I feel like I should be venting out in righteous indignation right now, unfortunately I'm too amused to be mad.
So here's what happened. I was referred to someone to plan and coordinate a book launch cum seminar. Mr A and I had our first conversation over the phone and subsequently Whatsapp. We chatted back and forth for a couple of days, sending my ideas, my quotation, my suggestions etc.
Mr A said he found me innovative and my prices fair. He said he liked my dedication and he was sure I would deliver. He therefore decided so far so good. Let's move this to the next level. Set up a meeting, talk to me in person, discuss further and seal the deal so that I can get the ball rolling. Sounded great.
So Mr A asked me to meet him at Marrocaine VI late afternoon. I got there before him, I love to be punctual. He arrived five minutes late, ordered a soft drink and began to ask me questions. I'd come prepared and he seemed impressed. He tried to haggle a bit but I explained to him why I charged the way I did. He nodded in understanding and asked for my account details, retrieving his phone from his suite pocket to make a part payment.
I started to call out the digits when my phone vibrated and I immediately put on silent. "It's okay, take your call" he urged me kindly. "Nah, it's not a problem really. It's just the driver calling to find out if I've gotten my nephews from school. I've dropped them at home already".
"Your nephews? What about your own kids?" He asked curiously.
"None yet" I grinned.
"You're married right?" He asked, brows raised, forehead creasing.
"Not yet" I smiled.
Mr A had an expression I couldn't quite decipher. He leaned back into his seat, and fiddled with his phone.
"I thought you were married" he said apologetically, slowly putting his phone back in the pocket, account details forgotten.
That single move was reminiscent of what they call failure at the edge of breakthrough in MFM. 😂
"What's the problem" I asked, amusement on my lips. I suspected his answer but I needed to hear him say it.
"I'll be very honest with you Nwando. I just think I'd be more comfortable putting this project in the hands of someone who is married".
I burst out laughing. I'm not sure why. Funnier even, is the fact that he isn't either.
That was on Friday. I tried to push, to convince him that my marital status played no role in my competence, but he was adamant about it.
So we ended the meeting cordially and parted ways.
Well like my mum says, what is yours is yours. So I tried not to let that get to me too much. But you know, what's annoying is society looking at you funny when you're passed the 30 mark and unmarried, and then you're strong and sensible enough to ignore that. But when that starts to get in the way of my money... Yes, now that's a problem! 😡😡😠
Ok. Rant over.
LOL. Today is Monday people, let's go get that money, smash those goals and be the very best version of ourselves!