I saw this question on Linda Ikeji's blog a few months ago and did not think much of it until this morning.
This morning I decided to wash my hair at home and had planned to condition it, for the first time ever with eggs, honey and olive oil. Yeah, up until this morning I've been trying to figure out if I'm going natural or I'm just stalling until my next relax.
After I washed my hair I couldn't help but notice at the limp tips of the relaxed hair and compare it to the thick rich texture of my virgin hair. Without thinking twice I grabbed a pair of scissors and chopped the hair off.
About an hour later when I was done with conditioning and drying, I stood in front of my mirror and it was classic case of expectation vs reality.
I was confused for a few minutes. But what most confused me was what possessed me to chop my hair off. You see, my plan had been to wash my hair at home and then go to the salon to have it woven into two braids with hair extensions, but that had become utterly impossible as my hair was now too short to hold unto.
I stared at my face in the mirror and my face stared back at me, until we were both jolted into reality when my phone rang, the ring tone even louder in the enclosed bathroom.
It was a friend, a boyfriend.
"I'm not quite sure, I'd planned to go to the salon but me I don't know anymore. At this rate I'd probably go to a barbershop instead to get a proper haircut", I said when he asked what I was doing.
"Err, yes, I just cut my hair", I said when I noticed he was confused.
The conversation that followed had me fucked up.
Apparently he had thought that this was something I should have first discussed with him, a decision I should not have made on my own. No, I did not need his permission but my failure to ask was a sign of disregard for his role in my life (or something like that...).
Without saying too much, let me ask you what LIB asked a few months ago Ladies, Do You Need Your Boyfriend's Permission/Consent To Cut Your Hair?
Guys, what's your take on this. If your lady unexpectedly shows up at home with a low cut where her hair had been long, would it upset you if she didn't first tell you about it? Yes, No? Why?
Haha! I'd thought I could rock my short hair with pride but for alas it's back to the wig life for me, so I called Iya Bisira from down the road to come plait my hair 😭😭.