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He Just Called Her And Told Her Its Over! Did He Overreact?

  • See what the girl I met gave me to work this morning, after giving her 35k for food in the house .
  • We have been dating for 4 months now and I have been enduring because I am tired of jumping into different relationships, I really want to settle down. This girl is so stingy with my money, I will give her money to cook, she will go and buy tiny tiny meat, she uses more of ice fish to cook, even as much as I give her good money to cook, the lowest money I give her every week is 20k to cook because I love to eat in my house . She is so stingy with food that I get tired of complaining. But if she wants to buy hair or clothes, she will not look back .
  • During sex we can just be making love and she will say stop , stop baby stop ✋ want to rest, I am tired , I will be begging her because once i withdraw my erection will drop , but she will just push me out and come back after few min to continue. She does this every time.
  • Today I decided to call it off, I asked her to make me breakfast and she made me this burnt plantain . No egg no surce nothing , I gave her money yesterday and I have eggs in the house and meat in my fridge . I was so embarrassed when I called my colleague to come eat with me that my baby cooked and I saw this rubbish .
  • I just called her and told her not the come to my house again, I blocked her off and deleted her numbers.
  • I need to know if I over reacted ?


Culled from @break_or_makeup. 

What do you think?



  1. πŸ˜‚πŸ€£ yes you overreacted! Can’t you cook by yourself?

  2. "...We have been dating for 4 months now and I have been enduring..."

    Enduring what? Food. Dude is blocking his girl because of food. Food and tired sex.

    Nonsense and burnt plantain

    1. Your comment cracked me up even though I don't really understand it πŸ˜‚

  3. He didn't overreact abeg. If she can't cook then she shouldn't collect food money and tell him so. It's not by force. Guy obviously wants to eat good food. And why will you be buying hair with food money. This is even an incomplete story sef. Is the weekly money strictly for food or not? Does he give her other allowances? Does she expect to be given other allowances and does he know if she expects it?
    The way I see it, if that money is strictly for food then good food should be eaten. And they should make other arrangements as regards bags and hair. And the sex part is just funny lol. This relationship reeks of lack of communication. Maybe he should have tried to communicate better as regards what he needs and expects from her and vice versa instead of just breaking it off. She might truly get tired during sex so it would have been good for both of them to find a way to make her less tired so that she can then accommodate him.
    This long epistle is not my fault sha. It is Chryssinks fault for teaching me to write long epistles and Thelma's fault for always wanting replies 😊

    1. have been a great student.

      And as it appears, it seems I'd be the one learning from you henceforth. I echo your perspective. Chrisyinks

  4. In the first instance, you guys are already living with each other at just four months. I find it hard to comprehend. While I have issues with living together based on religious reasons, I don't come against people that do so with fire and brimstone. That been said I think living together takes a lot of commitment and the parties involved should know themselves to an extent. It is obvious that before you started living together some things weren't discussed. 1. The Cooking. 2. Money.. When the girl is not your housemaid. In this age and time, the lady might have other pressing matters to attend to, like her job. That girl too be collecting money that cant be shown forth in the house. I would want to believe that the girl knows how to cook but doesn't want to or she doesn't know how to cook or she is lazy.
    The guy is supposed to talk it out with her, and explain to her is stance and let her explain too. And talk about the different roles each of you would play in that house, it is not a one way thing. Aye o le to bayi. Because of food Oga. She is not even your wife yet, even if she is your wife nko.

  5. Over reacted? NO J

  6. When there is pent up anger and resentment, the minutest things are the trigger. This is a typical case of the straw that broke the camel's back.
    Based on the guy's narrative, the girl is selfish. If the guy's excuse was that the girl doesn't cook, that might have been silly but you collect a large sum and you perform a shoddy job, that speaks volumes of the girl.

    My conclusion is they both come off as immature, and they have some growing up to do.

    Another girl

  7. Even as a lady, if I should give someone 20k for food weekly. .kindly make an effort to make something amazing at least once a week.

  8. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

    Oga, start cooking for yourself or get a cook. Ewo ni gbogbo story? Girlfriend of 4 months and she don dey collect weekly upkeep allowance?

    Of which, we have only heard his side of the story and we all know there are always three sides to a story. He probably told this story this way to curry our pity.

    Did he talk to the lady and specify exactly what the money is for and her role as his cook in the house? Some people just assume that if a woman is in the house all house chores and kitchen duty automatically fall to her but maybe this chick didn’t grow up that way and you actually have to define her role in the House.

    Plus we don’t even know if the babe has a job she goes to everyday..

    As for the sex part, I can’t help him..

    Did he overreact? I think so. He should have talked to her about it before breaking up with her or had the decency to call her face to face and breakup with her with the reasons so she can do better in her next relationship.

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  11. Why won’t she be shouting stop stop when you will be flipping her around like pancake! Is it easy? Stingy man, squeezing another man’s daughter like adire fabric. Abeg add more money, eediot. Separate food money from hair and make up money, simple. Where do they get these kind of boys from sef? Shameless man had the audacity to bring this to the open when he should be glad that the girl even allows more than the tip! Oniranu, lazy bone

    1. loooool @ more than the tip

    2. 🀣🀣🀣🀣

    3. Wale!!!!!Untop wetin now,why you dey overreact?πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚...I am with the guy 100% jare...If he give her 20k every week he is entitled to behave this way...Even the ones who their husbands give 500 naira too eat better meat.....Who pushes a guy off when the climax is higher during sex?The girl is a goat..TNHW

  12. So you people really think he overreacted! Ahn ahn! Let’s be fair... they are obviously in a realationship where they both believe the Man provides and the Lady cooks.
    By collecting money from him, she agreed to be his cook.
    He does his own part and the lady is obviously not doing hers. She shouldn’t have been collecting “food allowance” from the guy if she wasn’t going to cook for him anyway. She’s obviously a shady person!
    What is worth doing is worth doing well Biko. How can you fry dodo like that and put inside plate for a grown man without eggs or stew or rice. You shouldn’t even give this to a child!
    Haba! She obviously doesn’t care too much about his well being so please dump her lazy assπŸ™ŠπŸ™ˆ

    If you want to form “I’m nobody’s cook” stop collecting food money.

    1. Exactly. That food is not served like its food for a grown ass man that provided money for the food. Why is the food so small? Why isnt there meat? This kinda stuff can be disappointing and embarrassing.

      As for the sex....what kinda punishment is that? Turning the guy off and on like a switch.

      Naaa. When you think of everything, e reach to dump the babe. Man did not come to suffer in this life.


    2. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
      To be fair, there is stew on the dodo, and probably one tiny meat..

      I still think he went about the “dumping” wrongly.

    3. see the burnt plantain, if she can disrespect plantain like that who are you. Even if you don't give me money I can't do that to God given plantains.


  13. Kabuoy thank you very much. I may be against the whole "girlfriend acting as a wife" thing, but not in this case. First of all, this guy didn't force this girl to cook and the money he gives her weekly for feeding is enough to make good food. Why will she collect 20-35k and still make this kind of plantain? Come on now! Even when I was a student with very little budget, my plate still looked way more colorful and appealing than that. Personally, I don't think the guy over reacted. He's obviously a foodie and seeing as his girlfriend was okay with cooking for him, he decided to give her the money to cook for him. No one forced her to collect the money, no one forced her to cook. If she knows she's going to ask for weave money later, she might as well bring her A game into the kitchen. Although i'll suggest they still talk about it and resolve their issues, but I don't think the guy is wrong. Ladies if you know you won't do "wifely duties" like cooking, etc then don't ask for weave money either. Buy your own weave. Relationships aren't one way, its a two way thing. After all if that girl were to order for a hair bundle worth 50k and she receives one that looks like your normal tacky looking "Expression" weavon, she'll go on social media and call out the person she bought the bundle from. Like Kabuoy said "what is worth doing, is worth doing well". I won't even talk about the sex ish. Let me just stop here.

  14. Na wah oh even after she went to all that trouble to fry dodo, do you know what it takes to fry dodo, is it everybody that has the skills to fry dodo? She even made it extra "crispy" you cannot appreciate. Shior.

    As for the sex, so she's even opening for you you're not thankful. What are men becoming these days... I don't understand. Oga this woman is a good woman, she deserves better πŸ˜‹πŸ™‹πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

  15. THANK YOU KABUOY!!! little things say alot about a person. This is not just about food, it is about being entitiled with no sense of responsibility.

    I told a friend once that entering into a relationship is like investing your money. You don't throw your money into any business, there must be at least a minimum requirement expected from a business before you invest . Common decency demands that if you collect money for food you should provide a decent meal. If don't roll like that, you reject the money from day one. If Uncle says he likes home made food and gives you money you have 3 options; cook a decent meal, buy a decent meal or reject the allowance.

    When two adults are cohabiting each person must bring something to the table. A typical Nigerian girl feels that sex is a consideration to getting everything she wants from a guy she is sleeping with. This is a messed up mentality. In other places when you are living with a boyfriend, you split bills , rent, utility bills etc. The sex is even mediocre sef

    4 months into a relationship and I discover you have no sense of resposibility, I will leave your ass. This is not where discussion comes in. This is the minimum requirement, if you don't have it, you don't have it. J

  16. He didn't over react biko. Why collect money for food when you have no intention of doing it well? Since you have already accepted to be cooking for him. In my opinion, its not even a case of her not knowing how to cook but she doesn't have regards for the guy hence the state and serving of the food. Even as a girlfriend any day you decide to cook for your guy ,there's this love and joy that goes into it. The cooking, dishing and serving, then watching him eat or you eat with him,let alone the one that brings money. The babe is just stingy and silly.I just hope she doesn't have another she's cooking delicacies for with the guys money.

  17. All I can do is ROT&LMAO.
    Freaking hilarious comments....

  18. "....... She is so stingy with food that I get tired of complaining. But if she wants to buy hair or clothes, she will not look back......". This was the deal-breaker for me. But wait o! 4 months and they were living in already?

    1. As in just four months, that's why we are hearing stories that touch.

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  20. The babe no do well abeg. While a single grown man should sort out his own domestic affair, any woman that commits herself to doing it on his behalf has no business doing a piss poor job of it like madam in question.
    Whatever happened to doing as you desire to be done to?
    The guy probably reacted in a spur of the 'seeing red' moment and I can't blame him for that. Seeing as I doubt dialogue would work with someone as fundamentally selfish as the lady is portrayed to be, I think nipping it in the bud like he did was for the good of everyone's sanity. I'm usually #teamwoman, but on this, I can't deal!

  21. I don't think he enjoys her company at all. The food is a perfect excuse to get triggered and call for a break up. People who are desperate tend to settle for anything then later post stories that touch later. But the babe really didn't try,even a pet dog wld wonder what ur serving


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