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Dear Lola...






So this happened yesterday on Twitter. I read it and felt terrible. After reading this chat and her (Lola's) thread on Twitter, this is all I want to say. 

Dear Lola,
You're the kind of woman I pray never to come across; graceless, mean spirited and quick to talk & type without thinking. In your urge to disgrace an innocent young man, you have only succeeded in disgracing yourself by exhibiting your ugliness and uncouth nature to the world. 

So what if his first message to you is to ask for money? Many people are going through tough times and you can never tell how hopeless some situations look for a person to go as far as asking a stranger for money online. And of course the guy had to come back and lie that he was hacked, he never hesperred that kind of insult from you na. 

Sis, whether you want to give him or not is your prerogative. You don't owe him or anyone shit and you could have simply 
-ignored his message
-told him you don't have 
-said No. 

You could have done any of these, instead you chose to insult him, chose to humiliate him, then as if that wasn't enough you munched this chat for the world to see, and couldn't even be gracious enough to blur his name. All for social media relevance that's as fake as a 1kobo note. 

My joy is that in your bid to shame him, you opened doors for him and made him much more money than you could have ever given him. 

If you get to read this, please do better. I read your thread and I know you like to act all bad ass and IDGAF-ish, or maybe you're really young and thus ignorant and myopic. Whatever the case is; woman to woman, human to human, there was no reason for this. Please do better. 

Cheers!


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I really don't know why this got my goat the way it did, the post just made me feel really mad. Please guys, let's all try to be kinder to each other. Life is already hard enough as it is. I know better than most people how it feels to be approached by strangers online for money especially as both my email address and phone number are on the blog. So I know how it can feel sometimes, especially when it seems like I have to keep on giving from my VERY hard earned money and get nothing in return. I know. I also know how to politely say no when I can't afford to give. I know that some people just beg for sport because they are lazy and entitled, but some genuinely need help and are at the end of their ropes. Let's all do better. 

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  1. Nigerians these days ehn, for me the both of them needs to be spanked, there's no justification for both their actions, and I think the guy went a bit too far when he talked about not rubbing it on his face, a bit rude if I may say except he was really hacked and the the whole response and post thing from lola is quite unnecessary and rude too, so maybe they deserve each other.

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  2. Some peeps do things to extreme they always ask but never give.

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  3. Really Thelma....Some people can smell scammers from a distance and that's what this babe did...He went from begging for money,to not been rubbed in the face and rounding it up with hackers...Who knows how the babe bust her ass to working and someone comes out of nowhere to beg anyhow.Abegi dude should swerve.
    P.S...Hope Sasha bonè is fine,been long I saw her comment.TNHW

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  4. i agree her response was a bit over the top. but let's be fair here. this is Nigeria we are talking about where so many ppl talk with you once or twice, and third time, they are asking for help financially. It gets annoying and irritating when you think you have met a new acquaintance/friend, and next thing they are asking you for "help financially". I have cut people off because of that, cos I can't waste my time on a pointless friendship. I believe Lola's irritation was not that he asked for money, but how it was just "Hi Lola", then next thing BAM - "Please assist me financially"... didn't even engage her in conversation... no tact, nothing!! I can totally get her frustration and irritation, especially as many Nigerians do this.

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  5. Yes she went over the top but just a lil bit because the guy no try at all at all! As in from a first time chat to pride to hack!😡

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  6. Tee, I'm one of those that don't blame the actions of Lola. Yes she went a bit overboard by posting on social media but sometimes the stick approach is a better tool. I have seen and experienced lazy people try to use one as their meal ticket, infact in my own case it was when I threatened to report to the security agencies that the mumu stopped.
    Yes there are people who are genuinely in need out there and there are also people who have chosen to be entitled to another's struggle. There must have been a reason why this girl reacted this way, who knows she may have had a bad day too.whatever is the case you can be sure that this guy has learnt his lesson and will not disturb anyone on Twitter again or any social media platform for money.
    NB: Look at the response of someone in need. oshisco
    Cindy Brown

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  7. Thelma biko i want to ask you one question,  is young synonymous with ignorant and myopic to you? This is totally unrelated to the post cos i think both of them are wrong, but you sound a lot like young people's opinions and ideas dont matter, in fact young people dont matter at all since they're ignorant and myopic. And you strike me like that in a lot of your other posts. Now this has started looking like a rant lol... Iyanu

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  8. Saw the tweet and I felt sorry for the guy... Just maybe Lola has never been in the position of needing so badly that you can't help but beg, hence she doesn't know how and what it feels like.. It's crazy out there, it's not like I have too but when people approach me to beg, I give my widow's mite if I can afford to... It is well

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