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To what extent should one's personal life affect/influence one's career? Should a man be fired from his job because he is physically abusive to his wife?

A blog reader asked this question yesterday based on a present real life situation. There is evidence of domestic violence in his home and now that his employers are in the know, his job is on the line. I discussed this with some friends and opinions were split. Some felt he should be fired for ethical reasons and for the sake of consequences, among other reasons. Some felt that one's personal life and work life are two separate entities that ought not collide in any way; employers should stay out of the matter except it's affecting his job directly.  Others had other other opinions besides these. 

So what are your own thoughts on this? 


  1. What is the employers business in the matter?

    All HR should do is talk to him, give him some counselling and warn him that if the domestic issue affects his job they would terminate his appointment. As long as it has not affected his job they shouldnt fire him.

    Many peeps do many unethical stuff. Should employers start firing people once they become aware of them? If Im a super performer at work and I do cocain during my free time and my HR manager happens to know about it, can she make a case for me to be fired? Hell naa! They will get sued big time!


    1. Every staff of an organization represents the brand of a company. Every company wants to be seen as being socially and morally equitable. Therefore bad reports with proof about any staff load is a concern for HR as it is a potential scandal tomorrow of which the company name may be linked. Case in point that Zenith bank manager that broke the leg of his ex wife.

    2. Thank you Chioma, you just saved me from typing all that.

  2. While I believe that ones personal life should be treated as such and is not in anyway synonymous to his/her work life. In most cases than not it ends up reflecting on the job. It's now the emoloyers duty to know If they want to let go now or later or just talk to the person. Case study a beautiful teacher who lives in the vicinity of the school she lives and does runs. Take into consideration that her students are in her environment. Some might even stay in her apartment. It's her business right, but somehow her behavior is rubbing off her students.

  3. Every organization has their policy but there is no law that binds a contract of employment with marital vows.HR can only advise the employee to put his house in order.He will only get fired if his marital issues starts to affect his performance at work and he doesn't improve after verbal and written warning.

  4. For the organization that I am with, it's your damn business if you use your wife's leg as a golf stick. The consequences kick in after your conviction because nobody wants a criminal in the organization.

  5. Employers try as much as possible to distance themselves from scandals. So when they keep you in their payroll, it is assumed they endorse whatever you did

  6. I think the organization has no right to sack the employee because of his personal life, as long as it doesn't have any effect on his output to the organization, what happens in his personal life, is his problem and the organization has no right to interfere.

  7. I think the organization has no right to sack the employee because of his personal life, as long as it doesn't have any effect on his output to the organization, what happens in his personal life, is his problem and the organization has no right to interfere.

  8. It is not the organisation's business except it affects his productivity and dent the image of the organisation.

  9. Most times the HR department in many organisation seeks both the career and personal development of members of staff, as each staff represent the company, as long as he is not putting the company in bad light or using company's time for his domestic or marital issues, there is really no way HR can wade into his marriage, using it as a stand to terminate his appointment. His appointment letter already contains grounds on which appointment could be terminated and I have strong reasons to doubt marital crises could be one of them.

  10. I am yet to form a solid opinion on this, i vacillate between the two but i go more to the side that it should not be a factor.

    If I am a powerful performer that always deliver why should some thing in my personal life influence my career. The only way it should affect as far as i am concerned is if it is criminal or i use my official post for personal gains.

    Yet, I also know that an organization also has their own image to protect too, so it is really dicey

    Another girl

  11. Abuse is subjective.
    Case 1 - Wife has been home all day with kids, cooks dinner. She is exhausted. Husband comes home and eats but will not help with dishes. Wifey reports to husband's employer that he's a bad husband, using her as a workhorse.
    Case 2 - Husband is always reluctant to go home because his wife nags, yells, and destroys property at home. Husband reports to wifey's employer that she's a bad wife.

    If the company is going to start meddling with domestic affairs, things will get extremely messy very quickly, and the company would become unproductive, because everyday they are figuring out whether a pepper and onions argument the couple had last night is worthy of giving them the sack.

    Bottom line is companies usually have a code of conduct that usually includes something on criminal convictions. Let the company allow the law enforcement and judicial system do their work, and know that if there is any serious domestic issue, it would be investigated as a criminal case.

    Tldr- it's not the company's business.


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