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About Tonight. The Ex's Friend.

Hey people!

I hope your day is going great. 

So I have a question, somthing I'd like to hear your opinions on. 

Some time last week while taking my long walk I ran into one of the closest friends of an ex-boyfriend. He and I were actually really cool while I was dating said ex. They used to spend a lot of time together so inevitably he and I spent quite some time together, and would run a few errands together. He was one of his few friends I could actually be friends with. But that notwithstanding it was always very innocent and harmless. After the break up we chatted occasionally but about nothing serious, those chats were very few and far between.. 

So anyways I ran into him last week and we gisted on the spot for well over an hour as we hadn't seen since the break up. We've been talking and chatting quite a lot since then. Yesterday he suggested we see a movie later tonight and hang out afterwards, after all it's a Friday. I asked him if it's a date and he said yes. So I said yes as I so badly need to unwind, and admittedly, I kinda enjoy talking with him and there seems to be a few sparks here and there...


So yes, it seems I have a date tonight. 

But my question is, is this a disaster waiting to happen? He and my ex are still really tight. If things go well tonight and we want to see each other again and start spending more time together, chances are that my ex may be present during a few of these hang outs... Like wouldn't that be super awkward? Oh well, besides that I'm not too sure about dating an Ex's close friend, never been in that situation before. 

In my shoes what would you do?




  1. lol. What do you think you are doing? This is totally unnecessary. If you need to unwind then call Sasha Bone (today is her birthday)
    The way guys and girls think on this kinda thing are very different.
    In my mind - He just wants to HIT it! No harm. No bad blood.
    Girls will be thinking - Aww he is so cool. We could get serious.

    My advice - Dont get carried away. Draw a line.


    1. I support this motion!

    2. I wouldn't even dare to
      I like the new theme of the blog

  2. Hmmmm, so this is a PERSONAL OPINION! I would not like to date a friend's ex because if tables turned, I wouldn't like him to date my friend not to talk of a really close friend!

  3. It will be awkward but do you babe!! Life is too short. What if you are meant to be? Pray on it and God will direct your path. Hope you have fun.

    1. I sync with your perspective. Chrisyinks

    2. Am with you in this one Mrs Fab..TNHW

  4. Dont take it further,you dont want to be a topic for discussion between them. Totally awkward.

    1. Not necessarily. I once dated a friend's ex and we rarely talked about my friend. We eventually broke up tho and it wasn't in anyway related to my friend. He was a good guy Sef, life and love just happens.

    2. He is not going to talk about your friend with you but he will def talk about you to his friends. Try sitting with guys when they unwind, no topic is off the table.

    3. Yeah when guys unwind, no topic is off the table. Very few keep it locked down.

  5. I advice you take things very slowly, take plenty time to know his genuine intentions...if it's what you really want, do it!

  6. There is a less than 1% probability of this turning out fine if things get serious between you guys. Boys are like that. Yes, I'm dangerously generalising I know.

  7. Simply enjoy your date . Dont sweat it.

    1. Seconded


  8. Hmm I reaaally don't think its a good idea, I wouldn't do it no matter the sparks or electrocution happening whenever we talk. That's just me, there are places I just don't go to.

  9. Just don't get carried away. Shikena.

  10. It's an awkward situation with the potential for disaster if not handled well. More often than not, it's not handled well.
    Was faced with a similar situation once albeit a bit more complicated, and I didnt go ahead to date him. Had too many unfolding drama already and I hate drama. But that's just me! To thyself be true!

  11. Do it casually but I beg you dont date him. Its just one kind.

    Love love the new blog...and everybody has been asking where I got the pink off shoulder dress. I was like oh " a gift from a friend"😂. My mom said she needs to be your friend😂.

  12. I love the new look of the blog, i will go with Clare on this, don't sweat it just do it

  13. I'm with Kon on this one.. they're too close.


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