You know one thing growing up didn't prepare me for was Life. Getting older really comes with a lot of things that always seemed very farfetched to us, the sort of thing that only happened in movies or to someone else. Sicknesses, death, disappointments etc... These things come with life and most times, we're never prepared for it.
I remember the time a former classmate and friend of mine lost her first pregnancy at 6 months. It was the first time that sort of thing had happened to someone I know, someone my age. Quite a number of friends or former classmates have lost babies since then, and this morning one of my closest friends confided in me that she just lost her 5month+ pregnancy.
It was a really heartbreaking to hear, and what she said right after made me wonder about pregnancy (myths) in Nigeria. She said "I'm sorry I didn't tell you I was pregnant. They say you don't tell people you're pregnant, they will see it for themselves".
Hmmm... I remembered sometime in July when we had a girl date I'd asked if she was pregnant because I sensed that she was. She was all fidgety and told me she wasn't. I began to feel bad then, was worried I'd come off sounding like a womb-watcher and had made her feel pressured about not being pregnant months after her wedding.
Well it so happens that she was indeed preggers but "they say you don't tell people..." And that's what I would like to talk about today.
They say; these myths surrounding pregancy in Nigeria.
Some days ago when Kim Kardashian announced that she's having a baby girl at the end of January through her surrogate, a lot of people were like wawu you dare not try that in Nigeria!
No, they weren't talking about the surrogacy, they were talking about her announcing the sex of her unborn child and the exact time that her arrival is expected.
Nigerians treat it like taboo to tell people the sex of the baby and the due date and many of other things.
I remember this one time I ran into a former classmate who was heavily pregnant. I hadnt see her since law school and this was 3 years after law school. In excitement I made to hug her and she practically jumped back while clutching her belly. She smiled awkwardly and simply offered me a handshake.
I felt bad but many people said "don't blame her o! This is Nigeria".
So I'm asking, what are the warnings you've heard about pregnancy and telling people about it? Do you believe that these warnings are valid or are they simply myths? Do you wonder about how people in foreign countries talk freely about their unborn babies, share scan photos online and tell you the exact day the baby is expected yet those babies are delivered safely, but here everyone says you dare not try it?
What are the DOs and DON'Ts you've heard about telling people of your pregnancy and do you believe that's it's wise to adhere to them?
Let's talk about pregnancy and some myths that surrounded it in Nigeria.