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Months After Marriage They've Never Had Sex. (The Ultimate Betrayal?)


Can I ask a few questions please. Am I the only female who doesn't consider a man sleeping with someone else or "someones" else the ultimate betrayal? Like, I dunno. The only major thing that bothers me is him having unprotected sex and giving me HPV or some ish. 

Sex, that doesn't bother me much. 

Now the one that gets to me however is him getting emotionally involved with someone else. Aha! Now that's a problem. 

Like, I think it wouldn't get my panties all up in a bunch if my man had random (safe) sex with some random girl. What would get my bomb ticking is late night chats, hidden phone calls, giving her time and attention, lying to me to spend time with her. That would get to me, even though they're not having sex. 

Are you like this too? 

Which would be a bigger betrayal to you and thus more hurtful? your partner having sex with someone else no strings attached? Or your partner having an intense emotional affair with someone else, yet no sex? 

Tell me.  



  1. I will be hurt if he's having an emotional affair with someone else, that means I no longer have a place in his life,i can't share my man, if he's gonna cheat,i should never find out.

  2. Hmmmm both of them please but I think sex is worst. That's a no no

  3. Nnkan buruku gbaa ni gbogbo won oooo!

    mi o prefer anyone! Biko!!

    1. Gbogbo won = all of them

      Mi o prefer anyone = I have no preference for any of the above options.

      Biko = please

      Ur welcome..

    2. Extremely bad things are all of them ooooo. I don't prefer anyone! Please!!

  4. To answer your question, both situations will burst my bile.

    For some men, keeping a string of sexual partners is an ego boost. That is nonsense if you ask me. I am in no way judging him, but the young man sadly, does not have my sympathy. We must all leave with the consequences of our actions and inactions. And whether we want to accept it or not, a lot of people will learn life's lessons the hard way.

    Except one has been in the same situation as the wife, no one can ever imagine what she's passing through. It would be quite difficult to erase those mental pictures.

  5. Hian...biko dear future husband, don't have sex with anyone except me. Tainz in advance

  6. One thing I told my husband very early is if you cannot stand by something do not commit to it. Marriage is not by force, some men feel like it's ok for them to do anything and everything. For me I don't do double standards - don't give me shit you can't take...and dont bring me any"gifts" from outside.

    The woman messed up more than the guy in this situation because she went ahead to marry him without working through her emotions. Marriage to anybody is not for everyone.

    Folks will say all men cheat- i refute that arguement...everyone will come across tempatation - it's a question of self control and discipline. A lot of men disregard self control because there are no real repercussions for their actions. Afterall they don't go around slapping their bosses in the office when they annoy them.

    1. You've taken the words right out of my mouth.

      The lady hurt herself even more by marrying such a man.

      Cheating in relationships and marriage is a no-no for me.


  7. I am at the stage in marriage where I don't care if my husband sleeps or has an affair. As long as he doesn't come near me anymore am good. Been months since we were intimate and I can't be bothered. Guys watch the way you treat your woman. Going to see a marriage counselor but I really don't care anymore. Am here cos I need a place and the kids, my exit plan is in motion.

    1. I'm so sorry to hear dear. May God give ur marriage a miracle, and restore all dat d cankerworm have eaten

    2. Its that serious huh?

    3. @ Kon yep it is.

  8. NO!She didn't have to harbour all that malice in her heart,nobody needs such heaviness and hate in this life.
    Random sex o,Random chat o. All na cheating. To even think that she wasn't celibate gaan is worse.cos brother wasn't lacking Ponyor na.That is what I can't forgive. You don't sleep with me and go digging other holes.Naaaaaaa.

    1. I agree with you baby... She was giving him so I guess she must have been angry and thinking, why the cheating...

  9. Oh my, that lady is mean. It's the ones that don't say much you should be scared of, most men cheat and I'm not saying that's a good thing but the average woman would tear the house down when she finds her man cheating and they would figure it out from there, they either quit or forgive and move on but what this woman did is plain evil, she's ruining the guy and she's not even sparing herself. God save us from karashika.

    1. I don't think it's evil maybe because I'm 90% her and that's how I operate, but in my own case, I won't accept no ring Biko, will turn him down in the presence of those around..

    2. Maybelline, she accepted the ring and that's what makes all the difference, looks to me like she had a plan, she still went back to have sex with him the day she caught him and then waited after the wedding before hanging the closed sign board, that's not nice.

    3. We handle things in different ways you know, and I guess that's how she knows how to handle the situation.

  10. Scheew. Soooo....who is the bigger loser? She needs to calm down, its not that serious. Yes! Its not that serious. Let time heal things. But to completely lock out your husband is not the wise way.


  11. Damn! How did she continue having sex with him after catching him many times then claim "he makes my skin crawl" after the marriage? Na,babe had a hidden agenda. Such people are devious and turn around and claim victim! So she cldnt say anything all the while? She still slept,woke and carried on like all was well yet she was having serious beef with him in her heart? Damn!
    She just wanted a cold revenge. Dude should just leave that marriage for her. It's not even consummated so technically,they ain't married. Life is too short to stay married to someone who's comfortable bearing grudges with you while y'all are still under the same roof.

    1. Questions, questions, questions.....Chrisyinks

    2. She came back that same day to sleep with him, he didn't irritate her then, when the memory is still fresh and he was probably still smelling of the perfume. She's needs help

  12. To be honest I can't stand none. It will break me

  13. I can stand both biko, I better not find out. The girl in question did not even help matters, once you have hard evidence what are you waiting for, its better you confront the situation immediately and move on or forgive and stay on.


  14. None Biko. Dudes, biko fear the silent ones oo, they can be deadly!!! as in why dint she just voice out all along?? she had to wait till the end. Women are one heavy creatures, God is really awesome. Thelma which one is Emotionally attached but no sex? bia, na from handshake e dey enter hug ooo.

  15. I don't want any. It's only my husband and I, no third party. Thank you.
    I can't still get what the lady did out of my head. The lady is just been wicked. Why did she get married if she could not handle it. The funniest part is she is hurting herself and she does not know it yet. The marriage is not working and her life is filled with hate. She should have either forgiven the guy before getting married or should have left the guy before the marriage if she couldn't forgive.
    That guy too sef, be sleeping around like no man business. All this people sleeping around when they have wives/girlfriend better be careful before they be the one to invent another sexual disease and pollute the earth with it.

  16. NA wa o! The lady is gangster.

    Emotional or bodily cheating are both scary.

  17. The guy is foolish.
    The lady is foolish.

  18. The first often leads to the second and vice versa so best to have none, thank you!
    As to the couple involved, the guy is a douche bag and the lady in question is capable of murder. Cold, calculating and callous.

  19. Speechless......

    I don't want any of the two options.. .😕😕😕



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