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Dear Thelma... (He Talks About Our Sex With His Friends...)

I have overheard my boyfriend gisting his friends about our sex life on two occasions. I really don't mind as most of it was flattering, like, at least he was telling him how good I am, I'm very tight and how I squirt etc. He was telling them that I have skills that nobody has shown him before, even how he cums too fast sometimes because the p****y is too good, and many other details that I will keep to myself to avoid tmi. His friends were telling him that he is lucky etc. I don't mind because both times he had only good things to say about me (he also talked about me being very smart and always giving him good advice etc). I love this guy with all my heart that it sometimes consumes me. I'm 27 and will like to settle down as soon as possible. He is 31 and I know he will like to get married soon too. My question is if he sees me as his wife will he share intimate details of our sex life with his friends, even to the point of describing my vag in details? I have not confronted him nor do I want to, I just want to know what you think. We have dated for almost 1 year and we didn't have sex for the first 6 months because I wanted to be sure that he loves me, ever since we started having sex he has gone more gaga over me because I know how to give it to him, but I'm also a very smart and lively lady that any man will be lucky to have. I know that he loves me but I have been worried because of this matter, as in his friends now know that my p is pink and how I moan and how I use my vaginal muscles to clench and squeeze. They even know the shape of my breast and how my nipple is. if I'm wifey then won't he keep our sex life private, or am I overthinking it?


  1. Hian! Why exactly is he telling his friends all these things? I'm confused. This your hobo has taken kiss and tell to a whole nother level. This is highly disrespectful i mean...

    1. Exactly. Kiss and Tell. Very disrespectful. But I'm surprised she doesn't find anything wrong with this.

    2. I echo your sentiments. Chrisyinks

    3. The part where she kept saying she doesn’t mind kept recurring in my head. I don’t even understand her not minding (all cos she thinks she’s a pro).

  2. Gurrrrrrllllll. WTF..that is totally UNACCEPTABLE...I'd be sooo embarrassed. It's okay making suggestive comments here and there about how good you are In the sac, but a sit down discussion going into details on the shape and structure of your vag with his friends ( lai sé biology class) is not cool at all...A 31 year old oo..not some kid that sex is still shacking...I don't really no what to tell you honestly....I'd feel more like a pleasure object than a girlfriend....but maybe I'm just being a prude 🤷🏾‍♀️

    1. you are not being a prude.............this is all shades of immature and irresponsible rolled into one, which makes him a complete idiot and the write a confused woman........

  3. Pls your bf is 31! Is his mouth leaking???? Nah. My face was just squeezing while reading this.. not because of you sis.. and if I were you Il be bothered. Like why will someone be talking about my body with his buddies. Even girls talk to their besties about their sex lives but what I’ve noticed with a bf they don’t go into full details except if the guy is just for sex only then we spill every detail.. but you might want to have a chat with this man to know where his head is at.

  4. Pls your bf is 31! Is his mouth leaking???? Nah. My face was just squeezing while reading this.. not because of you sis.. and if I were you Il be bothered. Like why will someone be talking about my body with his buddies. Even girls talk to their besties about their sex lives but what I’ve noticed with a bf they don’t go into full details except if the guy is just for sex only then we spill every detail.. but you might want to have a chat with this man to know where his head is at.

  5. The guy is immature,that should worry you more. Even if what you guys have going on is just about sex, a matured guy share details like that with other guys especially as you are not a random girl he slept with. Its disrespectful. I'm surprised you are not angry. J

  6. Just couldn't bring myself to type anything mehn, i just weak for this matter but please know that your concerns are valid.

    1. I share your sentiments Dear... I'm a bit numb.

  7. Perhaps he tells them in a bid to convince them (and himself) that he has a right choice in you? I cannot think of any other reason a man would divulge that much info about a man he is serious with. Whatever the case may be, it makes no sense and it is disrespectful. I doubt it would not continue in marriage. If you wouldn't want it in marriage, now is the time to have that conversation with him.


  8. This is not right by any standard.......nothing makes this okay, even for a mere fling


  9. Guys might talk but no to this extent. When I saw the heading I thought it was the normal talk of 'my girl is killing me and sex has been great', I no know say na better descriptive essay. Talk to him to stop it as it is making you uncomfortable.


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