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Do You Need Your Boyfriend's Permission To Cut Your Hair?





I saw this question on Linda Ikeji's blog a few months ago and did not think much of it until this morning. 

This morning I decided to wash my hair at home and had planned to condition it, for the first time ever with eggs, honey and olive oil. Yeah, up until this morning I've been trying to figure out if I'm going natural or I'm just stalling until my next relax. 

After I washed my hair I couldn't help but notice at the limp tips of the relaxed hair and compare it to the thick rich texture of my virgin hair. Without thinking twice I grabbed a pair of scissors and chopped the hair off.  

About an hour later when I was done with conditioning and drying, I stood in front of my mirror and it was classic case of expectation vs reality. 


I was confused for a few minutes. But what most confused me was what possessed me to chop my hair off. You see, my plan had been to wash my hair at home and then go to the salon to have it woven into two braids with hair extensions, but that had become utterly impossible as my hair was now too short to hold unto. 

Hmmm...

I stared at my face in the mirror and my face stared back at me, until we were both jolted into reality when my phone rang, the ring tone even louder in the enclosed bathroom. 

It was a friend, a boyfriend. 

"I'm not quite sure, I'd planned to go to the salon but me I don't know anymore. At this rate I'd probably go to a barbershop instead to get a proper haircut", I said when he asked what I was doing. 

"Err, yes, I just cut my hair", I said when I noticed he was confused. 

The conversation that followed had me fucked up. 

Apparently he had thought that this was something I should have first discussed with him, a decision I should not have made on my own. No, I did not need his permission but my failure to ask was a sign of disregard for his role in my life (or something like that...). 

Without saying too much, let me ask you what LIB asked a few months ago Ladies, Do You Need Your Boyfriend's Permission/Consent To Cut Your Hair? 

Guys, what's your take on this. If your lady unexpectedly shows up at home with a low cut where her hair had been long, would it upset you if she didn't first tell you about it? Yes, No? Why?


Haha! I'd thought I could rock my short hair with pride but for alas it's back to the wig life for me, so I called Iya Bisira from down the road to come plait my hair 😭😭.


Comments

  1. Thelma quick question, how many boyfriends do you have? πŸƒ

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    1. Hahaha. A boyfriend. 😝

      Oya come back and answer the question I asked. 😘

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  2. All I see is your skin, it's so lovely 😍😍😍
    I am not sure where I stand on informing your significant other before chopping off your hair. I feel it depends on who you are relating with. Personally, I would tell my boyfriend before cutting my hair, but it won't be because I need him to give me a go ahead, but to rather inform him, just like I would if I have a headache. To each his own anyway.
    BTW, I think you look great with the weaving.

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    1. Seconded.

      No need to type too much.

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  3. Thelma!!! That your expectation went through 'processes' na! You sef were too hard on your hair!πŸ˜‚.
    As to your question, my first reaction was "for what?!"πŸ™„, but I quickly remembered one time I was toying with a cut myself and how I 'casually' bounced the idea around severally with then BF just to be sure he was cool with it. I know for sure it had nothing to do with getting his permission. More like I was trying to be considerate of other people's preference (I also mentioned it to my sister, mum and BFF), even as I minimized the shock of seeing the change it'd have brought to my face.

    In future, I'll most likely still tell whoever is around before I cut my hair or make any other body/feature altering change. I like to they'd factor me in too in such matters.

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    1. This are my thoughts exactly. Though on some occasions I did some stuffs I didn't take anyone into account.

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  4. If your significant other was keeping his beard, do you think he will deem it an obligation to tell you before cutting it ? To me things like this are non issue, if I want I tell if I dont want I won't tell.

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  5. Informing him ahead of the deed is a good idea. Not quite asking permission or receiving consent, but I think he deserves an FYI.

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  6. Well not permission per see, but I think he should know.
    Imaging ur bf decides like a customer I know, to start relaxing his hair, and putting something that makes it look shinny always and hard I presume cos the thing looks like gel(I keep wondering what that man's wife thinks, a matured man with that kin hair)
    Anyways, u get my gist

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  7. Hello to all, it's really a pleasant for me to visit
    this site, it contains useful Information.

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  8. When I first cut my hair, I was with my ex, I just showed up one day with short dreads. (I cut and rolled it that day, spur of the moment decision, even me sef shocked myself)
    I cut my hair again recently, July. The hubby came back from work and saw me with short hair Mohawk style... He looked at me and shook his head, next thing he started hailing me that I actually look good. So nope i don't think informing is necessary I mean its just hair. When hubby started beard gang, i wasn't "informed" either, I just woke up one day and saw biabia everywhere lols. Its hair! Provided it suits you why should one make a public announcement before action? Me that cut my hair I didn't even inform myself, I just did it.

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  9. Nope, not at all. Gf is free to do whatever she likes with her hair. But she shouldn't seek admiration of her new hairstyle from me if I don't like it either. Chrisyinks

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  10. I went bald early this year, like scrapped my whole hair. I was bored. When i shared the pics on snap one guy said "Dee do and have a bf so you don't go making drastic decisions like this thinking it's cool". I was like what has bf got to do with it, he replied that if I was his gf he would never ever consent to me cutting my hair...
    I was in the talking phase with my current bf, the day he saw after I cut my hair he went "Wow dee, you look good but why didn't you tell me, like we were talking on the phone you could've mentioned it"
    He still makes reference to me making decisions about myself without involving him using the hair incidence as a number one example

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