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Sister Solidarity Nearly Got Me Into Trouble!

Yesterday we had a small owambe at Chidoz. So this lady was celebrating her 30th birthday which her husband was paying for. She's yoruba, from one of the local yoruba families here in Ijesha/Itire, Surulere, the daughter of one of the most famed butchers in the area. The husband is an igbo man who is known for spending lavishly and spoiling his wife like igbo men are supposedly known for. In fact, it is said that the butcher said that he wishes all his daughters can marry igbo men, as his igbo son-in-law is the only one among all his sons-in-law who spoils his wife and takes care of her parents the way he does. (I still don't know this thing about igbo men spoiling their wives better...)

So anyways they came to have their party here, and they brought their own caterers but they had to buy drinks from us. 

So I was at the counter because when we have parties like this, it's a very big opportunity for staff to steal with ease, therefore most times I have to be at Chidoz to handle the cash and oversee things when there's a party. 

Time to pay came, I added up their drinks; beer and wine. Their bill came to some where around N160,000. The Iyawo now came to meet me and talk to me "woman to woman"

"Ehn, you know I had to buy some things for this party that my husband doesn't even know about"

I nodded 

"You know that I am even still owing some people?"

How on earth was I supposed to know that? But I nodded anyways.

"Ehen. So what we will do is that we will tell him that the bill is two hundred and twenty thousand"

She looked at me to be sure I understood. I nodded. 

"Don't worry, I will go and tell him first. But I know he will come and ask you, so just tell him 220 lasan". 

I nodded. 

"So when he gives you the money you will give me the remaining." She looked into my eyes questioningly, to be sure I understood. 

I nodded. 

When my igbo brother approached the counter he asked me how much their bill came to. I told him 220. He nodded and asked if he could do a transfer to me and I said yes. Then he hesitated and said, "You were writing down everything we took abi?"

I nodded. 

"Let me see it"

It was a very long bill so I thought he would just look at it and dump it. But this man dragged a stool and sat beside me. He then pulled up my calculator and started to calculate, adding up each item. I started looking around for Iyawo but she was no where to be found. 

"Ah ahn! Are you cheating me!!!!" He roared from my side and attracted attention. People turned to look at what was happening.  

I didn't know what to say. 

"Is this how you cheat your customers?" He was screaming at that point. 

I started sweating. I looked around hoping his wife would come and diffuse the situation. She was no where to be found. Eventually he asked someone to go and call her, I was relieved. Meanwhile I was trying to explain to him that there might be a mix up. 

She came looking all confused and innocent. "Can you believe this? This girl want to cheat us. She haff add almost one hundred thousand naira to our money!!!"

She opened her mouth wide into a perfect O and said "Ahhh Olorun oh! Aunty why nau?"

It was now time for my mouth to form an O.

Before I could say anything she pulled him aside and told him to go and relax, she would handle it. But he was adamant about exposing the latest criminal in town. At this point several people had gotten involved, I was trying to explain that I'd made a mistake but he started yelling at me to shut the hell up, that I'm a common petty thief dressed like a decent person to deceive people. Yes, it was getting too much so I decided that I was announce that his wife was the criminal, as soon as she noticed this she quickly started laughing, and then she jumped in between us and placed her hands on his chest. 

"Honey don't mind us jor, don't mind us" US? I wanted to slap the taste out of this girl's mouth. "Aunty, us ke?" I shouted cause at this point I was pissed, she immediately changed her tune. "Ehn, I told her to just add something on top in case of any mistake" and then she laughed placatingly and teased him to go back to his seat. The crowd retreated, many people still looking at me suspiciously.

I'm still very upset, or was I wrong to have tried to help a fellow woman make a bit more cash from her own husband? 



  1. Wow, I really can't imagine how you felt and I still don't think it's a funny situation. It's things like this u can't do cos your business is at great risk and that addition was just something one can't overlook.

    1. Don't you dare try it again. That's where you earn an income, don't ever play with it. It's wrong.

  2. Lmao i'm laughing but very angry. I really hate dishonesty and she had the guts to pretend like she doesn't know what she did. She should have called him aside immediately and told the truth to diffuse the situation. Really cant stand people that can still lie after they've been caught. You shouldn't have agreed but i don't judge because i might have done the same in your shoes. The only difference is me i would have exposed her in the presence of everybody, you cant come and taint my name for nothing and go scot free

  3. Sister solidarity is about having each others back na,you should have exposed her immediately the plan took a wrong turn because your business is at stake here. Words travel faster than the speed of light and you dont want people coming in to chidoz just to catch the madam 'hyping' price again.

    We learn everyday and i hope you have learnt your lesson. Keep your solidarity out of your business, integerity is far more important.

    1. Mehn kiki you took the words right out of my mouth. Dude is ibo.. plus whatever happened to integrity, especially in the business world. Pele!

  4. But you should have known your Igbo brother will calculate the bill now. That scene could have cost you your rep and that of chidoz and may loose you some clients. What an awkward and really embarrassing situation, felt like it was happening to me. Now you know to say no no matter how compelling the argument may seem. Hugs.

  5. Kai. I won't do what she did o. I may do what u did, but I would have arranged my side well, I go put d extra as wetin she collect make e go ask her.
    I wonder y women do that esp to generous men.

  6. Mehn that was a distasteful thing to do. All you would have done was to tell him that his wife asked you to reserve some drinks worth the outstanding sum.
    Please next time don't compromise cos your staff will wanna try it too and that's very bad for business.

    1. I agree with your staff trying this some other time. It's bad for business. My mum runs a school and she always tellimg us stories about how mother's tell her to increase the tution for their husband's. She does it sometimes and i usually disagree but maybe its cos I've not had to run a large business. However in all you do, protect your name and by extension your business.

  7. honesty is always the best policy. we live and learn.

  8. I'm laughing here. Biko next time, no solidarity. Business is business.

  9. Nah, you were wrong. Its unethical. It's not in your place to inflate the bill. That singular act can also make your staff inflate costs because they will perceive you to be dishonest. The lady should have asked the hubby for money and not set you up like that. That's a dishonest woman

  10. Let me not form holier than thou but in I will say it like it is sha.
    Tee dear, what did in the first instance was wrong. Please whenever such deals come up,ALWAYS distance yourself from it. Especially since you're trying to build and maintain a customer base for Chidoz. Integrity must always be your watchword and news like really travel fast. If you think of it critically the situation could have gone either way with jungle justice, dragging you to the police, violent altercations. Anyway there's always a first time for everything.
    They say something about doing business with Ofe mmanu people, the woman really acted like an ofe mmanu denying the knowledge and all. Chai, smh.
    *hugs* Pele my Amawbia sister, I know there won't be a next time
    Cindy Brown.

  11. You shouldn’t have agreed to inflate the price. The integrity of your business is way more important than some woman’s need to make an extra buck off her husband.

    The thing is many of the people who heard the husband Call You a liar didn’t hear when the wife calmed her husband down and told him she was in on it so they still think you tried to rip him off and will probably tell someone who will tell another someone who will tell another someone etc..

  12. Thelma, I think it is in you and your business' best interest to take this post down.

  13. I totally agree with all of you, I knew it was wrong but at the time I felt
    1. This is a normal practice for many wives as I've observed and what she decided to do with her husband wasn't my business
    2. I wasn't getting anything out of it or enriching my pockets in any way so I wasn't doing anything wrong.

    But in retrospect I know better now, that never happened before and wouldn't happen again.

  14. We all make mistakes, and am sure Thelma has learned from this.. Kpele NNE..

  15. If I must inflate a bill, the increase must be commensurate to the actual bill (e.g. I would not add more than N20K to a N160K bill) so that if I am caught, the difference would not worth all the ugly display.

    That woman is evil sha.


  16. Thelma....Where you get your income should never be sacrificed on the alter of "emotions".
    That woman could have set you up. Major reason being that it could have been your word against hers.

    You dont know what people can be capable of when money is involved.


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