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Dear Thelma (Is There Something Wrong With Me?)

Thelma I'm a 25 year old graduate of a federal university here in nigeria. My birthday was only 3 weeks ago and it's the worst bit day I've ever experienced. I graduated at 22, served and got a job almost immediately as I was retained by the bank where I serve. I'm doing okay in my career and finance but I have never been in a relationship. My case is so bad that nobody has ever even approached me for a relationship. From secondary school I used to see my classmates getting spoilt during Valentine but my parents were strict and I didn't have male friends so I thought Uni would be different but it's so bad that it's like men don't even see me or notice me. By the way I'm very okay physically. I'm of a slim build and pretty face and above average height. Both my sisters have been in several relationships but I cannot even get one man to ask me for my number or ask me for a date. I even decided that I will make the first move sometimes but all the guys I tried it with made me to look stupid. As I am I cannot even find a guy to say please send me recharge card. My close friends and even my mum says it's not normal, everybody is advising me to go and do deliverance in MFM because I may have a spiritual husband. I am scared but I don't really believe it, but why is it that no man have ever even said hello to me for a friendship or relationship. At work I have both male and female friends, all my male friends always say that they cannot believe that I'm single but none of them ever ask me out. I am tired of loneliness, I am tired of seeing all my friends in relationship now getting engaged, some are married with kids. Please I need advise because I don't know what else to do. Thank you and God bless. 


  1. Well, maybe you should try prayers since what you're doing at the moment is not working. It might be time to try something else.

  2. Hian.biko you don't have any spiritual husband abeg, whoever God sets free is free indeed. We've also been redeemed by the curse of the law. You're just 23 darling, I guess your focus should be shifted at this point because it seems depression might be creeping in. Focus on what makes you happy, the right man will come along someday

  3. Do you socialise or even go out? Are you approachable? The way Nigerians call the devil in every matter ehn, even the guy must be tired. Lol at spiritual husband, my dear start going out and mixing properly with people and keep an open mind.

  4. I don't see much of an issue here. How do you relate to the opposite sex? What's your disposition - inviting, care-free or defensive? Are you friendly? QUESTION EVERYWHERE!

  5. This won't get much attention here. Try ask. So sorry and how u feel. It shall be well.

  6. I think it's spiritual, even girls who are ugly have numerous admirers, you need to pray and fast about it.

  7. F͟a͟s͟t͟ f͟o͟r͟ 7 d͟a͟y͟s͟ a͟n͟d͟ i͟n͟c͟l͟u͟d͟e͟ m͟i͟d͟n͟i͟g͟h͟t͟ p͟r͟a͟y͟e͟r͟s͟. R͟e͟a͟d͟ P͟s͟a͟l͟m͟ 51 b͟e͟f͟o͟r͟e͟ y͟o͟u͟ c͟o͟m͟m͟e͟n͟c͟e͟ t͟h͟e͟ m͟i͟d͟n͟i͟g͟h͟t͟ p͟r͟a͟y͟e͟r͟s͟. P͟r͟a͟y͟ f͟o͟r͟ G͟o͟d͟ t͟o͟ o͟p͟e͟n͟ y͟o͟u͟r͟ e͟y͟e͟s͟ a͟n͟ r͟e͟v͟e͟a͟l͟ s͟e͟c͟r͟e͟t͟ a͟n͟d͟ h͟i͟d͟d͟e͟n͟ t͟h͟i͟n͟g͟s͟ t͟o͟ y͟o͟u͟ c͟o͟n͟c͟e͟r͟n͟i͟n͟g͟ y͟o͟u͟r͟ l͟i͟f͟e͟. Y͟o͟u͟ c͟a͟n͟'t͟ f͟i͟g͟h͟t͟ a͟n͟ e͟n͟e͟m͟y͟ y͟o͟u͟ d͟o͟n͟'t͟ k͟n͟o͟w͟. B͟e͟ o͟p͟e͟n͟ t͟o͟ h͟e͟a͟r͟ f͟r͟o͟m͟ G͟o͟d͟ w͟h͟i͟l͟e͟ p͟r͟a͟y͟i͟n͟g͟ t͟h͟e͟n͟ w͟h͟e͟n͟ y͟o͟u͟ k͟n͟o͟w͟ w͟h͟a͟t͟ t͟h͟e͟ p͟r͟o͟b͟l͟e͟m͟ i͟s͟ y͟o͟u͟ c͟a͟n͟ c͟o͟m͟m͟e͟n͟c͟e͟ d͟i͟e͟ b͟y͟ f͟i͟r͟e͟ p͟r͟a͟y͟e͟r͟s͟ e͟t͟ a͟l͟.

  8. Poster, you and I are waiting to hear the kon theory.

  9. First, I want to say that prayer is good but the bible says faith without work is dead in itself.

    Put yourself out there, go out, join a society in church, look for a reason and invite people over, if u like a guy, find someone to introduce you, bump into guys, etc. If u want a change of your current situation you must change the current situation ( I don't know if that makes sense but I hope u get my drift). J

  10. I'm 25 too and not in a relationship, I have not been in one for about 7 yrs..I must admit that sometimes I get worried esp as everyone is getting engaged and married but then I don't believe anything is wrong with advice talk to God the way you have voiced this out and focus on what is working ( which is your career) meet people and socialise but you don't have to throw yourself around..God sure makes everything beautiful in His time. Pls visit @royalkidsgram where I share parenting tips


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