I’m 29 and Female. I met someone recently, we clicked and then he ghosted. It hurt like hell, but I didn’t bother reaching out to him Albeit, im getting worried that maybe I may never find someone who would want me especially in this part of the world where Nigerian men like much younger women. Ill be 30 in three months time. How do you tell a guy you’re 30? I think most guys don’t like women who are over this age. Ive just removed thoughts of dating from my mind. Please can a woman still find love with a good man at 30?
Guys, I saw this comment on Bella Naija this morning by a commenter named Kamsi. I read this and I'm thinking what do people think this 30 thing is all about? Why do people put themselves under so much pressure over turning 30. I have SOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH to say on this but I'd rather hold on and hear your honest thoughts about this.
But let me just say, I had a lot of fun in my 20s, but just 2 years into my 30s and it's even more exciting than the whole of my 20s put together. I had my first real relationship at 30 after a long series of several pseudo relationships. And two years later, I'm single again and I've never been more optimistic or excited about my dating (relationship) prospects. Although the dating pool is narrower, it has never occured to me for a second that I'd have a problem finding a man. The only question mark is finding true love & a good man and that's something that's a challenge at any age, 18 to 80. I'm still meeting guys everytime I leave my house, younger, same age, older!
In fact just on Saturday I met this slightly younger guy at Shoprite Asaba, he lives in Lagos too. We've been chatting and we're going to watch Isoken and have drinks afterwards, tomorrow evening.
Last night I was out on a very nice date with a man in his mid 40s who's interested.
No, I didn't miss going on all these dates, but my point is, ladies please there's no shortage of men. If you find a good man who wants to marry you in your 20s then please wed him, as long as that's what you want. But don't begin to panic and jump on just anyone who comes along because you think that once you're 30 it's the end. It isn't.
These are my thoughts. I read comments of people who share her fears and also those who agreed that many guys shy away from dating a woman once she's over 30. So it's obvious that we all have different opinions and experiences relating to this matter. Please share yours.