Abuja connection for over 30mins. While my guests were getting restless. I walked up to my DJ and told him to start playing his own music. Rubbish.

    At the end of the day Ill forgive John. But he has to know that he is a foolish guy.

    Peace.

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  5. Issa sabotage things...this is where the pettiness has to come out. I will go with my spouse and announce maybe pregnancy or something ridiculous๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

    Issa pettiness tings. Revenge in this case is well deserved.

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  6. That friend no just try at all. It's in cases like these the MC should have stepped up his game to do the needful seeing that the couple are friends with John. The Moment John was about dancing with his wife to be was when the MC should have taken over. An MC that does not know his job or cannot use his head during an event, is that one an MC?

    Nwanyi Afikpo

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  7. That friend no just try at all. It's in cases like these the MC should have stepped up his game to do the needful seeing that the couple are friends with John. The Moment John was about dancing with his wife to be was when the MC should have taken over. An MC that does not know his job or cannot use his head during an event, is that one an MC?

    Nwanyi Afikpo

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  8. How this happened is funny and I don't blame the couple for being angry.

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  9. Very inappropriate. If he had waited till after the ceremony, it would have been better. Selfish people everywhere.



    *Quirkymoi*

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