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A few days ago a blog reader asked this question on a forum and I've been thinking about it since then, or maybe I'm suddenly fascinated by the elderly among us 😚

The question went thus: 

"Without sounding like a heartless person, is it right to crowd-fund to pay medical bills of an old person?"

The person went further to say "with the fact that we don't have a good health insurance system, why do we try to 'save the life' of very sick (older) people in this country through crowd funds?", and then further expressed some guilt by adding "Kai, God forgive me for my line or thinking🙈". 


Well she asked a very valid question sha and yes the "audience" were torn between two sides. There were those who opined that there was absolutely nothing wrong with that, in fact this should not even be a question in the first place! They said, if you had an elderly parent that you love you will do all that you can to save and prolong their lives for as long as possible, it only makes sense, it's only right!

Others said it made no sense to do that, they have lived their lives, they are over 70 years and remember God promised us 70 so anything after that is a bonus, and that its okay to allow life or death to take its course. Some said the monies could be used for more meaningful and beneficial purposes. 
       Someone further went to ask that if you have N2,000,000 that you've saved up for long to start a business and your elderly parent suddenly falls ill and you need 4M for the medical bills, would you use your life's savings to add to the medical bills or keep it for your business? He said he wouldn't. 

Would you?

Both sides had very strong arguments and in the end I wasn't even sure where I stood. It's not a position that we ever pray to be in but think about it, is it right (and/or sensible) to crowd-fund (raise funds) to pay for the medical bills of an elderly person?

Oh btw TTB readers, let's have a bit of fun. Who do you think asked this question
a) Kon
b) J
c) Sasha Bone 
d) Wale 
e) Sunshine

The winners get free candy supply for the next one year 😂


  1. I have a small hamper for you Thelma. No humo.... Just a sign of my love and appreciation for your kindness at a time I thought the world will crumble on me. You saved a soul. You made me smile and laugh at the same time.....

    1. Oh wow. Thank you Dinma. I can barely even remember.

  2. The question was asked by Wale

  3. I'd try to be concise and give a high-level detail on how I feel about the matter since I followed the debate on the matter.

    I don't believe the power to decide on who to live and who shouldn't is one that has been given to humanity to appropriate. (Yes I don't support the death penalty for whatever crime, but I digress). I'd support any platform to crowdfund the medical bills of an elderly person. Life is something we can't create, why play gods and decide who is to live and who shouldn't? The world already has too many evils, why add to that? Chrisyinks

  4. I don't see any harm with crown-funding to help sick elderly people. One, it's a little drop of water that doesn't put any dent in most of the donors' financial ocean, so no harm done. Two, it's true that the "monies could be used for more meaningful and beneficial purposes", but so also could the monies consumed on soda, beer, the movies, etc on a daily. You see that meaningful and beneficial can take a lot of turns? Three, that God promised us 'at least' 70 doesn't mean everyone's life comes to full cycle by then. If you believe in God, then you should know He's totally pro-bonus and overflow oriented.

    My grandma is approaching 100 and is always talking about wanting to go and rest, as she is tired, yet my mum and her sisters are always frantic and panicky every time she comes a bit under the weather. They keep emotionally blackmailing her to stay some more and see more great grandkids from people like myself, and even go as far as getting us to call her often so she feels needed. As much as I keep telling them of how selfish they are being and how they need to let her go rest like she wants to, I also love my mum enough to understand the need to want her to live forever and a day more. So yes, I'd put in my savings to keep my loved one with me, if it'll do the trick.

    Back to crowd-funding, considering that a lot of people are resorting to this as a way of raising money for all sorts of causes, I consider the saving of a life regardless of the age to be one of its most noble goals.

    As to who asked the question.
    A) Kon doesn't seem like one to be the least bit apologetic about his opinion, plus its not his usual area of expertise or interest. Not Kon.
    B) J.... not so sure...Grey area for me.
    C) Sasha bone. Sounds more like her, she can be controversial like that, and is most likely the one.
    D) Wale. Doesn't fit. Too egbon-ish to be starting up something and also seems too emphatic for the question.
    E) Sunshine is just a good Christian geh that has too much of a pro-life personality to ask otherwise 😁
    Having eliminated everyone else but Sasha and J, I'll just go with my most familiar variable and say Sasha. I've read enough of her comments in the past to know it's right up her alley.

  5. There's nothing wrong in doing whichever one you GENUINELY want to do!
    I guess Sunshine asked the question.

  6. If funds are pooled from several donors then there is no stress on any pocket. It's not so much of an issue to crowd fund. I think the dicey part is when you have to part with properties and life savings to treat an aged/loved one who is down with a terminal or an aggressive illness where chances of survival are on the low. We all dread this situation but more often than not, the most rational decision is to provide palliative care. I'm sure that if a situation arises where people have to make a choice to donate either to a youth or an elderly for the treatment of, say cancer that people will opt for the younger person.
    Having made this point, I'll still go out of my way and do extreme things to keep my parents alive for as long as humanly possible so I hold nothing against the idea. However if I'm the aged person in the situation, I can't bear to let my family take financial hits and sell of properties to fund my treatment. I could still be very afraid to die but i will not resent them if I just get palliative care, honestly.

    P.S with the caveat that I end up in heaven 😆

  7. I think the power of life and death isnt ours to decide.

    I think Wale or Sasha asked.

    Wale first choice.

    He is very rational and Sasha controversial, even though she isnt one bit like her alter-ego in real life.

  8. Yes, it is right and sensible to crowd fund for an elderly's medical bill. With a loved one, you'd just want to do all it takes to ease their pain and keep them alive for longer in good health.


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