That moment when you finish typing a bomb-ass post and you click publish but it disappears 😩😳😢.
I'm like, why God? What did I do to deserve this? Don't I do good? Don't I obey your commandments? Dont I treat my neighbour's right? Don't I love you? Why don't you love me?
It's not funny sha. Writing is not easy and when you actually settle down to write, in a way I haven't written in a long while, the kind of writing that comes from a rare moment of sheer inspiration, and it just vanishes, it burns.
In any case I decided to post something because I haven't posted in a while. I don't have any power to write anything else. So let me ask you something that's been on my mind.
Where do you stand on being a second wife? So say for instance, lady is in her early 30s, fellow is in his early 50s. Married with grown kids. Rich. Apparently Mrs 1 knows about plans to marrying a Mrs 2 and seems to accept it. Lady will live in her own apartment and have her own things. Would lady be happy? Can she ever really be accepted by Wife number 1? Is it possible that they eventually get along (I've heard of some co-wives who are quite close and chummy with each other. One particular wealthy igbo family comes to mind. They seem to love each other and each other's kids and I wonder if this is really possible)? Lady has been dating him for some time and might love him and wouldn't mind being his wife. Perhaps because she believes that's it's more honorable to be a wife than a mistress. Or because she wants a family and doesn't necessarily believe that having her "own" husband would make her happier considering the state of most marriages today. Her family would not be ecstatic but they would accept her choice if that's what she wants. What does she stand or lose or stand to gain? Religion is not a factor here so please your opinions should not be based on that.
So second wife, to be or not to be? The lady may be or may not be me. 😝