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Help! She Says She Cannot Use Her Mouth For Praise & Oral S*x









Apparently this no blowjob clause is a real issue. My friend *Ada is experiencing something similar in her marriage. She simply cannot bring herself to do it and it's causing huge fights. 

It would be insensitive of me to just say  "just do what makes your husband happy in bed, blow that man's mind away!" when I don't know what other women's internal struggles are. 

For some women, the issue is sanitary, for some it's spiritual, for some it's an inability to relax during sex, for some it's shame caused by lack of skill, and then there are others... So, it's really not so black and white. 

A few years back a guy posted something similar here and he was on the brink on cheating as he just couldn't see himself going through life without a blowjob! (Hehehe. Is it that serious though? πŸ˜³πŸ˜‚)

Thoughts, anyone? 

Ladies are you pro or anti blowjobs?

And why is it that only few men go down on their wives but we don't hear women threatening to cheat because they want head?!

Lastly, I'd like to know your thoughts on this; every sexual act is fair game as long as the couple is married; oral sex, anal sex, kinky sex etc? 



Mail culled from @joroolumofin. 



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  1. The guy's just insane. Lol.

    I really don't know why some people want to link Oral sex to Spiritual Uncleanliness/Sin. First "Soul ties" now this? The way these issues are presented and Religion is being referenced I won't be surprised if we hear that Missionary Style is the only GOD-approved sex style and the rest are ideas from Lucifer.

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    1. πŸ€£πŸ˜‚ at the last part of your comment. My dad thinks so. You have heard it now! πŸ˜‚

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    2. Ah! Already? That was fast πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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  2. I'm Pro-blowjobs but not every woman will be comfortable with giving a blowjob. I think this is the main reasons spouses should get to know each other's do's and dont's before marriage cos at the end of the day you cant really change your significant other's views or mindsets so easily after marriage if at all. I HATE to say it but she TOLD him so!!!!!

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  3. Do me I do you,man no go vex. I am both Pro & anti BJ. Depending on the cucumber.

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  4. Na wa o, is it that serious? I hate (ok maybe hate is a strong word) I dislike married people or otherwise who goes to report to their pastor at the slightest opportunity as in I don't understand it, how do they do it, don't you know God yourself? That said , please is Oral sex a sin? I know a church where part of its rules for its members is to never give or receive oral sex. if the pastor hears it, you will get suspended from church, but how do these people even report to the pastor?
    Thelma, not every sex is a fair game when married o, for me I will never do Anal. I do love receiving and giving head tho. What's the definition of kinky? Cos kinky can mean a lot of things and that alone is dangerous.

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  5. All I can say is man must not live by BJ alone. He knew this about her and chose to marry her.
    I hope he isnt pressured to try it outside.

    Its not a big deal but I am not a man.

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    1. Thank you ma oooo! He knew before marrying her ooo! See life!

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    2. He must have tried it outside already n enjoyed it, now he expects the wife to be giving him. #Just saying.

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  6. Omo me and this man’s wife are twin sisters ooo and I plan to tell my husband this. I am not willing to put anyone’s sexual organ in my mouth neither do I expect him to give me head. Abeg oooo!!!!!
    #teamAnti-oral for both sanitary and sprirtual reasons.

    And no...necrophilia, BDSM and all other abnormal sexual acts are not okay simply because it’s within the sanctity of marriage! Biko! Marriage is not license for evil sex πŸ˜‚πŸ€£ edakun!
    #myopinion

    What’s with men and hoping the woman would change her mind later on! It’s not fair ooo! She already told you she won’t do it! Why would you be hoping she’ll change?!!!! You want orange juice,someone is clearly offering pineapple juice and you’re somehow hoping that along the way, it’ll start tasting like orange!
    It’s not fair at all!

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    1. Lmho @ "evil sex".

      If anyone gives me similar conditions I'll just relocate to Antarctica so that cold will kuku finish me once and for all 😁

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    2. So you're ready to settle for wambang thanksma for the rest of your life? Amazing stuff... Truly amazing.

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    3. This girl has killed me! So no gymnastics and co? Which one is evil sex again? Are you aware that the angels are there clapping during all the calculated tackles and dribble? It is well oh

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  7. Okay... First of all i'm definitely pro bjs. Honestly, watching a guy melt under me is enough to give me orgasms. Secondly I don't think this is good enough reason to cheat (there's no good reason to cheat o) but we know that in this lazy world of ours some guys would look for any reason to cheat. I mean they discussed this before they got married now he's telling us stories that touch. He's not even trying to deal with the wife's reasons first.
    Thirdly I think anything goes in marriage so far it doesn't involve a 3rd party because that will be adultery.

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    1. Anything goes, really, anything?... Think am well oh. So whipping, chocking, anal(pampers things) burning... To name a minute few, is OK as long as its marriage and no third parties?

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    2. I could say all this extreme things are the product of a reprobate mind, but that's the same way some people think of BJ's and giving head. Personally I don't mind some kinky stuff(yeah I said it), but I have not come into any knowledge about holy sex. I'm convinced that whatever I do with my husband out of love and in agreement, in the confines of marriage is holy. Iyanu Balogun

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  8. My problem with this guy is, they clearly discussed this before marriage and the lady stated her stance on the issue yet he went ahead and married her. Now 8 years down the line he’s telling stories that touch. I don’t like this kind of people.

    Even if she enjoyed the forcibly given head, it doesn’t mean you should guilt her into doing same for you. We all have our own convictions, things that irritate us or make us feel dirty, it’s not anyone’s place to tell another how to feel about such things.

    And, she already told him what she felt about it from the very beginning, why is he crying foul now? I feel sad for the lady

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    1. Oshey jare o baby πŸ˜‚πŸ€£

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  9. Anal sex is a no no for me. Reason: I feel any man who does anal sex can swing both ways. Infact, its a huge red flag for me. I made sure I discussed it explicitly with my husband before we got married. Infact if he asks me for anal sex, the only condition will be that I insert a huge dildo in his own anus first.
    I love giving BJs...only he must not cum inside my mouth biko.

    The man is to blame here. ..your wife told you before marriage that she doesn't like oral sex, but you believef she would change. ?..this is the root cause of divorce o..not believing the character and traits of your partner before marriage ...hoping the person will change.

    Gift

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  10. It is quite easy to say the guy knew her stands before marriage, but she ticked the most important boxes and marriage involves compromise on both parties.

    The man has lived this long without blowjob, so he can continue living without it as well, better still let them both seek counselling. There are sexual therapies that might help them.
    I doubt i will be team oral when i am married but i believe anything should go in marriage as long as both parties are comfortable with it.

    Another girl

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  11. Hmmmm, Every sexual activity should be discussed BEFORE marriage oh. To avoid stories that touch.
    As for me, whatever my future hubby gives me, I'll give him.
    If he wants to choke me, his will & coffin should be ready. Cos I'll kill him when I'm reciprocating.

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  12. Anti - blow job, I feel it's un hygienic, but would love to try it , the guy would have settled the issue before marriage, procrastination is what led to this situation.

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    1. Sister Gifty, please use condom for the bj and you will be fine. There is dental dam for ladies, no excuse to run away! Best of luck testing the microphone.

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    2. Lol.... Mr wale will not kill somebody..

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  13. In the words of osuofia "agreement is agreement"! Oga should enjoy the bed he has laid without so much as a 'peem' of protest. People should never say yes when what they really mean is no.
    Now as to this can't suck a p*** with the same mouth I use to praise talk, I just get upset everytime someone says that. Like sucking lips and tongue during kissing does not involve their 'temple'of God too? But then, I guess the penis and vagina are two very evil organs!πŸ™„ I must have skipped that lesson in Sunday school. Mtcheww!
    If you have a personal aversion to something, the least you can do is own it as yours, rather than placing the blame for it on the doorstep of religion with no iota of Bible or quran verse to back up your 'righteousness'!
    News flash ladies (seeing as this specie is mostly guilty), your vagina is also a key part of the temple of God, if you want your temple really undefiled, then bloody join a Coventry! You can't be wiser than our dear king Solomon and it's about time the church makes his songs a compulsory book to read and discuss in Pre marriage counselling classes!
    Now don't get me wrong, I'm not advocating for or against heads. All I'm saying is that people really need to stop using religion and God as a coward's way out of their every limitation.
    P. S: I can understand people who find it a dirty act and have certain personal reservations, and I respect their stance. While I personally have mixed feelings about putting a peeing organ into the same mouth I eat and lick food with, I think a guy that would go down on a girl knowing all that goes on down there, is a real MVP! That said, I'm yet to decide if I'm pro or anti head.

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  14. In the words of osuofia "agreement is agreement"! Oga should enjoy the bed he has laid without so much as a 'peem' of protest. People should never say yes when what they really mean is no.
    Now as to this can't suck a p*** with the same mouth I use to praise talk, I just get upset everytime someone says that. Like sucking lips and tongue during kissing does not involve their 'temple'of God too? But then, I guess the penis and vagina are two very evil organs!πŸ™„ I must have skipped that lesson in Sunday school. Mtcheww!
    If you have a personal aversion to something, the least you can do is own it as yours, rather than placing the blame for it on the doorstep of religion with no iota of Bible or quran verse to back up your 'righteousness'!
    News flash ladies (seeing as this specie is mostly guilty), your vagina is also a key part of the temple of God, if you want your temple really undefiled, then bloody join a Coventry! You can't be wiser than our dear king Solomon and it's about time the church makes his songs a compulsory book to read and discuss in Pre marriage counselling classes!
    Now don't get me wrong, I'm not advocating for or against heads. All I'm saying is that people really need to stop using religion and God as a coward's way out of their every limitation.
    P. S: I can understand people who find it a dirty act and have certain personal reservations, and I respect their stance. While I personally have mixed feelings about putting a peeing organ into the same mouth I eat and lick food with, I think a guy that would go down on a girl knowing all that goes on down there, is a real MVP! That said, I'm yet to decide if I'm pro or anti head.

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