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I Don't Arrange Chairs And Tables For a Living!

I'd be shocked if anyone gets to read this, I've been so absent here that I'd be legit surprised if anyone still opens the blog. But in the event that you still do, here's me saying hi hello how are you? 

How is January going? Mine is going great, business is looking good and promising. Some days ago I got a paycheck for a job I was working on in 2017, which I told you all got snatched from me and handed to one of the industry greats. Thankfully this client happens to be conscientious and ethical and out of the blues he called me up and asked for my account details so that he could pay me for the job I'd done. I wasn't expecting to hear back from him since I hadn't eventually handled the event and he wasn't legally bound to pay me anything, but one beautiful afternoon after faithfully committing it in God's hands, I received a huge bank alat! I was so stunned and ecstatic that I nearly cried from joy! I was also encouraged to keep pushing. 

I'm working on a number of things and I'm very optimistic about them all. Not because I have blind faith, but because for the first time, I'm being very deliberate and strategic about my businesses.

One of these businesses is my Events Management company. So a few days back a friend of my brother in law visited; one of those people who ask you to send them your CV and actually never open it. So this guy shows up and is acting all upset that I never called him to follow up with him on the job search. Err, I should point out that I never told him I wanted this job as I'm never going to work in a law firm again, and that's the kind of work he was trying to impose on me. I believe that at this point in my life I should know what I want to do. Unfortunately he and my BIL are from that generation that believes that if you're not working behind a desk in an office from Monday to Friday then you're throwing your life away. 

He said to me "Why haven't you called me to follow up? Any way I'm not surprised, I heard you don't want to work. I heard you don't want to do anything". 

I told him to give me a second and then minutes later I sat down with him and my BIL to talk. I told them I never asked them to help me with a job, I never told them I want to practice law, I reminded them that I do fine on my own, having never depended on them or any family member for money in well over 5 years. 

"Ok, you do business, fine. What business do you do?"

"First off, I'm still a lawyer. I make money from real estate, I still make money from drawing legal agreements for people, I still handle the corporate aspect of people's businesses and start-ups, on a smaller scale I make decent money from company registrations, incorporations etc at CAC. I have an events company and..."

"Events. Event planner. Something illiterates do! Do you know what event planning is?" He asked my brother in law "people that go and arrange chair and table in parties" he said and gave me a condescending look. 

I could feel my blood boil but I knew that I would achieve nothing by getting upset, I would only appear more childish to them than I already did. So I took a few breaths to calm myself. 

"You have it all wrong, sir. Last year I planned at least 5 events, three of these were corporate events; conferences. I didn't just plan events but as a lawyer drafted brilliant proposals to corporate giants and HNIs. One of these proposals raised over 10,000,000 Naira for one of the said events. I'm on the board of trustees for two NGOs and besides the revenue I get from them, my events company also has a retainership with each one to manage all functions; launches, exhibitions, fundraisers and the likes. Yes, I plan social events, weddings and parties but the quality of my work sets me apart from the people you claim arrange chairs and tables. This month alone I've sat down in my room and received credit alerts without lifting a finger. I cannot say that for many of my counterparts working behind desks". 

He and my BIL were speechless. His condescension was replaced with naked admiration. Immediately his tune changed. 

"Yes it's true, you don't even have to go to court. I have friends up there in the legal profession and they have all these big lawyer functions. I can introduce you to some of them so that you can be working for them and also start hobnobbing with such people" he said. 

"Yes and while you're at it, since you have so many big friends, I'm also open to handling contracts. I did a supply job for a government agency in December, I supplied them with rice. I'm looking for more of these so please, rather than ask your big friends to employ me in their offices, get them to give me contracts. I have food on the fire, I will call you later to talk more"

And that ended that. He has called me a couple of times since then, "Just to say hello". 😒

My people, there's no room for dulling this year. Take pride in what you do, don't let anybody belittle your work and also strive to do better. 

I'm sorry if I don't have so much time to blog these days, I'm just trying to get that money and build a good life for myself. 

How has your January been?

Please I'm more than open to your posts and submissions. If you're interested please call or send me an email. If you need incentive, I'm open to us working out something reasonable. Cheers!


  1. Hello.... Chrisyinks

    1. Haha! Hello Chrisyinks. Always a pleasure 😊

  2. Hiya Tee.. I haven't been here this year.

    January has been good.. I think the month is flying by but my sis thinks otherwise.

  3. You're backkk! Yaay!
    Don't do this to us again o (IE go AWOL)

    Great to know your 2018 is going great!
    Trusting God and keeping fingers crossed that God will crown my efforts too.


  4. Haha at arrange tables and chairs. Sometimes people just spew off at the mouth though.
    Sameways someone told me I was a housewife with nothing to contribute to a topic. When he was done talking I listed my credentials for him and told him I was a work from home mom and wife.

    Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. - Eleanor Roosevelt.

  5. Good to read from you again T. Your absence is gradually becoming permanent after "monitoring spirits" took it up a notch (i don't think it's about "time")😢.
    My January has been great, glad it is for you too.

  6. Hi Tee,welcome back.

  7. Hello Thelma, nice things are great. May this year birth all that you desire and more

  8. I like this kind of "illiterate" business that gets you alerts without lifting a finger.

    "Illiterate" jobs fall on me 2018. Amen? 😁

  9. People that go and arrange chair and chair @ parties. Kikikikiki. Kuku killi me.
    Nwando, jirikwa nwayo. Don't gradually kill the blog

  10. Hello, I just want to say I'm always here.

    Have a fantastic year.

  11. Hi Thelma. Would always visit your blog any day. Yes people of the older generation don't always seem to get that sitting behind desks isn't the only way to make money. One of my male friends is presently going through issues at home because after successfully going through medical school which was his parents idea in the first place he doesn't want to practise. And already his parents are "finalising" where he would work. An argument ensued and his mom is downright manipulating and blackmailing him. All because what he actually wants to do is media/entertainment. This is going to be the reality of Nigeria for a while. My mom can't fathom someone making a living from photography. Overall, it's mostly likely because you're already making substantial profit from what you do that they listened. If you were still at the early stages they would have bullied you into having second thoughts and doubts.

  12. Good to see things working out, May more doors open and may open doors remain opened.

    Another girl.

  13. There's nothing my Mom didnt tell me when i first started my business... She yabbed me and kept saying really annoying stuff about it being better that i'm a teacher in a school that pays its teachers like 10k instead of cutting fabric up and down till she went for an event and they were talking of me, she was like that's my daughter and they were like wow! Really.... With so much admiration and then she attended my exhibitions, saw blog posts, etc.. She now prays for my business, helps me out and doesnt stop advertising for me. It wasnt easy but it drove me to do better plus my dad is very supportive. Now she understands when i say i'm working and i'm online.


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