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I'm very overwhelmed! I'm posting because it's the first of December and it seems only right to post. I have so much to say but words fail me, I miss the days of carefree blogging, thoughtless, seemingly free of consequences, the days of devoid of attention to monitoring spirits. I miss the days where I'd post and people I know would not call me to make enquiries about my post. 

It's the first of December. Yesterday I spent all day in bed, weak. Tired, actually. 

I put so much energy into a project. So much of my time, my resources, my focus. Most nights I even sacrificed my sleep 😤. And then yesterday I called someone to inform them that there's been a change in creative direction and then he said "oh, you weren't told...? They've handed the project to *insert big industry name that I have no idea how to even compete with*, they have commissioned them.... You didn't know?"  

That was humiliating af!

I wasn't sure how to respond, like, I simply mumbled and trailed off. 

The hours that followed had an ugly black cloud hanging over my head. 

You win some you lose some, I guess.  

This morning I woke up lighthearted, bright and breezy. Where this happiness came from I do don't know, I only pray that it lasts. 

Guys, I have no idea what's been happening. I deleted instagram from my phone several days ago as it had become a parasite, sapping my time and giving me nothing in return. I've had no time to check the blogs or the news either. So I have no idea what's happening in the world around me. 

A friend said Toke Makinwa is trending, something about dating a 70 year old man whose children have called her out for using their inheritance to buy Birkin bags, N50,000,000 Range Rover jeeps and business class tickets. 

Is this true? And why does Toke get called out by them, why don't they caution daddy instead? I think an intervention is in order, daddy needs an intervention...

But I hear the jury in the court of social media is mad as hell at Toke for misleading young girls in thinking that all that luxury and baby girl for life lifestyle is a result of selling a few books and being a media personality... They're mad because she wrote a book about her husband and his mistress when she's also someone's mistress. They're mad because off all the bible quotes and christian inspiration. Hehe. 

I don't even know what to say...

Welcome to December people!


  1. Does Toke's baba have a legal wife at home?

  2. I believe all is well. No matter what happens we would come out strong. Happy New month people.

  3. It'd be fine Thelma. So sorry about the loss of this project. Here's hoping this new month brings you glad tidings. Chrisyinks

  4. Sorry Thelma, just like you said,you will win some,you lose some. Yayyyyy! happy new month's my birth month(15th) and I am just thankful to God.

  5. It's not by Bible quotes, all this 'small girl, big God ' crooners. If I hear!!!

  6. Oh dear! Pele. Why did they have to wait till you called to ask you if you hadn't been told of a competitor being awarded contract for the project? I don't like that you spent so much time. Anyway there's no loss, you gained thought process, strategy, plan and creativity. So keep being lighthearted!

    I don't blame the Pa's children for calling out Toke, 1. She's the outsider there's more pain and anger towards the outsider than your person. When I was younger I used to think to myself, if my dad married someone else, she and I would never be friends even if she were holy Mary! I I were the Pa's child I could do this, even if I don't get them to quit, just to embarass them! Lol but then I'd be sorry for my mum, (she might feel embarrased too?) 2. I don't think they wouldn't have spoken to their father before the fallout. 3. If the allegation is true, there's a need for the fans to know that once again, she's tried to mislead them! I mean it's your life to cruise with the men but please stop preaching!

  7. Also those children might be scared of inheriting debt, I'd be, so anything to stop the affair! Before Pa would die after flexing omoge Toke and leaving them to pay his debt; they said he's in debt up to his neck! So imagine!

  8. I think I forgot to say thanks and welcome to December too Thelma da bebe! Ngwa bye!

  9. You'll be fine Thelma, God's got your covered and booked for greater things yet! I read some where the man is divorced, but what do I know? If the story is true that he rather than hardworking is what pays for her lifetysle, then I find it sad. People should always own their game, whatever it's name. Stay positive Tee, December will be awesome!

  10. Bigger opportunities will come your way mami and like CCCC rightly pointed out, although you lost this particular job, You gained more knowledge so, nothing spoil. It is well with you.

    I didn’t hear about Toke’s gist so I have nothing to contribute to that seeing as I dropped off the naija gossip radar a little over a year ago. But if it’s true, then the fans have a legitimate reason to be miffed..


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Just checking in to sign the register. Lol. It's been a very busy week and it looks like it might be an even busier weekend. I was hoping to get some writing done when I got to the airport yesterday but I even almost missed my flight. It was hopeless trying to do any work on the plane as it was bumpy af, and this toddler behind me wouldn't stop screaming in piercing shrieks like he was being exorcised. 
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He was my coursemate, crush, then my boyfriend.... he was super
intelligent, smart, tall, dark and handsome. Believe me he got
swag, but he didn't seem to notice me. (I'm a nerd but a sassy one
if I say so myself).  So oneday I decided to take it to another level..
After listening to a song "IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY TELL THEM THAT YOU
LOVE THEM and watching the season film of The Secret Life of
American Teenagers. ..when Amy Jeugerns mum told her "you are only
young once". LOL that part got me.
Hope you know what i mean?

Though I'm okay with chemistry class I approached him to coach me for
the Quiz that was coming up, we found out that we had this
great chemistry between us.. hehehe both the covalent and
electrovalent bonds....

So one thing led to another till one unusual Saturday. I invited
him to my house and he came. The guy got swag, he even came
with a packet of durex condom.
We talked for a while and and and and and and
See how you are serious dey read this story....!


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Is it true that EVERYBODY has a secret? 
Is there anyone here who doesn't have a secret? I'd really like to know; You're a completely open book and there's not ONE thing about you that you wouldn't mind other people knowing about? Please raise your hands up. 
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