Are you on this journey? This one called Entrepreneurship. The current trend that's actually hard as fuck?! Well if you are then you'd know that one of the major challenges you'd face is loneliness. It's not that there aren't people in your life, it's not that you've been abandoned by your family and friends and everyone suddenly stopped loving you. No. It's basically that you carry a vision that more often than not, only you bears. Your family and friends and loved ones may not see it so may not be able to efficiently support you, it's never easy and everyone is running their own race so finding someone to run yours with may be exceedingly difficult, challenges, pitfalls, setbacks abound and most times, especially at the start, you'd feel extremely alone. That's when Naija Startups (@naijastartups) sent me this, I was excited to share with everyone who's in that place. Some of the tips may help.
How to overcome loneliness as an entrepreneur
The entrepreneurship journey can be a lonely one, with having to work late nights, long hours and weekends, going risks alone, being focused and tunnel visioned when no one else believes in you and even skipping social events and holidays for the sake of the business. The image above captures perfectly, what life can look like as an entrepreneur. (Source: Abiolanurtures.com)
While it is lonely at the top as a business owner, particularly when you have already formed your organisation, there are ways to avoid loneliness. Here are some tips on how to do so:
1. Find a community.
It is important to network with people just like you. Building a community with other founders almost always inspires and remedies loneliness. This can be a physical community or a virtual one. Naija Startups offers a great virtual platform for you, not just to network but to also learn and gain inspiration or even make an impact on other business owners. You can join our tribe via the link here. We also organise in-person events and have one coming up in October which is free for all tribe members. If you are interested in sponsoring this event or finding out more, kindly click here.
2. Prioritize your relationships.
Forbes.com says: "While it may make you uncomfortable at first, you’ll need to prioritize your relationships. As an entrepreneur, you won’t be able to balance entrepreneurial hustle while trying to be friends with everyone. Keep up the relationships you find value in maintaining long-term. There’s nothing wrong with acquaintances or new friends, but you’ll be more relationally satisfied by keeping a core group of friends and investing the time in maintaining those relationships – not building too many relationships that you inherently forfeit depth." They couldn't have said it better.
Coworking spaces can be distracting for a business owner sometimes. However, there are certain coworking spaces where you can work alone (in a private office or booth) but still, amid a variety of other businesses within the same space or building. This means you can retreat to work or network/socialise whenever you want.
4. Become more assertive.
Not only does this help you prioritise more when it comes to relationships but the opportunity cost of saying 'yes' to everything means that the people more important in your life – your spouses or partners, close friends and family – take the back seat. As a busy entrepreneur, you only have so much time to work with. Whether it’s certain relationships or calendar obligations, say no to the good so you have time for the great. (Forbes)
5. Work with a mentor.
Your mentor has most likely been down a similar road and has hopefully overcome it. It therefore makes sense to talk with him or her not just about business or cerebral stuff but about life and strategies for balancing a healthy life and overcoming loneliness.
6. Remember who you are.
It is easy to get lost when trying to mesh within a community. There is nothing worse than non-authenticity as an entrepreneur. In trying to combat loneliness, it is important to remember that your gifts are different from those of others. Many times, the insatiable desire to create or innovate is both the blessing and the curse of an entrepreneur. So, stay authentic.
Amazing Story Shared by Dr. Ben Carson on Facebook, i thought it is inspiring and i decided to share;
The Australian ex-model Turia Pitt suffered burns to 65 per cent of her body, lost her fingers and thumb on her right hand and spent five months in hospital after she was trapped by a grassfire in a 100 kilometre ultra-marathon in the Kimberley. Her boyfriend decided to quit his job to care for her recovery. Days ago, in an interview for CNN they asked him: "Did you at any moment think about leaving her and hiring someone to take care of her and moving on with your life?"
His reply touched the world:
"I married her soul, her character, and she's the only woman that will continue to fulfill my dreams."
*** This made me very reflective. I just wonder; if the person you love today encounters an incident or accident that transforms who they are physically, it could be amputation, it could be paralysis, it could be severe burns that scald their flesh beyond recognition, w…
Good morning people! Just checking in to sign the register. Lol. It's been a very busy week and it looks like it might be an even busier weekend. I was hoping to get some writing done when I got to the airport yesterday but I even almost missed my flight. It was hopeless trying to do any work on the plane as it was bumpy af, and this toddler behind me wouldn't stop screaming in piercing shrieks like he was being exorcised. I got into town pretty late and needed to keep an appointment ASAP. I'm heading out right now and it's going to be a long day, but thought I should drop this first. Have a splendid day. Im'ma be back soon.
He was my coursemate, crush, then my boyfriend.... he was super intelligent, smart, tall, dark and handsome. Believe me he got swag, but he didn't seem to notice me. (I'm a nerd but a sassy one if I say so myself). So oneday I decided to take it to another level.. After listening to a song "IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY TELL THEM THAT YOU LOVE THEM and watching the season film of The Secret Life of American Teenagers. ..when Amy Jeugerns mum told her "you are only young once". LOL that part got me. Hope you know what i mean?
Though I'm okay with chemistry class I approached him to coach me for the Quiz that was coming up, we found out that we had this great chemistry between us.. hehehe both the covalent and electrovalent bonds....
So one thing led to another till one unusual Saturday. I invited him to my house and he came. The guy got swag, he even came with a packet of durex condom. We talked for a while and and and and and and Kai! See how you are serious dey read this story....! My…
A side chick is commonly known as a mistress or a woman that’s romantically involved with a man who is in a committed relationship. However after doing some reflecting, I realize that’s not the only type of side chick. I want to discuss “the new side chick”–a woman who decides to stay by a man’s side after he has expressed his lack of relationship intentions with her through his words or actions. So many women have made this mistake at least once in their lifetime, and unfortunately I’ve done the same thing. I like to think of the new side chick as an appetizer. You’re there just to satisfy the immediate appetite of the man, but as soon as that mouth-watering entrée comes out to the table, you will get pushed to the side, literally. Why? Because that entrée is what he really wanted; he went to the restaurant to order steak, not hot wings. You were just a placeholder, fling, temporary commitment, or maybe even just a “good ol time” until what he really wanted was presented to hi…
I'm in an amebo mood tonight. Don't ask me, I honestly don't know why. Also I'd like to share too but I'd do that anonymously in the comment section. Tonight I want to talk about secrets. It's ok, we can all be anonymous. Is it true that EVERYBODY has a secret? Is there anyone here who doesn't have a secret? I'd really like to know; You're a completely open book and there's not ONE thing about you that you wouldn't mind other people knowing about? Please raise your hands up. And for the rest of us, what's something about you that no one knows, or very few people know? Who's got a dark secret here, or a weird one, or a funny one even? I really don't mean to be invasive but I don't want to be the only one sharing, plus I think hearing other people's secrets is quite fun, don't you think?
Hey guys, a while back blog reader F said something about creating an Open Keypad post, where you can write whatever you want in the comment section. I thought it was a fun idea!
So who is interested? Comment on anything you feel like, ask me or anyone a question, talk about how your day went, your job, your interests, tell us something about you that we don't know, share a testimony with us, rant about anything you feel like, talk about your crush/boo/spouse/relationship/marriage, challenges you're facing, ANYTHING AT ALL!
I'll only make one request; that we stay civil.
(F it was you who made this suggestion, right? I'm not too sure and I can't even remember the post the comment was made on).
BTW please Ejoeccome out come out, wherever you are!
TTB readers doesn't this tweet below remind you of something? That mail that someone sent me a few weeks back. But why on earth should a man sleep with his son's fiancé? But what am I saying, some men even sleep with their daughters...
Oh well, I'm throwing the question to you. What has happened in your life that you never saw coming, you never hesperred it, you never imagined could happen, you never imagined could happen to you?
It could be good, it could be bad, it could be ugly. Do tell!
And it can be more than one. Let me tell you a few.
-owning a blog
-week long dry fast at Prayer City (I never hesperred it).
-staying in an (emotionally) abusive relationship.
The others require anonymity. LOL. Now over to you.