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I Never Believed This Could Happen To Me.





I hope you had a great day everyone. I did. It was a pretty hectic day, but a very good one nonetheless. I started my day by sending an apology via text. Got into some silly fight with my ex yesterday. Yes it's ridiculous that our relationship is over, dead, done. Yet for some reason we fight. We can fight for Africa. Jesu! I think it's some warped attempt to convince ourselves that we're mature adults and can move on seamlessly into an amicable, amiable friendship. But unfortunately this is real life and let's be realistic, that's not very realistic. I mean we broke up less than two months ago, it was very abrupt and unexpected meaning things were kinda unfinished and emotions were not dead, at least mine weren't. So yesterday we got into this really senseless fight (as we do almost everytime we try to have a friendly conversation) and he got me so riled up that i said something to him which obviously hit a nerve. I apologized yesterday. He wasn't having it. I told myself well whatever, after all he caused it and besides we're not dating anymore so what's even the point? 

But I woke up this morning and it was the first thing on my mind so I immediately sent a text saying I'm sorry about yesterday I was angry etc etc etc. 

And honestly my day couldn't have been better. It taught me a lot. Someone might have said "but you know it wasn't your fault so why apologize" or "why can't he apologize?", but sometimes we do these things for ourselves. 

Negative energy (anger, resentment, unforgiveness etc) really has a way of weighing and slowing you down. Whether my apology was accepted or not, I felt so light and liberated knowing I wouldn't be carrying the weight of anger on my shoulders. 

So yes, that really set the tune for me day. It's been light and full of pleasant surprises and I can't stop smiling. This our father is amazing sha. Kai!

I'm home now and reading through my journal from several months back. Something I read from 2015 really got me thinking so I decided to ask you, what is something that has happened in your life that you never thought would or could happen to you?

I would really love to know. 

It could be good or bad. Could be significant or ordinary. It could be happy or sad. . 

We've all had a few things that we see or hear or imagine happen, but never thought it could ever happen to us. And then it did. The kind of thing that (we thought) only happens to somebody else... If you can relate to this please share your experiences with me. 






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Comments

  1. The time I lost my mum in 2011, I was in final year and my younger siblings were still in school.
    Honestly I used to hear gist of people who lose a parent or both but never in my wildest imagination did I think it could happen to me.
    Of course I was aware of death and all that. Anyway I think that phase of my life made me accept/expect harsh realities of life.

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  2. Hmm. Tough question.

    One time I was playing football. I had dribbled the goal keeper and it was just me and the goal post. I got there and kicked the ball. Empty post. Guess what! The ball hit the bar and bounced away. How can Kon not be able to score empty post? That shit haunted me for days.
    Im surprised it happened to me. Never would have imagined.

    Peace.

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  3. Tasting the forbidden fruit before marriage, I never imagined that would ever happen to me. The day it happened I told my bff, he laughed and said "so no more waste-pain".

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  4. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚...Pain reliever of the highest order...Errrm,do you still have waist pain?TNHW

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  5. Never Imagined motherhood would knock on my door and walk through so seemlessy talkless of twins. My own is truly one of those testimonies that sounds like a lie.

    www.pynk360.com

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  6. Never imagined i would be dating mr Man for this long, still surprises me.

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  7. Never imagined I will still be single in 2017.

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  8. I never thought i will enter one chance.

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  9. Failing an exam in my third year in medical school. It was a wake up call. I had never been anything but the best since I was born and to flat out fail a course and resit,it was like my life was over. I wanted to commit suicide. Then,I probably should add having a relationship with a course mate as different as Earth is from Mars.

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  10. I never would have thought that I would be widowed in my early thirties. Never ever,I had my life planned out and that was never part of the plan. (so many "nevers" in on thought. Lol)

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  11. I never thought I would have a special needs child.Its been few months now and am still as the stage of denial I was in when I saw the open space at his back(spina bifida).
    I try to be strong looking at his cute,innocent face but most times I still pinch myself to know if its a nightmare or I am wide awake.

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  12. Never thought I could test positive to the deal, it still beats my imagination till date that I keep asking why me and where did I go wrong?? But hey, life goes on and God knows best..

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    1. I'm sorry about your ordeal. I hope you're fine?

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  13. Nobody knows how life will turn out but we all hope for the best.....I've had my share of joy and pain too. To everyone whose comments made me go....., keep faith alive. In those moments, you may listen to "My world needs you right now - Kirk Franklin"
    *hugs*

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