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Giveaway Gone Wrong...

So i decided to do a small giveaway in my environs and it's ironic that the person who put it in my heart to do this giveaway (saw her roasting plantain on Christmas day and immediately decided to give something on New Year to women I saw doing similar jobs. The idea was to share the Christmas merriment). Well she didn't work on New Year's day when i did the deliveries so i kept her package which included a cake, a small bag of rice, vegetable oil and tinned tomatoes which i shared to about 30 women in all.

I was glad to find her working today so I stopped the car and came out to give her the package. At first she looked at me dubiously and then I explained with a grin; a Christmas present. "But Christmas has passed" she said with even more suspicion. I was confused about how to proceed, like should i just leave or force my bag of gifts into her hands? I decided to be patient, "It's just cake and rice, i just gave some people..." And i trailed off because I saw the look on her face and i was afraid to offend her. "Ok ma, but we have rice at home", she said and i could tell she felt insulted. Her husband had been sitting close by and immediately stepped in. He took the bag from me and thanked me profusely, clearly apologetic on his wife's behalf. I quickly rushed into the car and left.

The whole scenario got me thinking. Was I wrong to assume that because someone roasted plantain for a living she would need a "give away"? Was I presumptuous to expect her to appreciate it? I probably was and i feel bad. Anyways that's that...

Ps. My friends and family members who ate cake have called to ask me who baked it, it's really good and affordable too. If you're in Lagos and in need of this kind of service please call Seye on 08099441808. You get a good discount if you tell her you're from Thelma. 


  1. God bless you babe. Higher higher you will go. If you had gone without giving that woman that gift eh. hmmmm. The husband will call police for her hahahaha. On a serious note. You gave to God because bible said whosoever lendth to the poor lendth to God. Its God that rewards.

    Blessed is the hand that giveth than the hand that received.

  2. In my opinion, you weren't wrong Tee, you gave wholeheartedly and God saw your heart. As for your expectation well in my opinion kindness, empathy and selflessness are acts of faith not an exchange.
    Happy new year fellow blog readers, I wish y'all God's choicest.

  3. Wow.. That was rude of her,even if she has everything and more you brought, she should have still appreciated it because so many people out there looking for such but didn't get.. Don't be offended T and don't allow people of her likes make you stop being you.. Stay blessed Nne

  4. Happy New year everyone! Babe I know how you feel, It's happened to me before and I felt stupid.. she may be the proud type or just doesn't know how to Express her feelings ..

  5. You can't blame her.... There's too much happening now. I'd send you a message on WhatsApp, may be you'd understand better.

  6. Thelma you did the right thing,the reality of today has made everyone edgy about collecting things from strangers. If I were you,the next time I drive past her stall I would stop and have a little convo with her and also patronize her. I think she will warm up to you.

    P.S you have a good heart and nothing should stop you from giving.

  7. "OK ma but we have rice at home"... Loools. I would have entered the ground right there if it were me 🙈🙈🙈

  8. That cake is yummy. We don't need to need something to appreciate. I remember when the gardener in my former office gave me a carton of malt wrapped nicely during Christmas, i appreciated it more than the hampers i got. The fact he remembered to buy a gift made me so happy. I use to get bags of rice which ended up in the church but i still appreciated each.So don't stop giving, if the receiver does not appreciate, it is their problem. J

  9. However i must add,because times are bad, people are suspicious of everything even kind gestures. Her attitude might not stem from the fact that she does not need the gifts but from her inbuilt distrust of generous strangers. J

  10. She was simply suspicious of the gift. Nigerians have gotten cynical about even the most sincere of intentions. Meanwhile you could have sent me the rice. Lol. I would have gladly accepted it with the utmost gratitude.

  11. She's being a typical Nigerian i suppose.
    Your patience is very commendable T. Welldone. Your reward is obviously not from her so kindly forget what transpired.

  12. To think i did the same thing the woman did to someone yesterday. It is just really setting in that i must have made the person uncomfortable just because of pride.

    Dear Miss S, I am very sorry for my attitude yesterday, thanks for the gesture.

  13. Thelma, actually in my line of work, Its often not safe handing out gifts to people with assumptions that they are in need.

    Some people may be poor but are very content with their lives, while some are very cautious accepting gifts from strangers no matter how kind and noble.

    In her case she was just being super conscious and who can blame her with the way Nigeria has become.



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