So I met this guy a while back. Remember I told y'all some days ago that I'd gone on a date with this guy in his mid 40s? Well what I didn't tell you guys was that that was our first date and when we were parting he gave me some money for my cab.
The date was rather very interesting. We met up for dinner and drinks at Zen Bar, VI. I practically spent all my time playing with my phone and eating as he had so many friends present. That was the first date and although we didn't talk much I already knew I liked him. Normally I'd be annoyed that it wasn't just him and I he explained to me earlier that in his work, the real business is done over bottles of beer and banter.
I soon needed to leave and requested an Uber. When the Uber arrived he walked me to the cab and was talking to me while I was inside. I guess the chemistry was mutual and we weren't in a hurry to part ways so we kept talking while I was inside. "Hold on, let me take care of your cab" he said rushing to his car. I was both surprised and relieved because I'd spent way too much money on Uber and Taxify of late. He came back a few minutes later and handed me an envelope and rushed his goodbye.
It was unusually weighty for cab fare so I opened it to investigate and there were 500 Naira notes. 50,000 to be precise. I was confused, I remember calling sasha boné to express my said confusion.
Well we've been talking since then, I think I like him. We went out on Friday night and this time around he dropped me off at home. He slid his hand into my bag. I opened it and saw some money. He said "just incase you need to go out tomorrow". I said "ok, goodnight". That was 30k, which I subsequently paid as down payment for my car repair. I'm tired of dashing Uber half of my earnings!
Last night we had dinner at Yellow Chilli. He had a meeting at Sailor's Bar afterwards but I didn't want to go so I asked him to drop me off at The Palms so I could watch 10 days in Suncity (which I really did not enjoy, story for another day I guess). When he parked to let me out, he opened the pigeon hole and said "let me give you money for your movie". He counted some cash. He tried handing it to me, I could tell that it was about 50,000. I didn't take it from him. I was at that point truly confused and a tad annoyed. "What? Is it not enough?" He asked when I wouldn't take the money from him. He opened the pigeon hole to count some more cash when I shouted "STOP!
Am I going to buy the cinema or what?" I asked him.
"I don't know nau. This one may not be enough" he chuckled awkwardly.
"I can pay for my movie" I told him.
"Look, I know you can pay for your movie but you may see something that you like inside. Just in case you want to buy something..." He trailed off. Forcing the money into my hands with a mischievous smile.
I grudgingly accepted it. I like money as much as the next person but this was getting weird.
"Do I get a kiss?" He asked me.
"Nope" I skipped out of the car.
I did want that kiss but I wasn't sure if I wanted to kiss him because I like him, or because of the money. I needed to think about it.
Earlier today I filled a form to open an account with Providus Bank with the 100k from the first and third dates.
He has a few meetings in London next week so he's travelling on Saturday, and would be away for about a week. He's been saying we should spend as much time as we can together before he travels. He's out practically every night after work and has asked me to join him in the evenings. I declined.
"We should have dinner at least two times before I leave. So when and when is good for you?" He asked when he called earlier this evening.
"I will let you know" was all I could say.
I wanted to ask, will you give me cash everytime we see? Because it's quite weird, honestly!
I know that he's one of these divorcees who have sworn never to get married again so right off the bat I knew that while he may want a romantic relationship with me, it's not likely we have any kind of real future together. Otherwise I'd maybe say it's a test bla bla bla...
But does that make it okay to continue collecting money everytime we see, everytime he hands it to me?
In the alternative, bros may just see these monies as an investment with the cookie as his dividend. I think this might be his tactic as he hasn't suggested we spend anytime alone, he is very okay with dinner/drinks and then dropping me off. Perhaps uncle thinks that it will get to the point where one day i will just pull down my pants and scream "TAKE ME NOW!!!"
Then again, he may simply be a jolly good cheerful giver, but that is very unlikely. Even though this recession benefits him, I still don't understand this need to give me money everytime we see.
I know that 130,000 naira is not exactly a lot of money but the manner with which this one is being dispensed, there are reasons I'm not very comfy with it.
Guys, I know I should say something about the money. I really enjoy his company. He is the life of the party, smart as a whip and extremely hilarious. There's never a dull moment with him and I'm growing quite fond of him. He's got a boyish look, other than that he looks quite ordinary but I've never been into pretty boys so that's not a problem for me.
I want to discuss this cash matter and ask if he feels that he NEEDS to do that everytime we see. But I kinda feel like they put sugar in my mouth and I'm spitting it out. 🙈
LOL. Don't judge me. What would you do in my shoes?
A. Talk to him about It?
B. Ask him to stop and tell him you won't see him again if he doesn't?
C. Just continue to dey chop dey go; enjoy it while it lasts?
D. Stop seeing him completely?
E. Switch things up a notch, take "relationship" to the next level, he's a catch!?